The Plight of the Single Man

Now this is an interesting topic and one not addressed enough in my oppinion, especially amongst blokes. We're all "conditioned" to bite the lip and soldier on but the fact is that men/woman are social animals and we all like a bit of fluffy company now and again.

Sure when we're young we worry less about it because we have the whole world to explore but as we get older, a little calmer perhapps, we start feeling an urge to take things a little easier, settle down perhapps...who knows.

I've recently fallen into the same boat as the original poster, my own fault really as I keep popping off on mad adventures. The last one was crossing Greenland, took a month and got dumped as soon as I got back . I'm off again at the end of the month , this time for 2.5 months so I can sort of understand somebody not wanting to wait. Mind you, during the war people waited a lot longer....or did they :hmm:

Anyway, my advice, and i'm 42 so not sure its worth a great deal, is to carry on being you as that's what makes you unique. Who knows, maybe some of the posters here who say there is a "soul mate" for everyone out there are right, but even if not then you will eventually meet someone and things will sparkle. Just make sure you maintain a good social set so you can get out and about a bit....well they're not exactly gonna come knocking on your door out of the blue are they. The main thing is to be you and DONT TRY TOO HARD!!!

Another thing that i find a bit wierd is that most married blokes say its a pain in the ass and we should stay single. Most single blokes say its a pain in the ass and they would like to be coupled. I'm not sure if the married blokes are just saying that to cheer us single blokes up....I wish they didn't

And yet another thing that i find annoying is the way woman try to change us. I mean they like us when they meet us fo what we are, so we get together and then they do their damnest to change us. Eventually we change this and that, to keep the peace cos we like a quiet life, and then we get the famous "You're no longer the same person you were when I met you"........well thanks to you honey!!

Right, glad to get that off my chest, time to get back in my box.

[AVGWarhawk]

One basic thing you need to keep in mind is women like attention. I do not mean fan over me attention and worship the ground I tread on attention. (although it helps sometimes) They want someone to listen to them. Someone who is not judgmental. Just listening is about the best attention you can afford them. Often you will find them attracted to this then any physical attraction. I used to clam up around the ladies until I realized they are just people with ambitions and concerns like anyone else. Once you get a grasp on that, talking and befriending them is easy. The relationship will develop down the road. Not to worry, she will be along one day.

[Mikey_Wolf]

Well, thanks for all the replies to this guys I have had a lot of time to chew this over and since my original post, I have took a shine to somebody. She works in the Library of my college, lol, I want to ask her just to grab a cup of tea and a chat. I don't know what my chances of success are, I usually dress pretty smartly to go to college. I don't turn up like any old rag-bag so that's got to work in my favour.

I don't know, I reckon I'll give it a try and see how I get on. She says no, well, I'm back to square one again. Annoying but hey - I'm not the first and won't be the last that is for darn sure.

I'm expecting a no, so if I get a yes, it'll be a bonus.

[STEED]

There is nothing wrong being single look at the facts -

1. Toilet seat in the up position
2. No longer waiting 30 minutes to get in to the toilet because of a women
3. More toilet paper for you
4. Hot water
5. No complaints about farting in the bath tub

Bliss

[Jimbuna]

Originally Posted by Mikey_Wolf

Well, thanks for all the replies to this guys I have had a lot of time to chew this over and since my original post, I have took a shine to somebody. She works in the Library of my college, lol, I want to ask her just to grab a cup of tea and a chat. I don't know what my chances of success are, I usually dress pretty smartly to go to college. I don't turn up like any old rag-bag so that's got to work in my favour.

I don't know, I reckon I'll give it a try and see how I get on. She says no, well, I'm back to square one again. Annoying but hey - I'm not the first and won't be the last that is for darn sure.

I'm expecting a no, so if I get a yes, it'll be a bonus.

Good for you young man

[Penelope_Grey]

Get it right tomorrow, just go for it... if she turns ya down, just tell me where to find her I got old faithful here ready (baseball bat) and an allibi already sorted! :rotfl:

If I were an only child....:hmm:

[AVGWarhawk]

Originally Posted by Mikey_Wolf

Well, thanks for all the replies to this guys I have had a lot of time to chew this over and since my original post, I have took a shine to somebody. She works in the Library of my college, lol, I want to ask her just to grab a cup of tea and a chat. I don't know what my chances of success are, I usually dress pretty smartly to go to college. I don't turn up like any old rag-bag so that's got to work in my favour.

I don't know, I reckon I'll give it a try and see how I get on. She says no, well, I'm back to square one again. Annoying but hey - I'm not the first and won't be the last that is for darn sure.

I'm expecting a no, so if I get a yes, it'll be a bonus.

Do not go in expecting a NO. Standing there befuddled and waiting on a NO will be detected by the young lady. Confidence but not overbearing is the plan! Going for a cup of tea and some conversation sounds like a good plan. Just remember about the claming up part. She is person like you with interests and such. Do not clam up, talk about what you like and do with your time. She will chime in. You do the same. Before you know it and being she is in the library working, just imagine the help she can provide in finding old dusty books on the uboat. Good way to expand on the subject matter and WW2 as a whole. Good way to have conversation. I would hope she is working in the library because of her interest in histories and such. Feel her out (figure of speech here ) and she what makes her tick

[Venatore]

Look at it from my point of view.

My wife and I have created two beautiful daughters. One day someone like yourself will cross paths with a girl such as our two ladies, you will sweep her off her feet, and you will be the missing link in her life. BUT FIRST, you have to meet the father (me ) or someone like me :rotfl: and he/you are good enough and she loves you/him deeply; then I or a father like me will proudly take a step back as the number one man in her life.

As you find bliss happiness a father finds sad happiness. I leave you with this song, my daughters have agreed to play this song when her and I walk down the isle and I'm seconds away from giving her away.

What ever you do in life, always treat your girlfriend/wife as your best mate.

[Jimbuna]

Nice song.

Mikey....you never came on TS the other night

Lehmann and I were waiting with our counselling hats on

.......and Dowly was locked in the Galley

[seafarer]

I'm in my late forties, and single by choice. That's the way I like it. There is a lady I do see somewhat regularly, but I have no interest in either marriage nor co-habitation. Marriage has just never appealed to me, and I've never been interested in being a father either. I've done the living together routine for a few years, but much prefer living by myself in my own place. In part, I think it's just because I cannot get motivated to make the inevitable compromises that sharing a living space with someone entails. Just the way I roll, I guess.

If you want a realtionship, go for it. But don't ever apologize to society if you choose to remain single - though some people seem to want to make you feel you need to - never understood that

[The Munster]

Originally Posted by seafarer

I'm in my late forties, and single by choice. That's the way I like it. There is a lady I do see somewhat regularly, but I have no interest in either marriage nor co-habitation. Marriage has just never appealed to me, and I've never been interested in being a father either. I've done the living together routine for a few years, but much prefer living by myself in my own place. In part, I think it's just because I cannot get motivated to make the inevitable compromises that sharing a living space with someone entails. Just the way I roll, I guess.

If you want a realtionship, go for it. But don't ever apologize to society if you choose to remain single - though some people seem to want to make you feel you need to - never understood that

Well, in the words of Meatloaf ..'you took the words right out of my mouth'
You are my twin bro [or sis], well, something like that.
PS Whilst my friends can't get to watch the footy due to those silly soaps, I'm getting to comfortably watch Man U comfortably hammer the Russkis = Ah Bliss

[baggygreen]

So..... how goes the saga? Its just as good as LS's U49 tale - but much more like Big Brother...

[TarJak]

Sounds like she might be interested. A "we'll see" could just be a way to see how keen you are. It could also have been a way of nicely saying "Bugger off you twat, I wouldn't go out with you for a million quid!":rotfl: All you can do is have another shot and if she finds an excuse then move on. If she's still playing hard to get, then you are still in with a chance.

Keep going.

[Mikey_Wolf]

Well it was definately bugger off you twat! I didn't even have to ask again! I could tell it was just wrote all over her.

I went in, genuinely, to get a book for the course, went up to the desk and it was a case of, thanks and goodbye.

So, again, I am back to square one. Thing is and this is the part that winds me up the most, and its the truth too, Penny would easily back me up on this. Our parents don't give a feck. As long as neither of us bother them with personal problems, everything is fine, if we do, then we just get short shrift.

I am starting to see myself as an Albino Lone Wolf. The sort of chap you'd have for a mate, but wouldnt share a romantic moment with. lol Im actually laughing here, I should be annoyed, but, well - I just dont care! :rotfl:

[Sailor Steve]

Not caring is a good attitude. It's about that time that you're looking the other way and *WHAM*, someone comes along and decides you're hot stuff.