My father

Sledgehammer427 · 11-19-12, 12:14 AM

It hurts so much to say anything about it but since I consider you all family, here goes.

Yesterday, the 17th, my father was in a motorcycle accident that took his life. He was airlifted to the hospital and pronounced brain-dead. Although he gained some basic functions less than an hour later, his body began to fail and my father passed away this morning after the arrangements were made for the organ donations. He's being cremated, and we are having a small, spartan service, just the way he would have wanted.
I still feel like it hasn't struck me fully yet but when I chat with people different things keep bringing up the tears and it's a struggle to not blubber about like a 2 year old.

My father, (Mark S. Myers) Was a great man who touched many lives. While he was a little gruff, he was straightforward and honest and everyone that knew him was a better person. He never hesitated to help those in need and he went out of his way to make sure people were comfortable and felt at home around him. He was my best friend and I am the luckiest 21-year-old in the world to call him my father. This holiday season is going to be so tough. He always went to my grandmothers 3 hours early to help her cook, mash the potatoes, and he would cut the turkey.
On Christmas day he was always the one who handed out presents.
I wish you guys could have met him. He was my hero.

Quem di diligunt, adolescens moritur
-Whom the gods love, dies young.

I miss you dad..

magic452 · 11-19-12, 01:01 AM

Terrible news there Sledgehammer. It's very tough to lose a parent but so sudden and at such an early age is so much more difficult. My heart goes out to you and your family. You are in my prayers.

The holidays will be hard but you must always remember all the good your father did and let that help you in this tough time.

May he rest in peace.

Magic

eddie · 11-19-12, 01:06 AM

Sorry for your loss.

Karle94 · 11-19-12, 01:08 AM

Man that sucks. My condolences. Want you to now that we are all here for you.

Red Brow · 11-19-12, 01:53 AM

Mr. Myers you said: "He was my best friend and I am the luckiest 21-year-old in the world to call him my father." My mother was that way for me when she died. But this tragedy of your is a total surprise and you are so young. Its going to hurt guy and if you feel the urge to blubber - do it.

Try not to sleep in a room alone - If you have brothers or sisters near make one sleep in the same room as yourself, and do so for them. At least for a week. Be strong in public, but shed tears freely with those who loved your father and who shed tears.

Avoid all anger during this time - no matter what the accident report is.
Irrespective of your present beliefs - whatever they are - I can assure you that your father is not far from you. When I was very near death I learned that there is really only one important thing in life for us humans - that is our loved ones: family and friends and the people who need us.

THE_MASK · 11-19-12, 02:05 AM

My condolences.

HunterICX · 11-19-12, 04:57 AM

My sincerest condolences Sledge, stay strong and look after the rest of the family.

HunterICX

Platapus · 11-19-12, 05:30 AM

The Egyptians believed that if you spoke the name of the dead they lived again. Speak often of the good things your father did in his life so that people will not forget a good man.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Gerald · 11-19-12, 07:19 AM

Sorry to hear about your and family's loss, my condolences to you, and take care of you, may your father rest in peace.

Betonov · 11-19-12, 07:30 AM

My condolances.

Skybird · 11-19-12, 07:44 AM

There is a time for tears where they show a certain meaning of strength, and then, some time later, after that comes a time of strength that does not need tears anymore. I wish you a transition from the first to the second just naturally, and gently. But it will take time. Hold on to your family.

August · 11-19-12, 10:14 AM

Rose and I will remember you in our prayers tonight. Please accept our sincere condolences for your loss.

Cybermat47 · 11-19-12, 05:43 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. My great aunt died last week, but your father's death sounds completely unexpected. My deepest condolences.

kiwi_2005 · 11-19-12, 07:38 PM

Sorry to hear of your lost man. May your dad rest in peace.

RickC Sniper · 11-19-12, 09:19 PM

I am very, very sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad when I was 14 years old. He was my hero then, and now that I am 61+ years old he is still my hero.

It does get easier, but it takes time.
I still miss him, but I carry pride in knowing who and what he was.
Be proud of carrying on his name.

God Bless you. You are in my prayers.

11-19-12, 12:14 AM	#1
Sledgehammer427 PacWagon Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Drinking coffee and staring at trees in Massachusetts Posts: 2,908 Downloads: 287 Uploads: 0	My father It hurts so much to say anything about it but since I consider you all family, here goes. Yesterday, the 17th, my father was in a motorcycle accident that took his life. He was airlifted to the hospital and pronounced brain-dead. Although he gained some basic functions less than an hour later, his body began to fail and my father passed away this morning after the arrangements were made for the organ donations. He's being cremated, and we are having a small, spartan service, just the way he would have wanted. I still feel like it hasn't struck me fully yet but when I chat with people different things keep bringing up the tears and it's a struggle to not blubber about like a 2 year old. My father, (Mark S. Myers) Was a great man who touched many lives. While he was a little gruff, he was straightforward and honest and everyone that knew him was a better person. He never hesitated to help those in need and he went out of his way to make sure people were comfortable and felt at home around him. He was my best friend and I am the luckiest 21-year-old in the world to call him my father. This holiday season is going to be so tough. He always went to my grandmothers 3 hours early to help her cook, mash the potatoes, and he would cut the turkey. On Christmas day he was always the one who handed out presents. I wish you guys could have met him. He was my hero. Quem di diligunt, adolescens moritur -Whom the gods love, dies young. I miss you dad.. __________________ Cold Waters Voice Crew - Fire Control Officer Cmdr O. Myers - C/O USS Nautilus (SS-168) 114,000 tons sunk - 4 Spec Ops completed V-boat Nutcase - Need supplies? Japanese garrison on a small island in the way? Just give us a call! D4C!

11-19-12, 01:01 AM	#2
magic452 Sea Lord Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Reno Nevada USA Posts: 1,860 Downloads: 85 Uploads: 0	Terrible news there Sledgehammer. It's very tough to lose a parent but so sudden and at such an early age is so much more difficult. My heart goes out to you and your family. You are in my prayers. The holidays will be hard but you must always remember all the good your father did and let that help you in this tough time. May he rest in peace. Magic __________________ Reported lost 11 Feb. 1942 Signature by depthtok33l

11-19-12, 01:06 AM	#3
eddie Ocean Warrior Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,023 Downloads: 99 Uploads: 0	Sorry for your loss. __________________ Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I'm kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me. Al Capone

11-19-12, 01:08 AM	#4
Karle94 The Old Man Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Norseland Posts: 1,355 Downloads: 253 Uploads: 0	Man that sucks. My condolences. Want you to now that we are all here for you. __________________ Find my mods here: https://www.mediafire.com/folder/lzgciodldp58p/SH4_Mods My SH4 blog here: http://karle94.blogspot.com/

11-19-12, 04:57 AM	#7
HunterICX Rear Admiral Join Date: May 2006 Location: Malaga, España Posts: 10,750 Downloads: 8 Uploads: 0	My sincerest condolences Sledge, stay strong and look after the rest of the family. HunterICX __________________

11-19-12, 01:53 AM	#5
Red Brow A-ganger Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Colorado Posts: 72 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	Mr. Myers you said: "He was my best friend and I am the luckiest 21-year-old in the world to call him my father." My mother was that way for me when she died. But this tragedy of your is a total surprise and you are so young. Its going to hurt guy and if you feel the urge to blubber - do it. Try not to sleep in a room alone - If you have brothers or sisters near make one sleep in the same room as yourself, and do so for them. At least for a week. Be strong in public, but shed tears freely with those who loved your father and who shed tears. Avoid all anger during this time - no matter what the accident report is. Irrespective of your present beliefs - whatever they are - I can assure you that your father is not far from you. When I was very near death I learned that there is really only one important thing in life for us humans - that is our loved ones: family and friends and the people who need us.

11-19-12, 02:05 AM	#6
THE_MASK Ace of the deep . Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 9,226 Downloads: 901 Uploads: 73	My condolences.

11-19-12, 05:30 AM	#8
Platapus Fleet Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 19,381 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 0	The Egyptians believed that if you spoke the name of the dead they lived again. Speak often of the good things your father did in his life so that people will not forget a good man. I am so sorry for your loss. __________________ abusus non tollit usum - A right should NOT be withheld from people on the basis that some tend to abuse that right.

11-19-12, 07:19 AM	#9
Gerald SUBSIM Newsman Join Date: May 2008 Location: Close to sea Posts: 24,254 Downloads: 553 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear about your and family's loss, my condolences to you, and take care of you, may your father rest in peace. __________________ Nothing in life is to be feard,it is only to be understood. Marie Curie

11-19-12, 07:30 AM	#10
Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	My condolances.

11-19-12, 07:44 AM	#11
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,674 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	There is a time for tears where they show a certain meaning of strength, and then, some time later, after that comes a time of strength that does not need tears anymore. I wish you a transition from the first to the second just naturally, and gently. But it will take time. Hold on to your family. __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

11-19-12, 10:14 AM	#12
August Wayfaring Stranger Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 23,217 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	Rose and I will remember you in our prayers tonight. Please accept our sincere condolences for your loss. __________________ Flanked by life and the funeral pyre. Putting on a show for you to see.

11-19-12, 05:43 PM	#13
Cybermat47 Willing Webfooted Beast Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Australia Posts: 5,408 Downloads: 300 Uploads: 23	I am very sorry for your loss. My great aunt died last week, but your father's death sounds completely unexpected. My deepest condolences. __________________ Historical TWoS Gameplay Guide: http://www.subsim.com/radioroom/showthread.php?p=2572620 Historical FotRSU Gameplay Guide: https://www.subsim.com/radioroom/sho....php?p=2713394

11-19-12, 07:38 PM	#14
kiwi_2005 Eternal Patrol Join Date: May 2004 Location: Aeoteroa Posts: 7,382 Downloads: 223 Uploads: 1	Sorry to hear of your lost man. May your dad rest in peace. __________________ RIP kiwi_2005 Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

11-19-12, 09:19 PM	#15
RickC Sniper Undetectable Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Colorado Posts: 1,221 Downloads: 132 Uploads: 0	I am very, very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 14 years old. He was my hero then, and now that I am 61+ years old he is still my hero. It does get easier, but it takes time. I still miss him, but I carry pride in knowing who and what he was. Be proud of carrying on his name. God Bless you. You are in my prayers. __________________ Support Subsim http://www.subsim.com/store.html

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