Bad News

[frau kaleun]

I can only echo what others have said and add my own good wishes to it: stay strong, stay positive, you will be in our thoughts and prayers! Good luck to you, man.

[kiwi_2005]

Wow! I just got up and I read this. Cancer sucks, lost my mother & an uncle to cancer. 4yrs ago my brother in law had throat cancer, it was the early stages though we all thought Colin was going to die, he couldn't eat solid foods had to be liquid foods and being a roast mutton man he was terribly pissed off. He went through the lost of weight, hair lost, being sick a lot due to the chemo but at the end he recovered and is now back to his normal self & enjoying his roast dinners. Then early last year my other brotherinlaw was told by his doc he has colon cancer, he too recovered from it and he was late going to the doctors he probably wouldn't off if it wasn't for him collapsing while at work. They both have to have their check ups just in case the cancer ever returns though they both in good spirits.

There is still hope Feuer Frei! The doctors haven't given up on you so they must know there is still a good chance of you beating this cancer. I hope the very best for you man.

Try to stay positive.

[Rockstar]

Yes, all wise words indeed. I have read a bit about the side effects of these powerful drugs and it doesn't sit well with me at this present moment.
One thing i am really mulling over is the possible increase of weight loss which can occur with chemo.
Heck, i am already skinny. I was very defensive in the consultation with the doctors and replied upon hearing that i may lose more weight: "well, at least i can get rid of this f'in beer belly then".
Blank looks upon remarking this.

Ah the doctors, we had one doctor at radiation the fella I spoke of above, great guy he always encouraged and took care of my wife, an older gentleman and experienced doctor, but you could tell he still drew a line and knew not to get too close. But the others the younger ones, I could describe them just as you did yours. I know nursing staff who administer the chemo are always being watched and cautioned against getting too personal, it's hard not to, they are always being rotated out. It may be the case with your doctors they may be experts in the field of medicine but young and may severely lack in the human relations side of the job.

The other thing is the hair loss.
My self esteem has been shot a fair few months ago now. Losing all this weight i'm sure i look sick too, so i guess the hair loss is the double whammy really for me. Yes i know it grows back but where i am going with this is that the Doc said today: what work do you do"? "Hopsitality management, restaurants mainly"? He said after us ddiscussing, or rather me saying that my work can go stuff themselves because the last thing i want to have to deal with is some clown complaining about a well-done steak, when it's well done. So, he said to me, after me saying that: "you can then step back, being the manager, and delegate"! I looked at him, not sure what he was attempting to do.
I said: "no f'in way, f that, i'm not running around with a bald head, skin and bones and looking like a freak"! He replied: "well you can think of it this way, you can advertise this to other men/people, you know, tell them to check themselves regularly etc etc".
I thought to myself: "yea right, i'm gonna do that, at my work place, whilst i work"! Idiot.
I don't mind educating people in relation to this but. But when i know that i have beaten this. First things first, right?

You sound familiar, my wife wasn't interested in becoming a martyr for the cause either. You're right first things first which is you. I suggest though you covet your life's routine and do everything you can to not let this affect it. Again I strongly suggest you find a group you have something in common with, they are out there.


Feel like rambling? then ramble on. I don't think anyone here minds and I for one encourage it.

[Paul Riley]

I am very sorry for you.
Can I just ask you how big this 'lump' was? I have heard people I know say they had a lump in their scrotum the size of a pea,is this about right,and was there any pain or discomfort in the area,also,were there any other side effects that made you curious that something may be wrong here?
Best of luck mate,and for the future

[Gerald]

I hope for a speedy recovery, and that all goes well!

[mookiemookie]

Stay strong. You'll be in my thoughts.

[vienna]

I wish the best for you and don't ever give up hope; I've known a few poeple who have had cancer and have beaten it. I'm sure you will, too...

[Herr-Berbunch]

I don't know what else to add to all the above posts, other than, thank you for the warning - one that gets repeatedly ignored all the time, and really shouldn't.

Again, not the praying kind, but you are in my thoughts and have my sincerest best wishes.