This isn't easy - Page 2

Oberon · 06-19-10, 06:33 AM

I'm with Dowly on this one, and well done to you for making that first step. It's not going to be an easy road, but like Dowly said, you can lean on us and talk to us and we will not judge you for it.

06-19-10, 07:36 AM

Good luck, some make it, some fail, some just muddle along between the two.

CaptainHaplo · 06-19-10, 07:50 AM

Its easy to keep lying to yourself about how it isn't affecting you.
Its easy to pick up that next drink and make the struggle go away.

Its hard to face the damage drinking can do to your life.
Its hard not to reach for that "just one".

But sometimes the hardest things are the ones most worthwhile. I do hope you have a friend to call when it gets really bad. Someone to constantly remind you - you don't want what this will cost in the long run. Stay strong my friend.

As for people judging - let he who is sinless cast the first stone. I know I am not holding any rocks to throw. I don't drink - and I will share with you why. I grew up with alcholic parents. I still figured it wouldn't get to me. I was in the military at the time - just a young, 20-something kid - and we had a party at a local Comfort Inn. At about 4am I woke up after passing out earlier, I looked around and everyone was unconscious, laying wherever. About 10 people, in a room rated for a max of 4. I reached up for something to drink - and my hand hit a bottle of orange jubilee Mad Dog that was mixed with Everclear. I had it in my hands, and I saw the clock.... Here I was knocking back stuff.... It hit me hard at that moment - I didn't want to continue down this road. I got lucky, I was not far down it at that point. Since that time many, many years ago - I can't say I haven't drank anything - but it is extremely rare. Had I not put a stop to it, I would have likely ended up an extreme alcoholic.

I haven't had your fight, but I do understand at least part of it. If you ever need a word of encouragement, drop me a note. Stay strong brother!

Jimbuna · 06-19-10, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by thorn69

I beat that bear years ago Sailor Steve and haven't ever looked back. But as the song in the link explains, it's the simple things in life that he's going to have to focus on not losing. There's really nothing anybody can do for him. Encouragement is nice but it only takes you so far. He's going to have to face his demons and fight to get back what Satan has taken from him. I wish him the best of luck in his endeavors. I just wanted to let him know that it is possible as I have been there myself. It just takes a hell of a lot of self control and focus. Eventually, most of the things he's lost will come back to him. Of course there's some things that can never be replaced and will be gone forever. He'll just have to accept that. Those will be the scars he will one day use to remind himself of where he was and where he is now. At least life gives you opportunities to start new relationships and start over with a clean slate. This is just the beginning of his rebirth. Best of luck to him.

^+10

Admitting you have a condition is the first hurdle to overcome.

I've known a few colleagues similar to yourself and those who came to the realisation of their problem and sought out advice and support came out the other end quite well.

Sadly, those who didn't simply plodded on (one died).

You've passed the first hurdle and I'm confident you'll continue progressing positively.

I wish you all the luck in the world sir

Betonov · 06-19-10, 07:56 AM

No shame in determination to free yourself from this curse and admitance is the first step

Good luck

DarkFish · 06-19-10, 08:37 AM

Good luck mate

Platapus · 06-19-10, 02:02 PM

I have not had a drink of Alcohol in 17 years. Feeling good about it.

Good luck with it.

krashkart · 06-19-10, 07:07 PM

I'm not too good with this sort of thing so; stay strong.

frau kaleun · 06-19-10, 10:04 PM

Ditto to what others have said, no need to apologize or to feel weird for talking about it here. Things like this - when you are open and honest about them, you soon find that you are not alone and that other people you know have Been There and are Doing That and can offer support you wouldn't have had access to otherwise.

Good luck with your journey and take it one day at a time. One hour at a time if that's what it takes to stay healthy.

JSLTIGER · 06-19-10, 10:08 PM

Agreed with the above. We're here to listen. I for one wish you all the best.

Lord_magerius · 06-20-10, 04:24 PM

Thanks for all the kind words of support guys (and gal) I really appreciate it

I've not touched a drink since Thursday night/ Friday morning, and I'm getting over the worst of the withdrawal symptoms. Still want a drink but not sweating and shaking over it anymore

Just keep telling myself that if I don't have one this month I can buy that new amp that I've been after.

Herr-Berbunch · 06-21-10, 02:28 PM

Well done, and the best of luck

AVGWarhawk · 06-21-10, 02:59 PM

Go man go....good job and good luck.

STEED · 06-21-10, 03:07 PM

Good luck.

Tchocky · 06-21-10, 04:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lord_magerius

Just keep telling myself that if I don't have one this month I can buy that new amp that I've been after.

That's excellent, to have a real concrete goal ahead of you that can come about purely through your effort and willpower, rock on!

06-19-10, 07:50 AM	#18
CaptainHaplo Silent Hunter Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 4,404 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 0	Its easy to keep lying to yourself about how it isn't affecting you. Its easy to pick up that next drink and make the struggle go away. Its hard to face the damage drinking can do to your life. Its hard not to reach for that "just one". But sometimes the hardest things are the ones most worthwhile. I do hope you have a friend to call when it gets really bad. Someone to constantly remind you - you don't want what this will cost in the long run. Stay strong my friend. As for people judging - let he who is sinless cast the first stone. I know I am not holding any rocks to throw. I don't drink - and I will share with you why. I grew up with alcholic parents. I still figured it wouldn't get to me. I was in the military at the time - just a young, 20-something kid - and we had a party at a local Comfort Inn. At about 4am I woke up after passing out earlier, I looked around and everyone was unconscious, laying wherever. About 10 people, in a room rated for a max of 4. I reached up for something to drink - and my hand hit a bottle of orange jubilee Mad Dog that was mixed with Everclear. I had it in my hands, and I saw the clock.... Here I was knocking back stuff.... It hit me hard at that moment - I didn't want to continue down this road. I got lucky, I was not far down it at that point. Since that time many, many years ago - I can't say I haven't drank anything - but it is extremely rare. Had I not put a stop to it, I would have likely ended up an extreme alcoholic. I haven't had your fight, but I do understand at least part of it. If you ever need a word of encouragement, drop me a note. Stay strong brother! __________________ Good Hunting! Captain Haplo

06-19-10, 08:37 AM	#21
DarkFish Sea Lord Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Stinking drunk in Eindhoven, the Netherlands Posts: 1,844 Downloads: 28 Uploads: 0	Good luck mate __________________

06-19-10, 02:02 PM	#22
Platapus Fleet Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 19,373 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 0	I have not had a drink of Alcohol in 17 years. Feeling good about it. Good luck with it. __________________ abusus non tollit usum - A right should NOT be withheld from people on the basis that some tend to abuse that right.

06-19-10, 07:07 PM	#23
krashkart Navy Seal Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 5,292 Downloads: 100 Uploads: 0	I'm not too good with this sort of thing so; stay strong. __________________ sent from my fingertips using a cheap keyboard

06-19-10, 10:08 PM	#25
JSLTIGER The Old Man Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Parkland, FL, USA Posts: 1,437 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	Agreed with the above. We're here to listen. I for one wish you all the best. __________________ Thor: Intel Core i7 4770K\|ASUS Z87Pro\|32GB DDR3 RAM\|11GB EVGA GeForce RTX 2080Ti Black\|256GB Crucial M4 SSD+2TB WD HDD\|4X LG BD-RE\|32" Acer Predator Z321QU 165Hz G-Sync (2540x1440)\|Logitech Z-323 2.1 Sound\|Win 10 Pro Explorer (MSI GL63 8RE-629 Laptop): Intel Core i7 8750H\|16GB DDR4 RAM\|6GB GeForce GTX 1060\|128GB SSD+1TB HDD\|15.6" Widescreen (1920x1080)\|Logitech R-20 2.1 Sound\|Win 10 Home

06-19-10, 06:33 AM	#16
Oberon Lucky Jack Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 25,976 Downloads: 61 Uploads: 20	I'm with Dowly on this one, and well done to you for making that first step. It's not going to be an easy road, but like Dowly said, you can lean on us and talk to us and we will not judge you for it.

06-19-10, 07:36 AM	#17
Tribesman Stowaway Posts: n/a Downloads: Uploads:	Good luck, some make it, some fail, some just muddle along between the two.

06-19-10, 07:56 AM	#20
Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	No shame in determination to free yourself from this curse and admitance is the first step Good luck

06-19-10, 10:04 PM	#24
frau kaleun Rear Admiral Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Skyri--oh who are we kidding, I'm probably at Lowe's. Again. Posts: 12,706 Downloads: 168 Uploads: 0	Ditto to what others have said, no need to apologize or to feel weird for talking about it here. Things like this - when you are open and honest about them, you soon find that you are not alone and that other people you know have Been There and are Doing That and can offer support you wouldn't have had access to otherwise. Good luck with your journey and take it one day at a time. One hour at a time if that's what it takes to stay healthy.

06-20-10, 04:24 PM	#26
Lord_magerius Seasoned Skipper Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Right by the hydrophone station Posts: 724 Downloads: 96 Uploads: 0	Thanks for all the kind words of support guys (and gal) I really appreciate it I've not touched a drink since Thursday night/ Friday morning, and I'm getting over the worst of the withdrawal symptoms. Still want a drink but not sweating and shaking over it anymore Just keep telling myself that if I don't have one this month I can buy that new amp that I've been after. __________________

06-21-10, 02:28 PM	#27
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	Well done, and the best of luck __________________

06-21-10, 02:59 PM	#28
AVGWarhawk Lucky Jack Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In a 1954 Buick. Posts: 28,265 Downloads: 90 Uploads: 0	Go man go....good job and good luck. __________________ “You're painfully alive in a drugged and dying culture.” ― Richard Yates, Revolutionary Road

06-21-10, 03:07 PM	#29
STEED Lucky Jack Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Down Town UK Posts: 27,695 Downloads: 89 Uploads: 48	Good luck. __________________ Dr Who rest in peace 1963-2017. To borrow Davros saying...I NAME YOU CHIBNALL THE DESTROYER OF DR WHO YOU KILLED IT!