Rough Weekend

frau kaleun · 01-17-12, 08:33 AM

Found out late Sunday that my nephew killed himself over the weekend - sometime Saturday evening or early Sunday. A friend who went to his place on Sunday found him, he had shot himself. Don't know much more than that as we have not heard anything about a note or whether or not he was drinking or doing anything else that might have contributed to it.

He would have been 40 in March and seemed to be getting his life on track - his mom (my ex sister-in-law, she's divorced from my brother) and stepdad had offered to help him out financially if he wanted to go back to school provided he stuck with it and finished his degree, which he was doing with success as far as we know.

But he was in a couple of car accidents as a young adult, the first of which resulted in a bad back injury that nothing could really fix; the second accident exacerbated the problem and left him in constant pain as a result. From what we know his doctor had recently taken him off all his pain meds which seemed to completely freak him out, apparently she was hoping to get him on something new for pain but whether or not that's why she cut him off of his current meds or there were other reasons I don't know.

Anyway we may never know what all the factors were, his mom has been battling cancer for about the last year and her prognosis was never good to start with and there have been a couple of times already when we weren't sure if she was going to make it. The two of them were very close and maybe he just couldn't deal with seeing her go downhill plus the results of his meds being cut off and who knows what all else that we don't even know about, he was one of those people who never wanted to be a bother to anyone so there may be a lot we just don't know because he didn't talk about it. Even the people closest to him didn't see this coming.

He and all his immediate family live on the other side of the country from us so we can't be there for them except for phone and email and in spirit. So any good wishes and kind thoughts sent their (and our) way are much appreciated.

01-17-12, 08:33 AM	#1
frau kaleun Rear Admiral Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Skyri--oh who are we kidding, I'm probably at Lowe's. Again. Posts: 12,706 Downloads: 168 Uploads: 0	Rough Weekend Found out late Sunday that my nephew killed himself over the weekend - sometime Saturday evening or early Sunday. A friend who went to his place on Sunday found him, he had shot himself. Don't know much more than that as we have not heard anything about a note or whether or not he was drinking or doing anything else that might have contributed to it. He would have been 40 in March and seemed to be getting his life on track - his mom (my ex sister-in-law, she's divorced from my brother) and stepdad had offered to help him out financially if he wanted to go back to school provided he stuck with it and finished his degree, which he was doing with success as far as we know. But he was in a couple of car accidents as a young adult, the first of which resulted in a bad back injury that nothing could really fix; the second accident exacerbated the problem and left him in constant pain as a result. From what we know his doctor had recently taken him off all his pain meds which seemed to completely freak him out, apparently she was hoping to get him on something new for pain but whether or not that's why she cut him off of his current meds or there were other reasons I don't know. Anyway we may never know what all the factors were, his mom has been battling cancer for about the last year and her prognosis was never good to start with and there have been a couple of times already when we weren't sure if she was going to make it. The two of them were very close and maybe he just couldn't deal with seeing her go downhill plus the results of his meds being cut off and who knows what all else that we don't even know about, he was one of those people who never wanted to be a bother to anyone so there may be a lot we just don't know because he didn't talk about it. Even the people closest to him didn't see this coming. He and all his immediate family live on the other side of the country from us so we can't be there for them except for phone and email and in spirit. So any good wishes and kind thoughts sent their (and our) way are much appreciated.