Bad News

[Herr-Berbunch]

I don't know what else to add to all the above posts, other than, thank you for the warning - one that gets repeatedly ignored all the time, and really shouldn't.

Again, not the praying kind, but you are in my thoughts and have my sincerest best wishes.

[vienna]

I wish the best for you and don't ever give up hope; I've known a few poeple who have had cancer and have beaten it. I'm sure you will, too...

[Magic1111]

Originally Posted by Feuer Frei!

Ich bin 39 Jahre alt. Eigentlich recht jung, aber habe gehöhrt das das ganz normal ist in dem Alter.
Niemals aufgeben, tja, da haben Sie recht. Anders werde das nich gehen mit diesem Fall.
Danke für Deine Worte. Jetzt im Moment bin ich shell-shocked. Weiss nicht was ich machen soll.
So viele Gedanken rennen im Kopf herum.
Ich bete zu unserem Herrn, der kann mir bestimmt helfen! Ich brauche Seine Hilfe jetzt.
Ich halte Dich am Laufenden. Danke nochmahls.

Hi !

Dann sind wir im gleichem Alter, ich werde im August 39 Jahre !

Bis Du Christ ? Ich ja, daher bete ich und tue das bitte auch ! ER wird Dir, so Gott will, helfen !!!

Ja, halte mich bitte auf dem Laufenden !

Alles Liebe und Gute,

Thomas

@ All: Sorry, I can this better express in my Mother-Language, therefore I write this in german words !

[Jimbuna]

Every best wish for a positive and successful outcome

[Feuer Frei!]

Originally Posted by Paul Riley

I am very sorry for you.
Can I just ask you how big this 'lump' was? I have heard people I know say they had a lump in their scrotum the size of a pea,is this about right,and was there any pain or discomfort in the area,also,were there any other side effects that made you curious that something may be wrong here?
Best of luck mate,and for the future

The lump was quiete big, if you can imagine the size of half an egg. It was tender but no signs otherwise of pain.
I guess in relation to signs or symptoms it's hard to ascertain with me because i was losing weight and had a few other symptoms which i thought were all attributed to this tumour.
Dull lower back pains, hunger pains, 2 to 3 hours after eating a full meal, reflux.
All these symptoms still exist, even after the removal.
Which begs me to believe that the cancer cell(s) are still present.
The symptoms have not disappeared.
No weight gain, it's going the opposite. reflux still there. Hunger pains still there.
In relation to the size of a pea, it is important that any sign of lumps, anywhere, must be checked immediately by the GP.
Rather be safe than sorry, right?
Thank you for your well wishes.

Originally Posted by Magic1111

Hi !

Dann sind wir im gleichem Alter, ich werde im August 39 Jahre !

Bis Du Christ ? Ich ja, daher bete ich und tue das bitte auch ! ER wird Dir, so Gott will, helfen !!!

Ja, halte mich bitte auf dem Laufenden !

Alles Liebe und Gute,

Thomas

@ All: Sorry, I can this better express in my Mother-Language, therefore I write this in german words !

Ich bin Christ Thomas.
Danke nochmals für alles.

And to all who have posted best wishes since my last thank you, i thank you.
I hope to hear from the Oncology Department today.

[Reece]

If you haven't got it might pay to get a cheap laptop with wifi, might come in handy, you'll need an internet connection with access to Subsim!!

[Flaxpants]

Originally Posted by Feuer Frei!

Thanks m8, did your friend go through chemo? How long for?
3 months is the minimum i have heard, and the fact sheet i linked earlier indicates that too.
Was there any weight loss? With him? The Doctors said that that is one of the side effects. But then i don't know what to believe, because in some people it makes them gain weight. That is due to the steroid tablet/injection

I'm going to get back to you on this FF, I haven't seen him for a few years now and am not clear on the details, all I am sure about is that he is extremely fit now- he runs a diving business. He did tell me that he was visiting Thailand this month funnily enough, but in any case I shall get in touch with him and find out his story and let you know.

[Skybird]

Alles Gute. Die Hoffnung nicht fahren lassen!

[andritsos]

[its not important if i dont know you ( even at the forums)], i wish you the very best and a speedy recovery and good support from people around you

have been looking at this fact sheet about Chemo from the hospital, some scary stuff:

This need not be scary. I had a cancer 8 years ago, a very aggresive bugger that grew overnight on my neck, when I looked in the mirror to combe my hair that morning I could see the thing sticking out, about the size of a mans thumb.

I have a very good friend who came to see me when he found out about this. We sat and talking for several hours and gradually my friend convinced me I was going to live, and I did I'm happy to say.

After I went through the operation, the chemo and radio therapy was over, for a reason I will never fully understand, I hit what I can only describe as a "high" it lasted about five years and in that time I excercised everyday by simple walking. I stopped drinking and smoking and concentrated on my health my staying within the "high".

I was 55 when cancer hit me, I forgot about work completely and stayed focused on living. The human Spirit is a wonderfull thing, but must be guarded. I walked away from everything and anything that demoralised or attemped to suck away my will to live, I hung on to "I believe I will live" which I kept telling myself as I walking everyday.

Survival rates have never been better and there is every likeyhood that your going to survive and lead a full and active life.

[Castout]

Originally Posted by Feuer Frei!

Thank you Castout. Thank you for your prayers and kind words.
My mother is gradually getting worse.
The norm is nowadays that she sleeps until midday, she may get up before then and complain about pains and she says she has no hunger for food, so she goes back to bed.
It is a habit with her now. Repeating things often, loss of memory, not remembering what she said previously, or seeking words to describe something.
All signs of early onset of Dementia.
My father is fast coming to the conclusion that outside intervention is needed. He is not sure how to handle the situation anymore. She has lost a lot of weight due to not eating much anymore. Once that happens it is getting difficult.
I spoke to my Mother a week ago, and it was a harrowing experience, to say the least.
I was emotional but did not show signs of it towards her.
Inwardly emotional.
It really touches you when a loved one is slipping down a deep slope like this.

Yeah my late grandmother suffered similar to your mother as well. But she was more than 80 year old then. She was so thin because she was eating less and less saying that she was never hungry. In the end she lost her fight to a flu. I still miss her. I actually had a reliable information she was going to be taken away from us about 2 months before she even got sick(I've had quite a few of that in my life. All three all accurate. All ahead of time). I refused to believe it until she got sick. I hope I'll see her again when my time is due. She was dear to me.

Edit:
Don't worry about how you are going to look worse fighting this cancer. That should be the least of your concern. Don't burden your immune system with needless worrying. Just concentrate on beating this and only then on recovering. No one in their sane mind would judge how well you look when you're battling cancer.

[Magic1111]

Originally Posted by Feuer Frei!

Ich bin Christ Thomas.
Danke nochmals für alles.

Guten Morgen !

Dafür nichts zu danken, ist doch selbstverständlich !

Bis dann, bin in Gedanken bei Dir mein Freund !

Viele Grüße,
Thomas

[Feuer Frei!]

Originally Posted by Flaxpants

I'm going to get back to you on this FF, I haven't seen him for a few years now and am not clear on the details, all I am sure about is that he is extremely fit now- he runs a diving business. He did tell me that he was visiting Thailand this month funnily enough, but in any case I shall get in touch with him and find out his story and let you know.

No problem. I appreciate your reply and the trouble you've gone to to find out further info.

Originally Posted by Skybird

Alles Gute. Die Hoffnung nicht fahren lassen!

Danke Skybird.

Originally Posted by andritsos

[its not important if i dont know you ( even at the forums)], i wish you the very best and a speedy recovery and good support from people around you

Thank you andritsos. I am surrounding myself with good people who are taking interest in my forthcoming battle and everyone is immensely supportive.

Originally Posted by sidslotm

This need not be scary. I had a cancer 8 years ago, a very aggresive bugger that grew overnight on my neck, when I looked in the mirror to combe my hair that morning I could see the thing sticking out, about the size of a mans thumb.

I have a very good friend who came to see me when he found out about this. We sat and talking for several hours and gradually my friend convinced me I was going to live, and I did I'm happy to say.

After I went through the operation, the chemo and radio therapy was over, for a reason I will never fully understand, I hit what I can only describe as a "high" it lasted about five years and in that time I excercised everyday by simple walking. I stopped drinking and smoking and concentrated on my health my staying within the "high".

I was 55 when cancer hit me, I forgot about work completely and stayed focused on living. The human Spirit is a wonderfull thing, but must be guarded. I walked away from everything and anything that demoralised or attemped to suck away my will to live, I hung on to "I believe I will live" which I kept telling myself as I walking everyday.

Survival rates have never been better and there is every likeyhood that your going to survive and lead a full and active life.

That is great news for you. I am happy for you. And you are another success story. I can take heart from that.

Originally Posted by Castout

Yeah my late grandmother suffered similar to your mother as well. But she was more than 80 year old then. She was so thin because she was eating less and less saying that she was never hungry. In the end she lost her fight to a flu. I still miss her. I actually had a reliable information she was going to be taken away from us about 2 months before she even got sick(I've had quite a few of that in my life. All three all accurate. All ahead of time). I refused to believe it until she got sick. I hope I'll see her again when my time is due. She was dear to me.

Edit:
Don't worry about how you are going to look worse fighting this cancer. That should be the least of your concern. Don't burden your immune system with needless worrying. Just concentrate on beating this and only then on recovering. No one in their sane mind would judge how well you look when you're battling cancer.

Yes, the physical appearance thing worries me greatly although i need to as you say, focus on more important things.
I think it will hit me once chemo starts and i start exhibiting the side effects.
But that is open to conjecture, i guess every person is different and ie reacts to chemo differently.

Originally Posted by Magic1111

Guten Morgen !

Dafür nichts zu danken, ist doch selbstverständlich !

Bis dann, bin in Gedanken bei Dir mein Freund !

Viele Grüße,
Thomas

Hallo Thomas,
wie geht's?
Viele Grüße.

Update:
I rang the Oncology today to see if i can fast-track the appointment date. And to find out when it all begins. They said they hadn't received any referral at all. Either that or they couldn't find it. Ah. This is a good start to the next 6 mths! Is this jinxed from the start?
The receptionist was very helpful and said she would call me back within half an hour to advise further. Low and behold, i received the phone call and was advised that the referral had been located and i will receive a phone call tomorrow, Friday for an appointment date.
I think overall this will all sink in properly once i lay on the hospital bed with a drip in my arm and watching the minutes and the hours tick by.
Thank you all for your support so far, more to follow.

[danasan]

Hi Feuer Frei,

I am really sorry to hear that.

My girlfriend went through all the treatment with breast cancer in 2002. When she was 32 years old. Cancer does not respect any youth.

The sooner the cancer is detected, the better are the chances. So good luck, the often mentioned 5 years of risk are over in her case and she is in good condition today.

From my experience, there are a lot of questions and fears regarding the therapy before it starts. That is not only for you but your relatives as well.
I guess you chose a good hospital with good reputation and with good staff as well.

If there is a chance to, ask your doctor there, do not hide your fears and the questions you might have. But they are often too busy in the hospitals. If so, try to see the doctor you usually go to, he / she will have the answers.

Even in the last couple of years medicine made great steps forward. Chemo therapy used to be very hard, depending on what is used, how much and how often. But it does not have to be. In fact, my girlfriend would have had a different treatment today.

But the therapy is as individual as the cancer is. And we fear the most what we do not know or understand.

Feuer Frei, ich wünsche Dir das Allerbeste. Niemals aufgeben!

danasan

[Feuer Frei!]

Originally Posted by danasan

Hi Feuer Frei,

I am really sorry to hear that.

My girlfriend went through all the treatment with breast cancer in 2002. When she was 32 years old. Cancer does not respect any youth.

The sooner the cancer is detected, the better are the chances. So good luck, the often mentioned 5 years of risk are over in her case and she is in good condition today.

Wonderful news! Your girfriend is a fighter and is strong. Great to hear.

From my experience, there are a lot of questions and fears regarding the therapy before it starts. That is not only for you but your relatives as well.
I guess you chose a good hospital with good reputation and with good staff as well.

If there is a chance to, ask your doctor there, do not hide your fears and the questions you might have. But they are often too busy in the hospitals. If so, try to see the doctor you usually go to, he / she will have the answers.
But the therapy is as individual as the cancer is. And we fear the most what we do not know or understand

I have already made a list of questions that i have for them. I will give them a barrage, i need to know the full deal here.
The unknown is a worry to all of us. But, the unknown can be even more brutal and painful and worrying if it concerns your life's outcome.

Feuer Frei, ich wünsche Dir das Allerbeste. Niemals aufgeben!
danasan

Vielen Dank danasan, Ich bin kämpferisch, bete zu Gott und
versuche jeden Tag positiv zu bleiben.