This Is Why I Don't Date Girls...

[Texas Red]

FYI I am not gay, I'm just venting my frustration with women

So recently, I decided to try and start a relationship with a girl at my school. She is rather shy and I'm basically carrying the entire conversation. I had feelings for her, and I think she did too actually. Then all hell broke loose.

On Friday night I receive a text from her friend (let's call her S) saying that my crush (let's call her C) likes me. Of course, I am suspicious at first since I have been duped in the past, and then I get on a video call with S and C, S loudly says C likes me, which then C says "SHUT UP". Well, I spill my beans, and guess what? It's a trick. I find this out and say some nasty stuff, which then C and S start apologizing, I forgive them and we reconcile.

Then, as Friday night is ending, C is sending me some positive signals, so I think all is going well.
On Saturday I proceed to question S and C as to whose idea it was. And you know what bullcrap I get? I never said anything, it must have been you. and I show them the screenshots I took of that conversation and they repeat the same thing, and every single time I ask them who said it, they said "It was you." One time S told me that she doesn't like talking to people, and I was wondering who sent this and so I ask C if it was her (since they were at S's home that night) and I get the same She never said it, you did I then ask them if they were trying to imply something to me, which then S says I'm trying to say I am dead, dead serious. Now they are trying to avoid my questions and are playing games with me.
Sunday and Saturday are the repeats of the same thing, and on Sunday I get some more positive signals from C, I hope for the best on Monday and go to bed.

On Monday she is again playing mind games with me as I try to develop a relationship with her. I am thinking about letting go but I do not want to give up just yet, so I have this raging internal debate that disrupts my home life. Finally, after having a talk with my counselor I send C a long message describing why I am leaving this relationship. My main points are: 1, you are playing mind games with me and I still have not received any clarity from what happened on Friday. 2, You are causing serious amounts of emotional troubles for me with these games, and so it is not a healthy relationship, then I also send her all the screenshots I have of her and her friend saying it was me who said what they said to me. I gave her a nice kick in the gut and blocked her, I also said if she wanted to remain, friends, that she was to go through S to try to get me to unblock her. After I sent all of this, her last message she sent me before I blocked her was "Boy" (which usually means I am doing something stupid, which I wasn't) Now that the ball is in my court and I have control I finally get them to play by my terms.

S immediately texts me saying that "C wants to be friends, so unblock her." and I said, "Not until I know who's idea it was and why you were saying it was me who said that C liked me."

I say, "It wasn't me who said that C liked me." And y'know what S says? "I know, I was joking." I wish I could show you the screenshots as to how I knew they were trying to get past my questions and play with me. I said some pretty nasty stuff along the lines of "That was a horrible joke you prick, look what happens when you pull stunts like this!!!"
Classic man-user, " I was just joking".

I then said that C would have to talk to me at school. And S tells me that C said "Boy no". Then I said "Well then guess what? she doesn't want to be friends. If she is only willing to be friends over text and not in real life at school then she is using me." Then S says "C doesn't like talking to people, sooo" which I then say "Wouldn't you say that communication is important to having a friendship?" and she says, "No, me and C talk in morse code." I then said "Oh really, so you are joking when you say she doesn't like talking to people?" and I get a definitive "No" from S.


Then I finally ask "Who's idea was it?" S says, "It wasn't C's fault." and then I say "Oh really then, who's fault is it?" and then S says "Your mom." Which I then give up and say "Alright, bye to each of you. I give up, see what your little games do to people? Not cool." I then proceeded to take screenshots of the chat so that way I could defend myself if need be. Finally, after all that was over, I remove S and C and block them. Now my life is peaceful.

In short:
My crush and her friend play mind games with me and then act all childish when I call them out on it, and when I leave my crush she desperately tries to get me back. But they are gonna use me again so I leave them.


I won't date girls for awhile now, lol.

[Buddahaid]

Yikes, glad I'm an old fart. I've no advice beyond don't let it get the best of you as there will be other women.

Secretly I've always wondered what would happen if guys just stopped falling all over themselves trying to impress women and collectively just ignored them.

[Texas Red]

Originally Posted by Buddahaid

Yikes, glad I'm an old fart. I've no advice beyond don't let it get the best of you as there will be other women.

Secretly I've always wondered what would happen if guys just stopped falling all over themselves trying to impress women and collectively just ignored them.

yeah that’s what i did. there are other kens out there. Sometimes i just want to ignore all the women in my grade, they can be a little annoying.

it’s pretty much over now, let’s just see if she says anything at school or over email to me.

[Rockstar]

lol you're on too them. Take 'S' on a date that will get 'C' mad at her. Then while they're fighting each, you dump them both. WINNER!

[vienna]

Originally Posted by Rockstar

lol you're on too them. Take 'S' on a date that will get 'C' mad at her. Then while they're fighting each, you dump them both. WINNER!

Uh,...

Rockstar is really Charlie Sheen...?...









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[Platapus]

Some advice from an Old Guy:


If there is one thing that all women have in common is that they are all different. Clearly, this woman was not the one for you at this time. One down, that leaves about 3,000,000,000 other women out there.


I am sorry this happened to you but I am also glad that you recognized the situation soon.

[Reece]

I think you're a glutton for punishment!! I would have left C after a couple of days of trying to figure her out.
Don't let the immaturity of some spoil it for you, there is an old saying "Plenty of fish in the sea".
All the best for the future!!

[Sean C]

Originally Posted by El Whacko

let's call her C

Yes, let's.



Forget her, man. You will look back on this and kick yourself for how much time you've wasted already. There is a nice, beautiful girl out there who wants to have a real relationship with you. Don't keep her waiting. Find her. And don't stop [for too long] until you do.

[GoldenRivet]

Originally Posted by El Whacko

I'm just venting my frustration with women

mind if i ask how old you are?

I'll go ahead and assume you're under 30, and i'll warn you that it doesnt get any better... from now to the grave.

[Jimbuna]

Originally Posted by GoldenRivet

mind if i ask how old you are?

I'll go ahead and assume you're under 30, and i'll warn you that it doesnt get any better... from now to the grave.

Your over by a long way John but I think it more appropriate if he answers that question, should he decide to, even though he has publicly stated his age on this forum in the past.

[Buddahaid]

I just remembered why I don't date girls either.

[Eichhörnchen]

[3catcircus]

Don't ever communicate via social media, text etc. That sh!t never goes away and WILL be taken out of context to make you look bad.

If the other party does communicate that way, save everything and save the receipts. They will save you.

Don't ever apologize via text or social media - it's an admission of guilt - both in a court of law and the court of her friends' opinions... Save that for after you're married when it becomes part of your standard defense: "You're right, I'm an idiot. I'm sorry," followed by her walking out of the room so you can put the game back on. You won't even know what you're sorry for or what you did or didn't do (and she won't tell you.) Learn this early in the relationship, it'll save you untold hours of argument - this is an old married guy trick usually only learned after years of suffering.

Talk to the girl you like - in person - and ask her out. If she rejects you, move on to the next one. Completely ignore her friends' comments - you're interested in her, not them.

Have confidence when talking to a girl. This isn't a lifetime commitment yet and it shouldn't be about jumping into the sack. You're just trying to have fun and see if the other person is fun to hang out with or barely tolerable. Looks are important but not that important. Can the other person hold a conversation or do they barely fog the glass? If both of you struggle to make conversation, move on. If you are laconic, hopefully she is too - having one partner who won't shut up is worse than when both don't find a need to talk a lot.

At some point you will have to meet her parents. Her mother may seem really nice - that's an act or they're arguing with each other. Her father may seem intimidating. That's not an act - if you make her cry, he'll make you cry.

Oh yeah - last bit of advice - I'm married so I, by virtue of being married, automatically become an idiot (I think it's even spelled out on every standard marriage license), so don't take anything I've said as advice...

[Mr Quatro]

Originally Posted by Eichhörnchen

Cradle robber ... that's against the law in the United States

[THE_MASK]

I have been married 35 years . H...E...L...P