The Silent Moment During Marriage

ETR3(SS) · 10-20-10, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by AdeptCharge

...let us say example : that the bride were the grooms brothers deceased sons widow...

I don't know what country you live in, but in the US if you're a widow/have been widowed you are free to marry whoever you please.

Betonov · 10-20-10, 07:24 AM

If it were that important I'd proabibly tell it before the wedding, not wait the last moment. But still, when people are in love they are irational. If I had good reasons to stop the marriage I doubt the groom/bride would listen to me. Start yelling about being jelaous bla bla bla... Just let them learn the hard way and bask in the glory of saying: I told you so

Rockstar · 10-20-10, 07:46 AM

If you are questioning it now then deal with it now. Waiting until they get up to the alter is criminal. It would only cause undue harm and embarrassment to the whole wedding party.

Herr-Berbunch · 10-20-10, 07:49 AM

If it were a true friend then you shouldn't have let it get that far before saying something. If, on the other hand, you aren't that great a friend - what are you doing at their wedding?

Still, it makes for some funny situations in films/tv.

AdeptCharge · 10-20-10, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by ETR3(SS)

I don't know what country you live in, but in the US if you're a widow/have been widowed you are free to marry whoever you please.

The first part would be correct, as I did not specify my location and present co-ordinates. However I will merely outline the facts which have prompted my response to you. There exists a possibility of truth to being free to marry being (widow/widowed) in your current, correct locus and country, but I fail to comprehend why you did not state a legal minimum age

In view of this fact,

at this juncture I believe said above remark "free to marry whoever you please" to be incorrect

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Originally Posted by Rockstar

If you are questioning it now then deal with it now. Waiting until they get up to the alter is criminal. It would only cause undue harm and embarrassment to the whole wedding party.

No, I am not questioning now.

I started the thread at approximately 04.56 am Greenwich mean time, and the question thread was indeed the object of my presence in this GT forum. "Deal with it now" I do not want to, as I am not questioning it now, there was no pre requisition of acquiescence conditional upon reading it, I would imagine the question remains on its own as the duration of the thread demands.

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Originally Posted by Herr-Berbunch

If it were a true friend then you shouldn't have let it get that far before saying something. If, on the other hand, you aren't that great a friend - what are you doing at their wedding?

"IF" there is no mention of strength or lack of to ones friendship, perhaps a family member etc I did not specify, I can only conclude in my opinion which may not be accurate, the logical explanation would be to not attend, but instinct tells me some may have a differing opinion on this subject, am I correct

Herr-Berbunch · 10-20-10, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by AdeptCharge

"IF" there is no mention of strength or lack of to ones friendship, perhaps a family member etc I did not specify, I can only conclude in my opinion which may not be accurate, the logical explanation would be to not attend, but instinct tells me some may have a differing opinion on this subject, am I correct

You are correct, there are differing opinions on this subject, and in fact every subject ever! Even indesputable facts have their contradictors, such as 'subsim is the best forum, ever' by me, becomes 'that bloody website again!' by Frau Berbunch

ETR3(SS) · 10-20-10, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by AdeptCharge

The first part would be correct, as I did not specify my location and present co-ordinates. However I will merely outline the facts which have prompted my response to you. There exists a possibility of truth to being free to marry being (widow/widowed) in your current, correct locus and country, but I fail to comprehend why you did not state a legal minimum age

In view of this fact,

at this juncture I believe said above remark "free to marry whoever you please" to be incorrect

I left out minimum age for several reasons. First, each state has their own law regarding this with Kentucky being the youngest at 14 I believe. Second, age has not been mentioned as a factor until now, therefor there was no need to discuss it. And third, if someone is a widow that means they met any age requirements for where they were married, making age irrelevant.

AdeptCharge · 10-20-10, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ETR3(SS)

I left out minimum age for several reasons. First, each state has their own law regarding this with Kentucky being the youngest at 14 I believe. Second, age has not been mentioned as a factor until now, therefor there was no need to discuss it. And third, if someone is a widow that means they met any age requirements for where they were married, making age irrelevant.

No, you are mistaken, valid point to each state, as to the widow she is no longer relevant at this juncture, it is quote "free to marry whoever you please" meaning another party, whom could have been or is under age, you failed to specify. please refer to post 11.

Spike88 · 10-20-10, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by ETR3(SS)

I left out minimum age for several reasons. First, each state has their own law regarding this with Kentucky being the youngest at 14 I believe. Second, age has not been mentioned as a factor until now, therefor there was no need to discuss it. And third, if someone is a widow that means they met any age requirements for where they were married, making age irrelevant.

I was under the impression you could marry someone of any age if you had parental consent.

But apparently I'm wrong, some states have a minimum age, others do not. The lowest is New Hampshire with the age of 13. Although Arkansas apparently doesn't have a minimum age.
http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm

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Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	If it were a true friend then you shouldn't have let it get that far before saying something. If, on the other hand, you aren't that great a friend - what are you doing at their wedding? Still, it makes for some funny situations in films/tv. __________________

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Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	If it were that important I'd proabibly tell it before the wedding, not wait the last moment. But still, when people are in love they are irational. If I had good reasons to stop the marriage I doubt the groom/bride would listen to me. Start yelling about being jelaous bla bla bla... Just let them learn the hard way and bask in the glory of saying: I told you so

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Rockstar In the Brig Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Zendia Bar & Grill Posts: 12,614 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	If you are questioning it now then deal with it now. Waiting until they get up to the alter is criminal. It would only cause undue harm and embarrassment to the whole wedding party.