Parenting Question; 20+ but doesn't want to leave

Shady Bill · 10-19-22, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by mapuc

This makes it easier for you, even it gonna hurt.

Arrange a family meeting where you explain for your kids that they have 6 month to find them a home of the own-Cause now you want to live the rest of your life with your wife alone

And you could add that you and you wife(Better have a talk with her first about this) has been planning on selling the house and buy a smaller one.

That is what I would do-It would hurt me in my hearts.
Markus

Sort of like an intervention? Hmmm might be good idea...

Worse of all, my wife promotes this behavior. She *loves* that the kids want to stay with their parents, and all the family events and such.

Skybird · 10-19-22, 02:53 PM

Careful with smashing porcellaine prematurely and maybe unnecessarily. First find out what the motivation of her is, her medium-time plan.

And dont tell her you want her to move out because you want to sell the hpouse, if you dont. The loss of trust may hurt your inner-fmaily relaitons for loign time, maybe forever. In families, one should not lie to the other, its the family...!

Shady Bill · 10-19-22, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Skybird

And dont tell her you want her to move out because you want to sell the hpouse,

Oh I would never sell my property.

I just want to live on my property, with my wife. Like it was before kids.

Adult kids in the house is weird after a while.

Shady Bill · 10-19-22, 03:02 PM

Did you know men will ask girls to become engaged to get married, while both people still live at home! Did you know this goes on in the US? Does it elsewhere?

mapuc · 10-19-22, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Shady Bill

Did you know men will ask girls to become engaged to get married, while both people still live at home! Did you know this goes on in the US? Does it elsewhere?

I can only speak for myself here.

If I had a daughter age 23 still living at home with me and my wife and she is getting married-
Then I would say to her kindly..
Sweetheart you are getting married now. A new door opens for you and your husband
I think you two should live this life of your own-Find a little house where you can live and raise your children.

Markus

mapuc · 10-19-22, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Shady Bill

Sort of like an intervention? Hmmm might be good idea...

Worse of all, my wife promotes this behavior. She *loves* that the kids want to stay with their parents, and all the family events and such.

It is of course very important that your kids doesn't feel they aren't welcome after they leave your home to live by their own.

It's important they know they are always welcome, but it is time for them to stand on their own legs.

I would say that you have a person to person talk with your wife-Where you explain for her what your standpoint is and you are planning on "Kicking" them out.

I could be wrong in my ideas-I'm a loner have never been married or does not have kids.
So it's easy for me sitting here and give advice.

I hope you will find another man with same problem and how he/they solved it.

Markus

10-19-22, 02:53 PM	#2
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,634 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	Careful with smashing porcellaine prematurely and maybe unnecessarily. First find out what the motivation of her is, her medium-time plan. And dont tell her you want her to move out because you want to sell the hpouse, if you dont. The loss of trust may hurt your inner-fmaily relaitons for loign time, maybe forever. In families, one should not lie to the other, its the family...! __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

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Shady Bill Silent but not deadly Join Date: Oct 2022 Location: Somewhere north of AN34 Posts: 171 Downloads: 16 Uploads: 0	Did you know men will ask girls to become engaged to get married, while both people still live at home! Did you know this goes on in the US? Does it elsewhere?