Thank you all for your support

Penguin · 06-20-11, 09:29 AM

Sorry to hear about your loss, Frau! I wish you and your relatives much strength for the next days. All my best wishes!

frau kaleun · 06-20-11, 07:21 PM

I know I've said it before but it bears repeating: thanks again to everyone here for all your kindness and support. It really does mean a lot and as always I'm continually impressed by the level of camaraderie and genuine goodwill that prevails here. It really is a thing of beauty and everyone involved from Neal on down needs to pat themselves on the back at least once a day for being a part of what makes Subsim the great community that it is.

So... she's in the ground as of this morning, next to dad. I looked at my sister as we were leaving the cemetery and said, "Well, at least we won't have to do that again."

My brother - who is not on the family's Top Ten Nice Guys list, to make a very long story short - made it in for the service and the thing we were really concerned about was whether or not he was going to be a complete tool about settling the estate (our mother made one of our uncles the executor and gave him power of attorney a few years back specifically to keep our brother from having, or getting, any control over how it was done). So far, it hasn't turned out that way which is both a surprise and a blessing. There are still a lot of things, including the house, that will have to be sold or given away - and certain things that mom specified were to go to certain people - but so far there has been no acrimony over who gets what or whether or not some particular item "means more" to this person or that.

But the sheer enormity of going through everything is just wearing us all out right now. If nothing else it may cure me of any packrat tendencies I may have, good grief that woman kept EVERYTHING. I now have a full record of all the immunizations I received as an infant, so in case anyone was wondering, yes I've had all my shots.

Anyway - thank you all again SO MUCH.

Bakkels · 06-20-11, 07:29 PM

Well it's sure good to hear the 'aftermath' is coming along in a dignified manner. On the one hand, the fact that she kept everything might be a problem, but I'm sure you stumble upon lots of things that'll make you smile, or that are in some way dear to you.
Of course I don't know the backstory, but it seems to me that despite problems you might have had, her keeping all your stuff including vaccination papers, shows you meant a lot to her.
Once again, I wish you much strength, and cherish those good memories.

Jimbuna · 06-21-11, 06:55 AM

Had the same experience about eighteen months ago when I lost my father.

Even though my mum is still alive she was unable to help because of the onset of early dementia.

I hope it goes as smoothly with your family as it did between my younger brother and I.

stoppro · 06-21-11, 07:02 AM

Keep it surreal as you can.Estates are a long drawn out process. the only thing that went fast is I ended up with a with a little dog. everything else is still going. stay strong and good luck.

joea · 06-21-11, 09:54 AM

Very sorry to hear about your loss Frau.

Onkel Neal · 06-21-11, 10:02 AM

Thanks for letting us know how you're doing. I don't envy you, but you are a strong woman.

Herr-Berbunch · 06-21-11, 10:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by frau kaleun

If nothing else it may cure me of any packrat tendencies I may have, good grief that woman kept EVERYTHING.

So you don't plan to keep your printed GWX manual in triplicate any more?

Thanks for letting us know. This site really is the best.

RickC Sniper · 06-21-11, 01:49 PM

Thoughts and prayers to you and your loved ones.

Losing a mother is tragic and it hurts, no matter how close you were.

Hang in there.

06-20-11, 07:29 PM	#3
Bakkels Seasoned Skipper Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Groningen, The Netherlands Posts: 709 Downloads: 101 Uploads: 6	Well it's sure good to hear the 'aftermath' is coming along in a dignified manner. On the one hand, the fact that she kept everything might be a problem, but I'm sure you stumble upon lots of things that'll make you smile, or that are in some way dear to you. Of course I don't know the backstory, but it seems to me that despite problems you might have had, her keeping all your stuff including vaccination papers, shows you meant a lot to her. Once again, I wish you much strength, and cherish those good memories. __________________ My sh3 skins : http://www.gamefront.com/files/user/Bakkels Or go to the sh3 downloads section > skins

06-21-11, 06:55 AM	#4
Jimbuna Chief of the Boat Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: 250 metres below the surface Posts: 190,483 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 13	Had the same experience about eighteen months ago when I lost my father. Even though my mum is still alive she was unable to help because of the onset of early dementia. I hope it goes as smoothly with your family as it did between my younger brother and I. __________________ Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. Oh my God, not again!!

06-21-11, 07:02 AM	#5
stoppro Sonar Guy Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: vero beach fl Posts: 380 Downloads: 495 Uploads: 0	Keep it surreal as you can.Estates are a long drawn out process. the only thing that went fast is I ended up with a with a little dog. everything else is still going. stay strong and good luck. __________________ win 10 64-msi-32gig cosair ddr4-ryzen9-5600evga gtx3060-corsair850watt-2-ssd 500 gig drives 1m2 1tig

06-21-11, 10:02 AM	#7
Onkel Neal Born to Run Silent Join Date: Jan 1997 Location: Cougar Trap, Texas Posts: 21,383 Downloads: 541 Uploads: 224	Thanks for letting us know how you're doing. I don't envy you, but you are a strong woman. __________________ SUBSIM - 26 Years on the Web

06-21-11, 01:49 PM	#9
RickC Sniper Undetectable Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Colorado Posts: 1,221 Downloads: 132 Uploads: 0	Thoughts and prayers to you and your loved ones. Losing a mother is tragic and it hurts, no matter how close you were. Hang in there. __________________ Support Subsim http://www.subsim.com/store.html

06-20-11, 09:29 AM	#1
Penguin Ocean Warrior Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Rheinische Republik Posts: 3,322 Downloads: 92 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear about your loss, Frau! I wish you and your relatives much strength for the next days. All my best wishes!

06-20-11, 07:21 PM	#2
frau kaleun Rear Admiral Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Skyri--oh who are we kidding, I'm probably at Lowe's. Again. Posts: 12,706 Downloads: 168 Uploads: 0	I know I've said it before but it bears repeating: thanks again to everyone here for all your kindness and support. It really does mean a lot and as always I'm continually impressed by the level of camaraderie and genuine goodwill that prevails here. It really is a thing of beauty and everyone involved from Neal on down needs to pat themselves on the back at least once a day for being a part of what makes Subsim the great community that it is. So... she's in the ground as of this morning, next to dad. I looked at my sister as we were leaving the cemetery and said, "Well, at least we won't have to do that again." My brother - who is not on the family's Top Ten Nice Guys list, to make a very long story short - made it in for the service and the thing we were really concerned about was whether or not he was going to be a complete tool about settling the estate (our mother made one of our uncles the executor and gave him power of attorney a few years back specifically to keep our brother from having, or getting, any control over how it was done). So far, it hasn't turned out that way which is both a surprise and a blessing. There are still a lot of things, including the house, that will have to be sold or given away - and certain things that mom specified were to go to certain people - but so far there has been no acrimony over who gets what or whether or not some particular item "means more" to this person or that. But the sheer enormity of going through everything is just wearing us all out right now. If nothing else it may cure me of any packrat tendencies I may have, good grief that woman kept EVERYTHING. I now have a full record of all the immunizations I received as an infant, so in case anyone was wondering, yes I've had all my shots. Anyway - thank you all again SO MUCH.

06-21-11, 09:54 AM	#6
joea Silent Hunter Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: At periscope depth in Lake Geneva Posts: 3,512 Downloads: 25 Uploads: 0	Very sorry to hear about your loss Frau.