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Old 08-22-13, 02:29 PM   #1
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No. I had one once. Her collection of idiots for boyfriends finally staked a wedge between us.
I have a couple of very good friends. They do the job better than anyone can hope.
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Old 08-22-13, 02:45 PM   #2
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Right now, my best friend is my wife. The way things have been going, it will probably remain that way until I die.

Aside from that, No, i don't. I've had friends. In the past I have had LOTS of friends. Many of whom I could call a brother. However for one reason or another, all of them are gone now. People move on, pass on, what have you. I've grown used to see people come and go in my life. In fact, I've come to expect everyone to leave at some point. It maybe a few weeks, it maybe a few years, but in the end, they all end up going. It's just how life is, and nobody ever said it was fair.

I hope my wife will be the exception. I want to grow old with her. What worries me is that cancer seems to come up alot in her family, because of that I fear one day she will leave me too. I guess if that day ever comes to pass, I shouldn't be surprised, and her loss I will mourn until i die.

I stopped trying to make friends a long time ago.
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Old 08-22-13, 03:04 PM   #3
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Right now, my best friend is my wife. The way things have been going, it will probably remain that way until I die.

Aside from that, No, i don't. I've had friends. In the past I have had LOTS of friends. Many of whom I could call a brother. However for one reason or another, all of them are gone now. People move on, pass on, what have you. I've grown used to see people come and go in my life. In fact, I've come to expect everyone to leave at some point. It maybe a few weeks, it maybe a few years, but in the end, they all end up going. It's just how life is, and nobody ever said it was fair.

I hope my wife will be the exception. I want to grow old with her. What worries me is that cancer seems to come up alot in her family, because of that I fear one day she will leave me too. I guess if that day ever comes to pass, I shouldn't be surprised, and her loss I will mourn until i die.

I stopped trying to make friends a long time ago.
Well said.
I love my wife too, with all my heart, but you're way ahead of me on the "best friend" part of it. I wish I could say that, but I think it's more a case of me keeping her, and probably everyone else in my life, at arm's length. There's a reason for that too, but not worth getting into here.
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Old 08-22-13, 03:42 PM   #4
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Right now, my best friend is my wife. The way things have been going, it will probably remain that way until I die.

Aside from that, No, i don't. I've had friends. In the past I have had LOTS of friends. Many of whom I could call a brother. However for one reason or another, all of them are gone now. People move on, pass on, what have you. I've grown used to see people come and go in my life. In fact, I've come to expect everyone to leave at some point. It maybe a few weeks, it maybe a few years, but in the end, they all end up going. It's just how life is, and nobody ever said it was fair.

I hope my wife will be the exception. I want to grow old with her.
I can certainly identify with that
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Old 08-22-13, 04:03 PM   #5
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I can certainly identify with that
I think that's the case with many of us. Course, my wife and I always have given each other plenty of space to do "your own thing", just don't do it as much now that were older, now more time together. Seems the older I get, the less need I have for relationships, except family.
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Something just hit me this morning as i was feeding my dog. Man's best friend has never stopped being thus.

A good dog really is a great thing. The affection and loyalty they give to their owners is unconditional, and they stay by their owners side no matter what. You couldn't ask for more of any creature.
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Something just hit me this morning as i was feeding my dog. Man's best friend has never stopped being thus.

A good dog really is a great thing. The affection and loyalty they give to their owners is unconditional, and they stay by their owners side no matter what. You couldn't ask for more of any creature.
Indeed, I agree 100 percent. I'm an avid dog lover and have responded to calls where owners have abused their dogs. Despite the abuse the dogs received, they still treated their owners as if they were the greatest persons on the planet.
I've also gone far beyond what was required, or officially allowed by my department, in reuniting lost dogs with their owners or to prevent them from being taken to the county pound. I've also saved a few of their lives over the years.
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Old 08-22-13, 04:10 PM   #9
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Right now, my best friend is my wife. The way things have been going, it will probably remain that way until I die.

Aside from that, No, i don't. I've had friends. In the past I have had LOTS of friends. Many of whom I could call a brother. However for one reason or another, all of them are gone now. People move on, pass on, what have you. I've grown used to see people come and go in my life. In fact, I've come to expect everyone to leave at some point. It maybe a few weeks, it maybe a few years, but in the end, they all end up going. It's just how life is, and nobody ever said it was fair.

I hope my wife will be the exception. I want to grow old with her. What worries me is that cancer seems to come up alot in her family, because of that I fear one day she will leave me too. I guess if that day ever comes to pass, I shouldn't be surprised, and her loss I will mourn until i die.

I stopped trying to make friends a long time ago.
Precious words mate. I lost most my family similarly, as has my wife. All we can hope is that what ever time is left we make it as special as we can
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I think that's the case with many of us. Course, my wife and I always have given each other plenty of space to do "your own thing", just don't do it as much now that were older, now more time together. Seems the older I get, the less need I have for relationships, except family.
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Precious words mate. I lost most my family similarly, as has my wife. All we can hope is that what ever time is left we make it as special as we can
Most poignant
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Precious words mate. I lost most my family similarly, as has my wife. All we can hope is that what ever time is left we make it as special as we can
Seems most come about this way. My wife's parents passed at age 50 and 55. My dad passed in 2010 and my mom in 2011. That basically leaves me and my wife. We have two daughters. By and large we have just each other to depend on. As I posted a few back, my wife is my best friend. We have been married 19 years. Looking forward to another 19. At the end of the day we both realize all we have is each other.
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When my wife left me after eleven years, she quoted the old saying "I hope we can still be friends." I wasn't angry at all, just honest, when I replied "When were we ever friends?"

I'd post that in the joke thread, but it wasn't funny then or now.
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When my wife left me after eleven years, she quoted the old saying "I hope we can still be friends." I wasn't angry at all, just honest, when I replied "When were we ever friends?"

I'd post that in the joke thread, but it wasn't funny then or now.
ACH! My wife, the divorce ATTY, to me: " I'm your wife...not your friend!" Going on 33 years of pure bliss! Oswald Boelke had the knack of making every one feel as if they held a special place with him. I have several long term friends who deem me THEIR best friend and I have never failed in a crisis... but for myself and in my line of work: Trust no one-it saves energy. Always anticipate the foibles of your friends as it preserves the friendship. And stay married, that way you live longer statistically and you don't make the same mistake twice!
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Seems most come about this way. My wife's parents passed at age 50 and 55. My dad passed in 2010 and my mom in 2011. That basically leaves me and my wife. We have two daughters. By and large we have just each other to depend on. As I posted a few back, my wife is my best friend. We have been married 19 years. Looking forward to another 19. At the end of the day we both realize all we have is each other.
Yep, tough. I lost my mom a lil over two years ago, in some ways she was my best friend. My dad is with hospice now. Never really was close to him, except tried the last few years. Getting old just sucks.
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Questions like this always depend on how one defines friend and best friend. People have different perceptions and opinions. It is really up to the individual.

Coming from the military it was tough to have a "best friend" as every few years we all rotated to another assignment or even location. I suppose that these days, with social media, it is easier to keep track of people than it used to be.

Now, as an old fart, all my colleagues have their lives and families so it is once again difficult to cultivate a "best friend". But then I have a more conservative definition of friend and consider someone lucky if they have 2-3 good friends in their lifetime. Others have a more liberal definition. What ever works for people.

So, in order to try and identify common ground -- what exactly IS a best friend and what makes them different from a friend?
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