Trials of Life

Herr-Berbunch · 08-06-15, 02:30 PM

I've been AWOL for a bit, sorry. The wife and I have decided to call it a day and on Sunday I moved back to dear mater and pater's - fortunately they have a caravan near Skegness that they spend most of the summer at, they've been back for a night to do a bit of washing and gone again.

The reason? I've been a bit of a git. A young lady and I have been in contact and the wife found a few texts - nothing bad in those other than the fact they were late night or early morning and whilst only a few words in each it implied that we were chatting by other means.

What does it mean for me? No idea. I thought our relationship was not bad, but not great, just middle of the road but since getting booted I've slept soundly, I've not shed a tear, and I don't want to go back. As for my daughter, I'm missing about 10 minutes in the mornings with her, but I'm seeing her straight after work until her bedtime and that time has become more involved - not just head in a book or staring at a screen (no offence to anyone currently staring at this screen!).

Any future with the aforementioned young lady? I doubt it, I think she was just a vessel to break the marriage.

I'm sure a lot of you here will disapprove, including me. I never saw this coming, and this isn't how I ever envisaged splitting (I don't know if I even did envisage splitting!). However, I'm sure Dowly will approve as she's a blonde, 24, 34GG.

He can have a pic if he asks nicely.

On the up side, I've now got my parents' password for the WiFi so will be back on here with avengence.

Oberon · 08-06-15, 03:00 PM

Approve or disapprove, we're all human. It's a shame that you and your wife have split up, but there is life on the other side. At least you've worked something out with your daughter, that can be the hardest thing in any break-up. I've seen two relationships go down the toilet, and trying to work out why is probably one of the hardest things about it, but it happens, the love goes out of a relationship and eventually the friendship isn't enough and things just drift apart.
I just hope that you and her are able to sort all things out amicably and able to go forward as best as possible.

Herr-Berbunch · 08-06-15, 03:11 PM

I've seen the way she bent over backwards to be equal with her ex-husband, who was just an arse the whole time. I plan on being as equal, but without being the arse. At least with that relationship it was her that finished it, this time it's me, well technically it's her as she asked me to leave and said there would be no way back, but you know what I mean.

Thanks for your words Jamie, means a lot, I appear to have alienated most around here.

Aktungbby · 08-06-15, 03:13 PM

wha...!!!YOU DIDN'T EVEN TRY TO TELL HER IT'S JUST A BLUE MOON THING!

u crank · 08-06-15, 03:29 PM

Don't sweat it HB. It happens. It happens a lot. The best you can do is to remain on reasonably good terms for your daughters sake. Wishing you all the best.

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Originally Posted by Oberon

Approve or disapprove, we're all human.

QFT.

Betonov · 08-06-15, 03:56 PM

Sorry to hear that.
You know where to find me. I already gained trust about such matters from two other members.

Herr-Berbunch · 08-06-15, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Betonov

Sorry to hear that.
You know where to find me. I already gained trust about such matters from two other members.

Ah yes, I remember you telling me.

Haha, just kidding.

Somewhere near Jesenice, flights in to Ljubjlana then just walk north till it gets a bit hilly. Need my passport renewing first though

Betonov · 08-06-15, 04:29 PM

Northwest though, just before the Ljubljana basin narrows into the upper Sava valley is a line of villages on the sunny side of a mountain range.

CCIP · 08-06-15, 04:44 PM

Over time, I've realized that it's important to learn to accept that people change - but what's more, sometimes it's not just people but you that changes over time, and that's alright too. It's often a lot harder to notice that about yourself, and hey, if someone or something else helps clue you into it, I suppose that's a blessing.

We're just glad to have you around!

Oberon · 08-06-15, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Betonov

Northwest though, just before the Ljubljana basin narrows into the upper Sava valley is a line of villages on the sunny side of a mountain range.

Just keep going until you see this:

Stealhead · 08-06-15, 08:51 PM

If you see Aussie SAS(or maybe Brit SAS in Malaya) in 1966 Vietnam I'd say its probably a good time to call it a night.

Sailor Steve · 08-06-15, 09:06 PM

Wow, Tony. I've wondered where you've been. While sad, these things happen. There is no approval or disapproval, especially when we don't really know each other at all, as much as we might think we do. We make mistakes. Sometimes it's in the parting and sometimes it's in the getting together in the first place.

I wish the best for both of you, but most of all your daughter.

Tchocky · 08-06-15, 09:06 PM

It's all in where you go from here and how you approach the next day. You seem to have your head well screwed on about it, so best of luck mate.

Ain't nothing wrong with a change.

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A little revolution now and then is a healthy thing, don't you think?

fireftr18 · 08-06-15, 10:17 PM

Prayers from me that you get everything sorted out and things end up working well. Good luck with events. Be sure to stay close to your daughter, she's the most precious thing in your life.

BossMark · 08-06-15, 11:27 PM

I sorry to hear that Tony, have a good shoulder to cry on if needed, and I am good for a pint or 3

08-06-15, 02:30 PM	#1
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	Trials of Life I've been AWOL for a bit, sorry. The wife and I have decided to call it a day and on Sunday I moved back to dear mater and pater's - fortunately they have a caravan near Skegness that they spend most of the summer at, they've been back for a night to do a bit of washing and gone again. The reason? I've been a bit of a git. A young lady and I have been in contact and the wife found a few texts - nothing bad in those other than the fact they were late night or early morning and whilst only a few words in each it implied that we were chatting by other means. What does it mean for me? No idea. I thought our relationship was not bad, but not great, just middle of the road but since getting booted I've slept soundly, I've not shed a tear, and I don't want to go back. As for my daughter, I'm missing about 10 minutes in the mornings with her, but I'm seeing her straight after work until her bedtime and that time has become more involved - not just head in a book or staring at a screen (no offence to anyone currently staring at this screen!). Any future with the aforementioned young lady? I doubt it, I think she was just a vessel to break the marriage. I'm sure a lot of you here will disapprove, including me. I never saw this coming, and this isn't how I ever envisaged splitting (I don't know if I even did envisage splitting!). However, I'm sure Dowly will approve as she's a blonde, 24, 34GG. He can have a pic if he asks nicely. On the up side, I've now got my parents' password for the WiFi so will be back on here with avengence. __________________

08-06-15, 03:11 PM	#3
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	I've seen the way she bent over backwards to be equal with her ex-husband, who was just an arse the whole time. I plan on being as equal, but without being the arse. At least with that relationship it was her that finished it, this time it's me, well technically it's her as she asked me to leave and said there would be no way back, but you know what I mean. Thanks for your words Jamie, means a lot, I appear to have alienated most around here. __________________

08-06-15, 03:13 PM	#4
Aktungbby Gefallen Engel U-666 Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: On a tilted, overheated, overpopulated spinning mudball on Collision course with Andromeda Galaxy Posts: 30,009 Downloads: 24 Uploads: 0	wha...!!!YOU DIDN'T EVEN TRY TO TELL HER IT'S JUST A BLUE MOON THING! __________________ "Only two things are infinite; The Universe and human squirrelyness?!!

08-06-15, 04:44 PM	#9
CCIP Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Waterloo, Canada Posts: 8,700 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 2	Over time, I've realized that it's important to learn to accept that people change - but what's more, sometimes it's not just people but you that changes over time, and that's alright too. It's often a lot harder to notice that about yourself, and hey, if someone or something else helps clue you into it, I suppose that's a blessing. We're just glad to have you around! __________________ There are only forty people in the world and five of them are hamburgers. -Don Van Vliet (aka Captain Beefheart)

08-06-15, 09:06 PM	#12
Sailor Steve Eternal Patrol Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: High in the mountains of Utah Posts: 50,369 Downloads: 745 Uploads: 249	Wow, Tony. I've wondered where you've been. While sad, these things happen. There is no approval or disapproval, especially when we don't really know each other at all, as much as we might think we do. We make mistakes. Sometimes it's in the parting and sometimes it's in the getting together in the first place. I wish the best for both of you, but most of all your daughter. __________________ “Never do anything you can't take back.” —Rocky Russo

08-06-15, 03:00 PM	#2
Oberon Lucky Jack Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 25,976 Downloads: 61 Uploads: 20	Approve or disapprove, we're all human. It's a shame that you and your wife have split up, but there is life on the other side. At least you've worked something out with your daughter, that can be the hardest thing in any break-up. I've seen two relationships go down the toilet, and trying to work out why is probably one of the hardest things about it, but it happens, the love goes out of a relationship and eventually the friendship isn't enough and things just drift apart. I just hope that you and her are able to sort all things out amicably and able to go forward as best as possible.

08-06-15, 03:56 PM	#6
Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear that. You know where to find me. I already gained trust about such matters from two other members.

08-06-15, 04:29 PM	#8
Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	Northwest though, just before the Ljubljana basin narrows into the upper Sava valley is a line of villages on the sunny side of a mountain range.

08-06-15, 08:51 PM	#11
Stealhead Navy Seal Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Kentucky Posts: 5,421 Downloads: 85 Uploads: 0	If you see Aussie SAS(or maybe Brit SAS in Malaya) in 1966 Vietnam I'd say its probably a good time to call it a night.

08-06-15, 10:17 PM	#14
fireftr18 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,528 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 0	Prayers from me that you get everything sorted out and things end up working well. Good luck with events. Be sure to stay close to your daughter, she's the most precious thing in your life. __________________ Of all the forms of Martial Arts, Karaoke causes the most pain!

08-06-15, 11:27 PM	#15
BossMark Fleet Admiral Join Date: May 2011 Location: Leeds, West Yorkshire Posts: 15,272 Downloads: 278 Uploads: 0	I sorry to hear that Tony, have a good shoulder to cry on if needed, and I am good for a pint or 3 __________________ Never trust the Tories look what Thatcher and Major did in the 80s and 90s and look what the wicked witch May is doing now doing now