Bad childhood I want to stop thinking about. Any ideas?

[Flaxpants]

Originally Posted by RedMenace

I know its popular to blame your crappy childhood nowadays on your emotional problems, but I only just recently made the connection, and I know my childhood probably damaged me in some ways. I don't want to be haunted anymore by bad memories, or at least I don't want them to get in the way of the rest of my life. What do I do?

Trying to find explanations for your bad feelings and apportioning 'blame' for them is a common human trait- we all do it.

But it gets us nowhere.

All that matters is the 'right now', and from what you say: "Now I'm 19 and I'm much better, even relatively healthy I'd say, I go to college, and I try as hard as I can to be upbeat and sociable and likeable. I've even had girlfriends!", sounds like you're doing ok to me. Forget the past, it really has gone.

No point at all in worrying about the future either. Just gotta get on with it! Party on!