I Dont Understand It

FIREWALL · 09-12-09, 10:03 PM

First off John my heart go's out to you and her family.

I could give you the answer but I doubt you want to hear it.

That also is the part that's sad.

GoldenRivet · 09-12-09, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by FIREWALL

I could give you the answer but I doubt you want to hear it.

I could guess

who knows what will come of this

FIREWALL · 09-12-09, 10:15 PM

Good Luck my friend.

CaptainHaplo · 09-12-09, 10:58 PM

There is no "pat" answer. Drugs screw up lives, and your seeing it. But ultimately, while I can sympathize with those caught in such a web, it was their CHOICE to step into it. So that sympathy has its limits.

The concern is for the innocent children, who grow up learning what? They don't see how responsible choices lead to responsible, and fullfilling, lives. Too often, that puts them on the path to failure as well.

My son, whom I have custody of, visits his mother every other weekend. His oldest brother, now 17, is on house arrest at his mothers home for conspiracy to commit armed robbery. His oldest sister and her husband, along with their 2 VERY YOUNG children, also are staying in his mother's home due to them both facing multiple felony drug charges (possession and intent to sell - schedules 1,2 and 3). I don't talk to him about those young people, but I have sat him down, time and again, to discuss with him how his choices in life are helping him to succeed every day. As a parent, we have to reinforce the values and ethics in our children, and he has grown into a strong little man able to hold his own and choose right no matter what. To say I am proud of him is the worlds biggest understatement. Sure I cringe whenever he goes, but I know that he has learned to be strong enough to keep on the right road.

Unfortunately, as it appears in your sister-in-law's case, she lacked that. No one can say why really, but for whatever reason she made her choices. The thing now is - what can you do to protect the children. Ultimately, you can only do so much, but do what you can to keep up to date with what is going on, because often people that choose that path end up providing the opportunities you need to act for those kids.

Wolfehunter · 09-12-09, 11:20 PM

You can get kids help if you can prove that the mother is a danger to them and to herself.

You need the entire family support for this... see a lawyer and try to get power of attorney over the kids.. or the grandparents have that responsibility... Whatever it takes to save the children..

She's lost for now... The kids can be saved. I've had a similar situation with my nephew.. My brother spent thousands of dollar to at least have the right to see his son... His xgirlfriend is a daughter to a biker gang boss in life prison for murder etc... His pull has payed off some judges and made our battles really difficult for us... Also laws favor women in our province.. Men have virtually no rights to children when there are breakups here. Very sad.

No matter what happens people will get hurt... its ugly..and nasty..

I feel your pain.

Goodluck.

WH

GoldenRivet · 09-12-09, 11:24 PM

thank you all for the comments.

09-12-09, 10:03 PM	#1
FIREWALL Eternal Patrol Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: CATALINA IS. SO . CAL USA Posts: 10,108 Downloads: 511 Uploads: 0	First off John my heart go's out to you and her family. I could give you the answer but I doubt you want to hear it. That also is the part that's sad. __________________ RIP FIREWALL I Play GWX. Silent Hunter Who ???

09-12-09, 10:15 PM	#3
FIREWALL Eternal Patrol Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: CATALINA IS. SO . CAL USA Posts: 10,108 Downloads: 511 Uploads: 0	Good Luck my friend. __________________ RIP FIREWALL I Play GWX. Silent Hunter Who ???

09-12-09, 10:58 PM	#4
CaptainHaplo Silent Hunter Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 4,404 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 0	There is no "pat" answer. Drugs screw up lives, and your seeing it. But ultimately, while I can sympathize with those caught in such a web, it was their CHOICE to step into it. So that sympathy has its limits. The concern is for the innocent children, who grow up learning what? They don't see how responsible choices lead to responsible, and fullfilling, lives. Too often, that puts them on the path to failure as well. My son, whom I have custody of, visits his mother every other weekend. His oldest brother, now 17, is on house arrest at his mothers home for conspiracy to commit armed robbery. His oldest sister and her husband, along with their 2 VERY YOUNG children, also are staying in his mother's home due to them both facing multiple felony drug charges (possession and intent to sell - schedules 1,2 and 3). I don't talk to him about those young people, but I have sat him down, time and again, to discuss with him how his choices in life are helping him to succeed every day. As a parent, we have to reinforce the values and ethics in our children, and he has grown into a strong little man able to hold his own and choose right no matter what. To say I am proud of him is the worlds biggest understatement. Sure I cringe whenever he goes, but I know that he has learned to be strong enough to keep on the right road. Unfortunately, as it appears in your sister-in-law's case, she lacked that. No one can say why really, but for whatever reason she made her choices. The thing now is - what can you do to protect the children. Ultimately, you can only do so much, but do what you can to keep up to date with what is going on, because often people that choose that path end up providing the opportunities you need to act for those kids. __________________ Good Hunting! Captain Haplo

09-12-09, 11:20 PM	#5
Wolfehunter Crusty Capt. Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,752 Downloads: 40 Uploads: 25	You can get kids help if you can prove that the mother is a danger to them and to herself. You need the entire family support for this... see a lawyer and try to get power of attorney over the kids.. or the grandparents have that responsibility... Whatever it takes to save the children.. She's lost for now... The kids can be saved. I've had a similar situation with my nephew.. My brother spent thousands of dollar to at least have the right to see his son... His xgirlfriend is a daughter to a biker gang boss in life prison for murder etc... His pull has payed off some judges and made our battles really difficult for us... Also laws favor women in our province.. Men have virtually no rights to children when there are breakups here. Very sad. No matter what happens people will get hurt... its ugly..and nasty.. I feel your pain. Goodluck. WH __________________

09-12-09, 11:24 PM	#6
GoldenRivet Subsim Aviator Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 8,726 Downloads: 146 Uploads: 0	thank you all for the comments. __________________