The Silent Moment During Marriage

[AdeptCharge]

Would you cause an uproar ??? If you knew of an impediment, but yet have been invited in good faith. "If any person here present knows of any reason why this couple may not be joined in holy matrimony, then let them speak now, or forever hold their peace". Would you be a criminal

[GoldenRivet]

I suppose that depends upon whos getting married.

if it were my best friend? I'd speak up if i had a good enough reason.

If it were some random dude... I'd stay quiet and let him learn it the hard way

[FIREWALL]

If the wedding was boring ? What the hell...

[AdeptCharge]

No I disagree, then you are criminal. This is flawed.

[Sailor Steve]

How is that criminal?

[kiwi_2005]

I have no idea what #1 is meaning!

Back to the cave for me.

[Sledgehammer427]

I've seen these "western" style weddings where someone jumps up and says "I DO!" and then the groom pulls a revolver and caps the guy who said otherwise.
It's all an act of course but hey, it gave me a couple ideas.

in all honesty I think that GR holds a point. if you have a valid reason that they shouldn't be married then speak up. if you don't, then don't

[bookworm_020]

Originally Posted by Sailor Steve

How is that criminal?

The murder that would occur by make any false statements at that time!

People do speak up, the minister I know said it happened to him once, the bride, groom and speaker went with him into a side room and had a quick conversation, a short time later all emerged and the wedding went ahead.

The other one I remember being told about was when the minister asked if there was anyone who had a reason and a little old lady stood up and made her way forward. The bride and groom were both looking at each other and the lady and wondering what was up.
The old dear made her way to the front then sat down, it turns out she had a hard time hearing, so she moved closer to the front!

[AdeptCharge]

Originally Posted by Sailor Steve

How is that criminal?

Am I (we) to take it, therefore that if I (we) know of an impediment which would nulify the solemnisation of the contract , let us say example : that the bride were the grooms brothers deceased sons widow, persuant to the marriage act, that I (we) would not be legally required to disclose said information to the registrar?? Surely then, the marriage even upon our silence would be a criminal act, to which we would be party. Furthermore, what if a presently unknown impediment presents itself to me (us) at some point in the future, this subject matter is not covered in the vicars statement.

[AdeptCharge]

just a thought but may I suggest that a far less equivocal couching of the pertinent premises would be as follows, : any person who knows , or subsequently ascertains information which could lead to a disolution of the matrimonial contract is required by law to : a) inform the registrar directly, or b) inform the registrar and the police directly, or at the earliest opportunity, and in any event, within 24 hours of disclosure.. all said being effective without constraint of time or vitality of either partner.

[ETR3(SS)]

Originally Posted by AdeptCharge

...let us say example : that the bride were the grooms brothers deceased sons widow...

I don't know what country you live in, but in the US if you're a widow/have been widowed you are free to marry whoever you please.

[Betonov]

If it were that important I'd proabibly tell it before the wedding, not wait the last moment. But still, when people are in love they are irational. If I had good reasons to stop the marriage I doubt the groom/bride would listen to me. Start yelling about being jelaous bla bla bla... Just let them learn the hard way and bask in the glory of saying: I told you so

[Rockstar]

If you are questioning it now then deal with it now. Waiting until they get up to the alter is criminal. It would only cause undue harm and embarrassment to the whole wedding party.

[Herr-Berbunch]

If it were a true friend then you shouldn't have let it get that far before saying something. If, on the other hand, you aren't that great a friend - what are you doing at their wedding?

Still, it makes for some funny situations in films/tv.

[AdeptCharge]

Originally Posted by ETR3(SS)

I don't know what country you live in, but in the US if you're a widow/have been widowed you are free to marry whoever you please.

The first part would be correct, as I did not specify my location and present co-ordinates. However I will merely outline the facts which have prompted my response to you. There exists a possibility of truth to being free to marry being (widow/widowed) in your current, correct locus and country, but I fail to comprehend why you did not state a legal minimum age In view of this fact, at this juncture I believe said above remark "free to marry whoever you please" to be incorrect

Originally Posted by Rockstar

If you are questioning it now then deal with it now. Waiting until they get up to the alter is criminal. It would only cause undue harm and embarrassment to the whole wedding party.

No, I am not questioning now. I started the thread at approximately 04.56 am Greenwich mean time, and the question thread was indeed the object of my presence in this GT forum. "Deal with it now" I do not want to, as I am not questioning it now, there was no pre requisition of acquiescence conditional upon reading it, I would imagine the question remains on its own as the duration of the thread demands.

Originally Posted by Herr-Berbunch

If it were a true friend then you shouldn't have let it get that far before saying something. If, on the other hand, you aren't that great a friend - what are you doing at their wedding?

"IF" there is no mention of strength or lack of to ones friendship, perhaps a family member etc I did not specify, I can only conclude in my opinion which may not be accurate, the logical explanation would be to not attend, but instinct tells me some may have a differing opinion on this subject, am I correct