This Is Why I Don't Date Girls...

Eichhörnchen · 02-02-21, 04:56 PM

I like Rockstar's plan a lot

But Sean C has the best advice for you: Miss Right is somewhere out there and you'll know her because she'll treat you right... with respect and love. These two females are just a couple of nerds having fun yanking your chain

Rockstar · 02-02-21, 08:30 PM

Experience has taught me a woman's worst enemy is another woman. In cases like this, knowing that could work to your advantage.

Texas Red · 02-02-21, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Eichhörnchen

I like Rockstar's plan a lot

But Sean C has the best advice for you: Miss Right is somewhere out there and you'll know her because she'll treat you right... with respect and love. These two females are just a couple of nerds having fun yanking your chain

Rockstars plan would totally work for me under other circumstances. It would be like setting off the Tsar Bomba lol.
The woman that’s right for me seems to be far away, heck maybe i even know her or have met her before. We don’t know until i decide to pursue a relationship with that a woman. These two girls were inexperienced nerdy females in the area of dating too, evidenced by their behavior,

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Originally Posted by Rockstar

Experience has taught me a woman's worst enemy is another woman. In cases like this, knowing that could work to your advantage.

LOL yep, tbh I thought at first that S was lying to C about what I was saying to try to get me away from C and i would start to pursue S. They all played a role in me ghosting them, lol. S made it 200% worse for both of them lol.

iambecomelife · 02-03-21, 10:30 PM

First off, I am sorry for your experience. Don't dwell on it - consider it water under the bridge and a learning experience. You learned how deceptive some women can be, even if they try to hide it with a "nice", "shy" exterior. And in the future, these mind games will not work on you. Good job calling them out on their behavior.

Dating in this decade is completely different from what it was like for our parents. Or even for our older brothers and sisters. It's a lot harder out there.

My mom & dad grew up in a small town where everyone knew everyone; people naturally paired off thru church/high school at 19 or 20, & then got married. No internet or social media. These days? You are competing with Tinder, Bumble, Match, a girl's social media followers, etc etc. Even an average woman may have hundreds of clingy men "simping" & desperate for her attention online.

My theory is that this whole thing was, in fact, about attention. The girl and her friend were seeking attention/validation from you. Once they got that ego boost, they had what they wanted. Don't feel ashamed. It says nothing about your value as a young man; it DOES say a lot about their lack of character.

"These two females are just a couple of nerds having fun yanking your chain " - EXACTLY.

I strongly recommend that you seek out youtube channels devoted to young men's issues and dating for men. There you can learn about female psychology, relationship red flags, how to cut out women who lead you on, and how to protect yourself as a man from modern dating pitfalls. These can range from merely embarrassing (harsh rejections, mean rumors) to extremely serious (baby traps, false abuse accusations, etc.)

There are no guarantees of course. This is not "magic" "pickup artist" stuff. What dating commenters CAN do is give psychiatric & self improvement techniques beneficial to you in the dating world and beyond.

By learning HOW to date instead of "winging it" I was able to date a woman I would have never approached & considered "out of my league" when I was younger.

This did not come naturally to me. But now, I know to keep things in perspective, and to learn from each encounter I have.

Buddahaid · 02-03-21, 10:46 PM

Punching above your weight?

iambecomelife · 02-04-21, 01:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Buddahaid

Punching above your weight?

Not sure I follow.

Also to El Whacko, good idea to save the messages. There is no telling how these young ladies will mischaracterize what happened. They've already proven that they are dishonest. When it comes to dating, certain people can be very vindictive. It seems like you're doing a good job de-escalating, disengaging, and making sure you have the facts straight about what they did. I would gently advise you not make any more angry comments to them, even if they deserve them.

iambecomelife · 02-04-21, 02:54 PM

One more thing; I would also recommend Reddit "Relationships" forum. Of course take the advice with a grain of salt..

after all, most Reddit posters aren't experts. But there is good advice there sometimes. And I've noticed in recent years there's been a trend there toward holding BOTH genders accountable for bad behavior, instead of viewing one gender as "victims".

02-02-21, 04:56 PM	#1
Eichhörnchen Starte das Auto Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: The Fens Posts: 17,402 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	I like Rockstar's plan a lot But Sean C has the best advice for you: Miss Right is somewhere out there and you'll know her because she'll treat you right... with respect and love. These two females are just a couple of nerds having fun yanking your chain __________________

02-03-21, 10:30 PM	#4
iambecomelife Silent Hunter Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 4,709 Downloads: 300 Uploads: 0	First off, I am sorry for your experience. Don't dwell on it - consider it water under the bridge and a learning experience. You learned how deceptive some women can be, even if they try to hide it with a "nice", "shy" exterior. And in the future, these mind games will not work on you. Good job calling them out on their behavior. Dating in this decade is completely different from what it was like for our parents. Or even for our older brothers and sisters. It's a lot harder out there. My mom & dad grew up in a small town where everyone knew everyone; people naturally paired off thru church/high school at 19 or 20, & then got married. No internet or social media. These days? You are competing with Tinder, Bumble, Match, a girl's social media followers, etc etc. Even an average woman may have hundreds of clingy men "simping" & desperate for her attention online. My theory is that this whole thing was, in fact, about attention. The girl and her friend were seeking attention/validation from you. Once they got that ego boost, they had what they wanted. Don't feel ashamed. It says nothing about your value as a young man; it DOES say a lot about their lack of character. "These two females are just a couple of nerds having fun yanking your chain " - EXACTLY. I strongly recommend that you seek out youtube channels devoted to young men's issues and dating for men. There you can learn about female psychology, relationship red flags, how to cut out women who lead you on, and how to protect yourself as a man from modern dating pitfalls. These can range from merely embarrassing (harsh rejections, mean rumors) to extremely serious (baby traps, false abuse accusations, etc.) There are no guarantees of course. This is not "magic" "pickup artist" stuff. What dating commenters CAN do is give psychiatric & self improvement techniques beneficial to you in the dating world and beyond. By learning HOW to date instead of "winging it" I was able to date a woman I would have never approached & considered "out of my league" when I was younger. This did not come naturally to me. But now, I know to keep things in perspective, and to learn from each encounter I have. __________________ https://www.facebook.com/WolvesoftheKaiser/ Last edited by iambecomelife; 02-04-21 at 02:51 PM.

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Buddahaid Shark above Space Chicken Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 9,326 Downloads: 162 Uploads: 0	Punching above your weight? __________________ "However vast the darkness, we must provide our own light." Stanley Kubrick "Tomorrow belongs to those who can hear it coming." David Bowie

02-04-21, 02:54 PM	#7
iambecomelife Silent Hunter Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 4,709 Downloads: 300 Uploads: 0	One more thing; I would also recommend Reddit "Relationships" forum. Of course take the advice with a grain of salt.. after all, most Reddit posters aren't experts. But there is good advice there sometimes. And I've noticed in recent years there's been a trend there toward holding BOTH genders accountable for bad behavior, instead of viewing one gender as "victims". __________________ https://www.facebook.com/WolvesoftheKaiser/

02-02-21, 08:30 PM	#2
Rockstar In the Brig Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Zendia Bar & Grill Posts: 12,614 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	Experience has taught me a woman's worst enemy is another woman. In cases like this, knowing that could work to your advantage.