Should i ask her that question? - Page 2

August · 06-01-06, 01:48 PM

My only advice is to live together for at least a year before contemplating matrimony. Nothing tests the survivability of a relationship than cohabitation.

CB.. · 06-01-06, 02:59 PM

"scientific studys" have shown that there is no such thing as "just good friends" after a break up-- no matter what the female partner/ex partner may say-- it's a nice thought- but it is destructive usually to persue a relationship once it has been openly ended--you can say hello down the pub- you don't have to strangle each other on sight- but that's really it--
alledgdly--
we've all been there--gawd have we all been there lol-- no thanks
i vote no a million times over-- there should be an age limit on getting married anyhuw--of at least 30 IMO --- save a lot of bother all round--

joea · 06-01-06, 03:48 PM

Some good advice, you are young you will survive.

Linton · 06-01-06, 04:43 PM

As a married man of 16 years standing I would go with steed.You are are a young chap and a bit of paper and a ring will never make the difference if something was wrong.Wait until you have established yourself in life job etc before asking a woman to spend the rest of her life with you and with the csa in the uk make sure you dont leave lots of cash hungry women pregnant.To quote Al Pacino I am giving you pearls here!

kiwi_2005 · 06-01-06, 05:11 PM

Kapitan. NO.

If yous are always breaking up, getting married is not going to stop the break ups. Instead of breaking up it will be divorce and a failed marriage. Best thing is to live together for a while see how you both go, living under the same roof, if things are still roses after a year and ya both still madly in love then tie the knot. Marriage is a serious move you both must be ready for it. Its not a game.

Anyways if you do all the best.

PeriscopeDepth · 06-01-06, 06:06 PM

You're about 18 for chrissakes, no!

PD

Skybird · 06-01-06, 07:36 PM

Eighteen...? I was not aware of that. So finally you get a clear answer from me as well: No!

Sharkstooth · 06-01-06, 10:41 PM

I didn't vote cause I hope you wouldn't be crazy nuff to decide something like this on the results of a poll........
but.......
no, no, no a thousand times NO.
Sounds to me like you 'settling' for getting married cause well, you still love her, and nothin better happening..... ack.

besides.......why get married and drive one woman crazy when you can be single and drive lots of them crazy.

JScones · 06-02-06, 02:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bradclark1

If you have to question yourself the answer is no.
Trust me when you are ready to spend your life with that one person you will know it.

Agreed.

XabbaRus · 06-02-06, 05:06 AM

I say no.

But why do you have to ask a question like this on a forum?

Says a lot more in very little.

Kapitan · 06-02-06, 05:42 AM

Why did i ask simple because i wanted other peoples opinion, id rather go in knowing than jump in at the deep end.

Sir Big Jugs · 06-02-06, 11:02 AM

Just poppin' in to check out the new forum software!

SUBMAN1 · 06-02-06, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bradclark1

If you have to question yourself the answer is no.
Trust me when you are ready to spend your life with that one person you will know it.

Best damn advice in this whole thread. If you question it, even in the slightest, it will not ever work.

-S

PS. Regardless what other people say, everyone here should vote no for this very reason. Right now you are just missing something that isn't there anymore, but there are much bigger fish to fry around the next corner! I can remeber feeling like this many years ago about my real first love, but looking back now, I see how that was so wrong an idea. I upgraded many time over since then! :P

If I could redo my life, I would have been so much smarter! :P

Terrax · 06-02-06, 12:57 PM

For me, that was the really bad part about being 18. Everything was amplified. Love, hate, joy, rage, ect. When things were good with my girlfriend, I was on top of the world. When things were bad, I agonized over it and life was terrible.

You feel bad now, but how will you feel if you ask and she tells you no? Breakups are like horrible hangovers, they take time to get over. The sooner you start getting over it the better. Unfortunately, this will not be the last time you feel this way. It's all part of growing up. You're not ready for this, and most likely, neither is she.

The Noob · 06-02-06, 04:01 PM

After 30, life is already over IMHO. You are too young to die, but too old to do something that takes time.

Why all you people are so negative anyway?

I 100% agree with bradclark1!

Go have a Vodka and forget it, life goes on.

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06-01-06, 01:48 PM	#16
August Wayfaring Stranger Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 23,210 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	My only advice is to live together for at least a year before contemplating matrimony. Nothing tests the survivability of a relationship than cohabitation. __________________ Flanked by life and the funeral pyre. Putting on a show for you to see.

06-01-06, 02:59 PM	#17
CB.. Ace of the Deep Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: UK Posts: 1,278 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	"scientific studys" have shown that there is no such thing as "just good friends" after a break up-- no matter what the female partner/ex partner may say-- it's a nice thought- but it is destructive usually to persue a relationship once it has been openly ended--you can say hello down the pub- you don't have to strangle each other on sight- but that's really it-- alledgdly-- we've all been there--gawd have we all been there lol-- no thanks i vote no a million times over-- there should be an age limit on getting married anyhuw--of at least 30 IMO --- save a lot of bother all round-- __________________ the world's tinyiest sh3 supermod- and other SH3/SH2 stuff http://www.ebort2.co.uk/ The best lack all conviction, while the worst Are full of passionate intensity. W.B.Yeats

06-01-06, 04:43 PM	#19
Linton Sea Lord Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,898 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	As a married man of 16 years standing I would go with steed.You are are a young chap and a bit of paper and a ring will never make the difference if something was wrong.Wait until you have established yourself in life job etc before asking a woman to spend the rest of her life with you and with the csa in the uk make sure you dont leave lots of cash hungry women pregnant.To quote Al Pacino I am giving you pearls here! __________________ http://lintonsview.blogspot.com/

06-01-06, 05:11 PM	#20
kiwi_2005 Eternal Patrol Join Date: May 2004 Location: Aeoteroa Posts: 7,382 Downloads: 223 Uploads: 1	Kapitan. NO. If yous are always breaking up, getting married is not going to stop the break ups. Instead of breaking up it will be divorce and a failed marriage. Best thing is to live together for a while see how you both go, living under the same roof, if things are still roses after a year and ya both still madly in love then tie the knot. Marriage is a serious move you both must be ready for it. Its not a game. Anyways if you do all the best. __________________ RIP kiwi_2005 Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

06-01-06, 03:48 PM	#18
joea Silent Hunter Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: At periscope depth in Lake Geneva Posts: 3,512 Downloads: 25 Uploads: 0	Some good advice, you are young you will survive.

06-01-06, 06:06 PM	#21
PeriscopeDepth Sea Lord Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Pacific NW Posts: 1,894 Downloads: 6 Uploads: 0	You're about 18 for chrissakes, no! PD

06-01-06, 07:36 PM	#22
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,649 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	Eighteen...? I was not aware of that. So finally you get a clear answer from me as well: No! __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

06-01-06, 10:41 PM	#23
Sharkstooth Red Shoe Queen Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Chicago Posts: 124 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	I didn't vote cause I hope you wouldn't be crazy nuff to decide something like this on the results of a poll........ but....... no, no, no a thousand times NO. Sounds to me like you 'settling' for getting married cause well, you still love her, and nothin better happening..... ack. besides.......why get married and drive one woman crazy when you can be single and drive lots of them crazy.

06-02-06, 05:06 AM	#25
XabbaRus Navy Seal Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,330 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	I say no. But why do you have to ask a question like this on a forum? Says a lot more in very little. __________________

06-02-06, 05:42 AM	#26
Kapitan Sub Test Pilot Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: UK + Canada Posts: 7,130 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 7	Why did i ask simple because i wanted other peoples opinion, id rather go in knowing than jump in at the deep end. __________________ DONT FORGET if you like a post to nominate it by using the blue diamond Find out about Museum Ships here: https://www.museumships.us/ Flickr for all my pictures: https://www.flickr.com/photos/131313936@N03/ Navy general board articles: https://www.navygeneralboard.com/author/aegis/

06-02-06, 11:02 AM	#27
Sir Big Jugs Grey Wolf Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Helsinki, Finland Posts: 895 Downloads: 59 Uploads: 0	Just poppin' in to check out the new forum software!

06-02-06, 12:57 PM	#29
Terrax Warmonger Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: WV USA Posts: 101 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	For me, that was the really bad part about being 18. Everything was amplified. Love, hate, joy, rage, ect. When things were good with my girlfriend, I was on top of the world. When things were bad, I agonized over it and life was terrible. You feel bad now, but how will you feel if you ask and she tells you no? Breakups are like horrible hangovers, they take time to get over. The sooner you start getting over it the better. Unfortunately, this will not be the last time you feel this way. It's all part of growing up. You're not ready for this, and most likely, neither is she. __________________

06-02-06, 04:01 PM	#30
The Noob The Old Man Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: de_dust2 Posts: 1,417 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	After 30, life is already over IMHO. You are too young to die, but too old to do something that takes time. Why all you people are so negative anyway? I 100% agree with bradclark1! Go have a Vodka and forget it, life goes on.