Should i ask her that question?

Kapitan · 06-01-06, 08:22 AM

Ive been down lately i lost my girl friend but she still talks to me and i still love her and she still has feelings for me.
i split up with her a few months ago and now i regret it and she knows it, were young but unhappy so i want some advice should i ask that question?

for the not so intelligent people that question is will you marry me

Skybird · 06-01-06, 08:28 AM

What question? I see none in the poll.

Kapitan · 06-01-06, 08:30 AM

The poll should have yes and no as options my question is should i ask her to marry me?

Skybird · 06-01-06, 08:36 AM

Oh, I see. Maybe you are better served with a poll asking if it is wise to leave that question to other people to decide, instead of leaving it to yourself?

You are the one living y<our life, and you will have to deal with the consequences - not anyone of us. Leave the effort of finding an answer to that question where it belongs - leave it with you. Some things in life we must decide all alone by ourselves.

That you ask that in public tells something on how sure you are that doing it would the right thing to do. That is the only answer that I have for you.

jumpy · 06-01-06, 09:06 AM

I would say NO m8.
Simply due to the fact that:

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i split up with her a few months ago and now i regret it and she knows it, were young but unhappy

You must have done that for a reason and as you are both young....
If the BIG question is on your mind, then think about getting back together as a couple for a while before you even consider shackling yourself to a ball and chain for the rest of your life.
Many ppl see being asked to marry as something really major and not at all to be taken lightly (I'm not suggesting this is otherwise for you..), so from that point of view it's probably best to not just spring the question on her considering you have been separated for a couple of months.
Another thing to think about, don't take this the wrong way; have you seriously thought about what it is that you miss about her? If you have been feeling down lately is that because you miss her or just the companionship of a relationship? Difficult questions I know, but you have to ask yourself this truthfully when you think about what it is you are contemplating doing.

Personally I have never been able to stay 'friends' with an ex, it's just too hard to deal with on an even keel. Better to make a clean break and not let the feelings drag on and on. I suspect that this is what you are experiencing now...

Abraham · 06-01-06, 09:14 AM

I voted no, although after reading Skybird's answer I wonder if I should have voted at all.
Getting married may be fun but staying married is a difficult task and not a paracetamol against relational problems.

Konovalov · 06-01-06, 09:22 AM

There are really only two people who are likely to know the answer to such a question and they are yourself and your ex. Whatever you do, do not rush or make a hasty decision. Good luck.

bradclark1 · 06-01-06, 09:35 AM

If you have to question yourself the answer is no.
Trust me when you are ready to spend your life with that one person you will know it.

lesrae · 06-01-06, 09:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Abraham

Getting married may be fun but staying married is a difficult task and not a paracetamol against relational problems.

Amen.

Drebbel · 06-01-06, 09:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kapitan

The poll should have yes and no as options my question is should i ask her to marry me?

Nope, nothing will hurt her more than knowing you did not love her enough to decide for yourself !

So do not ask her and do not marry her !

STEED · 06-01-06, 11:28 AM

Hit the bottle get drunk then sober up and move on, sorry Kap if that sounds cold.

TLAM Strike · 06-01-06, 12:35 PM

Ancient Chinese wisdom say: Girlfriend is bottle of wine, wife is a wine bottle.

Ass Hole American say: You chugged the bottle buddy.

Translation: If you were unhappy as Boyfriend and Girlfriend what makes you think your will be happy as Husband and Wife?

06-01-06, 12:41 PM

I had a friend who wanted to get back with his ex-girlfriend. He came to me for advice. I reminded him of how all he did when they were together was complain.

Bottom line: only you can look back and see the relationship for what it was. Only you can answer the question. Only you can live your life. Either way you may regret it; either way you might end up happy.

You make the choice, and you live with it. Or don't.

Oh, and I declined to vote.

StdDev · 06-01-06, 12:46 PM

I did not vote because like others I think it is not appropriate.. but I will offer advice.. just remember that this advice is from someone you dont really know and keep in mind what you paid for it..

You are young.. when you get married you want it to be for the rest of your life (ie. until you are very old!)

You should be out prowlin about for your next Ex!

squigian · 06-01-06, 01:36 PM

If you told us of the root issues in your relationship, we would have an easier time of giving advice. As we know, internet fellows are never wrong

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06-01-06, 08:22 AM	#1
Kapitan Sub Test Pilot Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: UK + Canada Posts: 7,130 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 7	Should i ask her that question? Ive been down lately i lost my girl friend but she still talks to me and i still love her and she still has feelings for me. i split up with her a few months ago and now i regret it and she knows it, were young but unhappy so i want some advice should i ask that question? for the not so intelligent people that question is will you marry me __________________ DONT FORGET if you like a post to nominate it by using the blue diamond Find out about Museum Ships here: https://www.museumships.us/ Flickr for all my pictures: https://www.flickr.com/photos/131313936@N03/ Navy general board articles: https://www.navygeneralboard.com/author/aegis/

06-01-06, 08:28 AM	#2
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,645 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	What question? I see none in the poll. __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

06-01-06, 08:30 AM	#3
Kapitan Sub Test Pilot Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: UK + Canada Posts: 7,130 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 7	The poll should have yes and no as options my question is should i ask her to marry me? __________________ DONT FORGET if you like a post to nominate it by using the blue diamond Find out about Museum Ships here: https://www.museumships.us/ Flickr for all my pictures: https://www.flickr.com/photos/131313936@N03/ Navy general board articles: https://www.navygeneralboard.com/author/aegis/

06-01-06, 08:36 AM	#4
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,645 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	Oh, I see. Maybe you are better served with a poll asking if it is wise to leave that question to other people to decide, instead of leaving it to yourself? You are the one living y<our life, and you will have to deal with the consequences - not anyone of us. Leave the effort of finding an answer to that question where it belongs - leave it with you. Some things in life we must decide all alone by ourselves. That you ask that in public tells something on how sure you are that doing it would the right thing to do. That is the only answer that I have for you. __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

06-01-06, 09:14 AM	#6
Abraham Eternal Patrol Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 1,572 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	Should i ask her that question I voted no, although after reading Skybird's answer I wonder if I should have voted at all. Getting married may be fun but staying married is a difficult task and not a paracetamol against relational problems. __________________ RIP Abraham

06-01-06, 09:22 AM	#7
Konovalov Ocean Warrior Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: High Wycombe, Bucks, UK Posts: 2,811 Downloads: 9 Uploads: 0	There are really only two people who are likely to know the answer to such a question and they are yourself and your ex. Whatever you do, do not rush or make a hasty decision. Good luck. __________________ "In a Christian context, sexuality is traditionally seen as a consequence of the Fall, but for Muslims, it is an anticipation of paradise. So I can say, I think, that I was validly converted to Islam by a teenage French Jewish nudist." Sheikh Abdul-Hakim Murad (Timothy Winter)

06-01-06, 09:35 AM	#8
bradclark1 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Connecticut, USA. Posts: 2,794 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 0	If you have to question yourself the answer is no. Trust me when you are ready to spend your life with that one person you will know it.

06-01-06, 11:28 AM	#11
STEED Lucky Jack Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Down Town UK Posts: 27,695 Downloads: 89 Uploads: 48	Hit the bottle get drunk then sober up and move on, sorry Kap if that sounds cold. __________________ Dr Who rest in peace 1963-2017. To borrow Davros saying...I NAME YOU CHIBNALL THE DESTROYER OF DR WHO YOU KILLED IT!

06-01-06, 12:35 PM	#12
TLAM Strike Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Rochester, New York Posts: 8,633 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 6	Ancient Chinese wisdom say: Girlfriend is bottle of wine, wife is a wine bottle. Ass Hole American say: You chugged the bottle buddy. Translation: If you were unhappy as Boyfriend and Girlfriend what makes you think your will be happy as Husband and Wife? __________________

06-01-06, 12:41 PM	#13
Sailor Steve Stowaway Posts: n/a Downloads: Uploads:	I had a friend who wanted to get back with his ex-girlfriend. He came to me for advice. I reminded him of how all he did when they were together was complain. Bottom line: only you can look back and see the relationship for what it was. Only you can answer the question. Only you can live your life. Either way you may regret it; either way you might end up happy. You make the choice, and you live with it. Or don't. Oh, and I declined to vote.

06-01-06, 12:46 PM	#14
StdDev Legend of the Sea Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: the Great Wet North Posts: 635 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	I did not vote because like others I think it is not appropriate.. but I will offer advice.. just remember that this advice is from someone you dont really know and keep in mind what you paid for it.. You are young.. when you get married you want it to be for the rest of your life (ie. until you are very old!) You should be out prowlin about for your next Ex!

06-01-06, 01:36 PM	#15
squigian Helmsman Join Date: May 2006 Location: London, UK Posts: 107 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	If you told us of the root issues in your relationship, we would have an easier time of giving advice. As we know, internet fellows are never wrong