Never marry an American woman.

[garren]

http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013...raining-order/

Entitled.

[CaptainHaplo]

You could have stopped with the second word in the title and gotten it right...

Never Marry.

Something this guy has apparently learned the hard way.

Marriage is a wonderful institution.
I don't care how wonderful one is, I never want to be put into an institution.

[garren]

Originally Posted by CaptainHaplo

You could have stopped with the second word in the title and gotten it right...

Never Marry.

Something this guy has apparently learned the hard way.

Marriage is a wonderful institution.
I don't care how wonderful one is, I never want to be put into an institution.

Yeah, you got a point. Why would a man ever want to settle down with one chick anyways? Aren't we as men supposed to be like bees and pollenate all the fertile flowers by going from one to another? Seems like a lot of bees get themselves entangled in those Venus flytraps.

[CaptainHaplo]

Poly - the lifestyle that few women can deal with and only a rare man can successfully navigate. Ok I really should not get on that topic - though it is one I often to discuss in certain circles locally.

[garren]

Originally Posted by CaptainHaplo

Poly - the lifestyle that few women can deal with and only a rare man can successfully navigate. Ok I really should not get on that topic - though it is one I often to discuss in certain circles locally.

With the current family laws polygamy would be worse for a man. Think of all the child support payments and alimony payments to support multiple divorces...

Would be better to just remain single, freeze some of your sperm, get a vasectomy and just be a player. That or just pay for a prostitute. A lot cheaper than marriage by far. Prostitution and marriage are the same thing really, ones just short term and the other is long term. Can't be with a woman unless you pay.

Wow! Check this guy out... LOL!

[Oberon]

Someone's bored tonight, shouldn't you Americans be in bed by now so the quieter European shift can start?

I feel sorry for Jim having to clear all this up every morning.

[CaptainHaplo]

Not polygamy - as that just compounds the whole marriage problem along with being illegal.

Poly-amour on the other hand is not illegal. It takes a certain.... attitude (Think D/s) and willingness to be honest when its not comfortable to make happen successfully. It isn't a lifestyle that is for anyone to be sure. Still - it has its rewards (way beyond multiple intimate partners).

[Red October1984]

Originally Posted by Oberon

Someone's bored tonight, shouldn't you Americans be in bed by now so the quieter European shift can start?

I feel sorry for Jim having to clear all this up every morning.

+1

I think this marriage thing comes down to personal belief systems. There could be a hell of an argument over this...so I'm going to stay out of specifics.

In my belief system, you marry the one you love. You don't marry only to divorce a year later.

You marry the one you're sure about.

There's the nutshell and there's the contents.

[Armistead]

18 years married, through good and bad. Never cheated, nor have I ever had any desire to do so.

This one ever fails, that's it for women, I'll seek a relationship with Steve. Maybe with a lil lipstick and lace, I can
get through it, plus we have a lot in common.

[garren]

Originally Posted by Armistead

18 years married, through good and bad. Never cheated, nor have I ever had any desire to do so.

This one ever fails, that's it for women, I'll seek a relationship with Steve.

I will always bless the day my knight in shining armor appeared and rode off with my first wife.

[CaptainHaplo]

Originally Posted by Red October1984

I think this marriage thing comes down to personal belief systems.

Absolutely.

In my belief system, you marry the one you love. You don't marry only to divorce a year later.

Nothing wrong with that if it works for you. However, it assumes you can/will only love one person. What if you love more than one person?

Or even so - more than one person at a time?

For many, this goes to a religious question, others a moral one in which their beliefs are founded on how they were raised. Still, if your not breaking the law, everyone involved is knowledgeable and willing to accept the situation (however it occurs) - why should it not happen?

You marry the one you're sure about.

Nothing in life is guaranteed.

I suspect your fairly young yet, so let me pass on one very important piece of advice.....

Always meet the mother of any woman your serious about fairly early. Because as she grows older - she is going to turn into her mother, so you better really like her mom so you know you will still like the girl in 20 years or so...

[Red October1984]

Originally Posted by CaptainHaplo

Nothing wrong with that if it works for you. However, it assumes you can/will only love one person. What if you love more than one person?

Or even so - more than one person at a time?

For many, this goes to a religious question, others a moral one in which their beliefs are founded on how they were raised. Still, if your not breaking the law, everyone involved is knowledgeable and willing to accept the situation (however it occurs) - why should it not happen?

There we go. Somebody else mentioned religion. I didn't want to be the one to drop that bomb.

Religion is really the deciding factor I think. There are also some other deciding factors like how you were raised, how your parents and family acted, etc.

If you're belief system says that you should love one person and if you stick to that belief system, you can at least try your best.

In the end, it's just morals and beliefs.

Nothing in life is guaranteed.

+1

I suspect your fairly young yet, so let me pass on one very important piece of advice.....

Always meet the mother of any woman your serious about fairly early. Because as she grows older - she is going to turn into her mother, so you better really like her mom so you know you will still like the girl in 20 years or so...

I'm still young...yes....and that thought has already crossed my mind. I have time though....being only in High School. I have time before I have to worry about any of this.

Not too worried about my girl problems at this point in time anyway. Too busy.

[garren]

Originally Posted by CaptainHaplo

Absolutely.



Nothing wrong with that if it works for you. However, it assumes you can/will only love one person. What if you love more than one person?

Or even so - more than one person at a time?

For many, this goes to a religious question, others a moral one in which their beliefs are founded on how they were raised. Still, if your not breaking the law, everyone involved is knowledgeable and willing to accept the situation (however it occurs) - why should it not happen?


Nothing in life is guaranteed.

I suspect your fairly young yet, so let me pass on one very important piece of advice.....

Always meet the mother of any woman your serious about fairly early. Because as she grows older - she is going to turn into her mother, so you better really like her mom so you know you will still like the girl in 20 years or so...

I think if society is going to entertain gay marriage we have to allow any and all types of marriages to exist as well. Can't stop there. There's always got to be some new challenge. And if the people don't create one the government surely will to keep themselves relevant. It just never ends.

[CaptainHaplo]

Originally Posted by garren

I think if society is going to entertain gay marriage we have to allow any and all types of marriages to exist as well. Can't stop there. There's always got to be some new challenge. And if the people don't create one the government surely will to keep themselves relevant. It just never ends.

The challenge for a poly person isn't society. Granted - it is if you want to marry more than one person, but what if you choose to simply co-habit or simply have multiple "girlfriends" or "boyfriends"? Society doesn't really care what people do until they start trying to usurp certain ideals, like marriage being "one man and one woman".

The challenges for a poly man (and woman as well, I am sure) are numerous:

1) Being willing to risk rejection by a potential partner for being honest up front about being poly.
2) Finding partners who can accept that being poly does not reduce your love and care for them
3) Balancing each relationship so that they satisfy you as well as satisfy each of your partners.

Add in other specific relational dynamics (such as Dominant/submissive) that can often both help and hinder in various ways, and it is indeed a challenge.

As for comparing poly to gay marriage, thankfully a person can be in a poly relationship (however they care to structure it) without causing significant societal division and protests in the street.

[AVGWarhawk]

Sorry, I would have taken her to the lake. The guy cares more about his tires? Perhaps he should sleep with his car. Does he consistently chose to do things on Saturday that do not include her? How long has this been going on that drove the woman to finally throw in the towel? A relationship needs to be nurtured. This guy loves to rotate tires instead. Two sides to this story.