The Doctors has given my Mom 2 more years at most.

mapuc · 10-01-23, 03:29 PM

Had a phone discussion with my elder sister some days ago and she told me that our Mom is suffering from severe cardiac failure. Something with the right part of her heart is 3 times bigger than the left side and the blood vene who goes between her lungs and to the right side of the heart is very big.

Doctors have made mistakes before-I say my Mom will live more than these 2 years which the doctors has given her.

Markus

Catfish · 10-01-23, 03:53 PM

I am sorry to hear this.
whatever, get a second opinion/examination. I do not know how old she is and I do not want to make up false hope, but there are a lot of things modern medicine can do.

mapuc · 10-01-23, 04:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Catfish

I am sorry to hear this.
whatever, get a second opinion/examination. I do not know how old she is and I do not want to make up false hope, but there are a lot of things modern medicine can do.

Thank you Catfish
She's 82 years old and she is, due to her age, not a candidate to get a new heart and lungs.

If she had been 30-40 years younger she would have been on the waiting list for a new heart and lungs.

She have said if there's some pills who would extend these 2 years with more years then she would take these pills.

Markus

Jeff-Groves · 10-01-23, 04:54 PM

Maybe I'm one of the rare type of Person that Death does not bother.
I was glad my Mother died but She suffered from dementia for years.
That bothered me more then her passing.

We are not getting out of Life alive! Not to our understanding anyway.
At 82 with maybe 2 more years? Not a bad run.
My Dad is 86 and I'd be surprise if he makes it to 88.

No one here can tell you how to handle this information. That's all on you and you alone!
Say prayers if that's your belief. But spend the time with your Mother if you can.
My Mother did not know who I was for years!

If you walk into the room, and your Mothers knows Who you are?
You are more blessed then I was. Treasure that my Friend!

Eichhörnchen · 10-01-23, 04:59 PM

We'll be thinking of you and your mom, Markus

mapuc · 10-01-23, 05:05 PM

Thank you for your kind words.

My Mom is still somewhat clear in her head despite her age.

It does happen she forget things.

Markus

Skybird · 10-01-23, 05:16 PM

That hits hard, and even if we think we can prepare ourselves for when the day comes our parents go, we are never really, aren't we. That must have been a shock for you, Markus. My parents are mid and end 70, and I think of these things a lot. Always feels terrible. Sad to hear you now must face these sort of thoughts. I wish you strength. Confidence. Calm. Myself, when caught in such sad windmills of the mind, I find guidance in stoicism. What must happen, one day will happen. However, we must not be ahead of the event in our mind. Enjoy the time there is left until then, grab it, embrace it, dont let go. And whatever there may be left to say between you two, speak it out now. If you miss the last chance to do so, you will regret it for the entire rest of your life. Thats unneeded.

Reece · 10-01-23, 08:10 PM

Sorry to hear the sad news Markus,

I myself hope for a huge heart attack and it's all over.

In our prayers.
All the best my friend.

u crank · 10-02-23, 06:11 AM

Sorry to hear this sad news Markus. We are thinking good thoughts for you.

Jimbuna · 10-02-23, 12:50 PM

That is extremely tough news Markus....wising your mom all the very best.

Commander Wallace · 10-02-23, 03:07 PM

I'm very sorry to hear about your mom, Markus. Cherish the time you do have. Catfish is right about getting a second opinion. Medical Science can do a lot, then God takes it from there.

We will be keeping you, your mom and family in our thoughts and prayers.

All the best, Markus.

mapuc · 10-02-23, 03:43 PM

Thank you for your carrying words.

I had a talk with my Mom over the phone some hours ago and she got an appointment next Monday 9th Oct.

Here she shall meet doctors specialist on lungs. She hope they will give her a more positive feedback or if they can provide her with pill(s)

She was very clear in her head when I talked with her-No sign of Dementia here.

One thing is clear-Her death will come as a lightning from a blue sky-She wouldn't feel anything...faint and then dead.

Which makes us(her Children) happy.

We knew that one day our Mom would not be here anymore. And the fact her death will be painless, is a good ting in this sad news.

Markus

10-01-23, 03:29 PM	#1
mapuc CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Denmark Posts: 20,535 Downloads: 37 Uploads: 0	The Doctors has given my Mom 2 more years at most. Had a phone discussion with my elder sister some days ago and she told me that our Mom is suffering from severe cardiac failure. Something with the right part of her heart is 3 times bigger than the left side and the blood vene who goes between her lungs and to the right side of the heart is very big. Doctors have made mistakes before-I say my Mom will live more than these 2 years which the doctors has given her. Markus __________________ My little lovely female cat

10-01-23, 03:53 PM	#2
Catfish Dipped Squirrel Operative Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: ..where the ocean meets the sky Posts: 17,765 Downloads: 38 Uploads: 0	I am sorry to hear this. whatever, get a second opinion/examination. I do not know how old she is and I do not want to make up false hope, but there are a lot of things modern medicine can do. __________________ >^..^<*)))>{ All generalizations are wrong.

10-01-23, 04:59 PM	#5
Eichhörnchen Starte das Auto Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: The Fens Posts: 17,371 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	We'll be thinking of you and your mom, Markus __________________

10-01-23, 05:05 PM	#6
mapuc CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Denmark Posts: 20,535 Downloads: 37 Uploads: 0	Thank you for your kind words. My Mom is still somewhat clear in her head despite her age. It does happen she forget things. Markus __________________ My little lovely female cat

10-01-23, 05:16 PM	#7
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,602 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	That hits hard, and even if we think we can prepare ourselves for when the day comes our parents go, we are never really, aren't we. That must have been a shock for you, Markus. My parents are mid and end 70, and I think of these things a lot. Always feels terrible. Sad to hear you now must face these sort of thoughts. I wish you strength. Confidence. Calm. Myself, when caught in such sad windmills of the mind, I find guidance in stoicism. What must happen, one day will happen. However, we must not be ahead of the event in our mind. Enjoy the time there is left until then, grab it, embrace it, dont let go. And whatever there may be left to say between you two, speak it out now. If you miss the last chance to do so, you will regret it for the entire rest of your life. Thats unneeded. __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

10-01-23, 04:54 PM	#4
Jeff-Groves GLOBAL MODDING TERRORIST Join Date: Sep 2014 Posts: 5,649 Downloads: 137 Uploads: 0	Maybe I'm one of the rare type of Person that Death does not bother. I was glad my Mother died but She suffered from dementia for years. That bothered me more then her passing. We are not getting out of Life alive! Not to our understanding anyway. At 82 with maybe 2 more years? Not a bad run. My Dad is 86 and I'd be surprise if he makes it to 88. No one here can tell you how to handle this information. That's all on you and you alone! Say prayers if that's your belief. But spend the time with your Mother if you can. My Mother did not know who I was for years! If you walk into the room, and your Mothers knows Who you are? You are more blessed then I was. Treasure that my Friend!

10-01-23, 08:10 PM	#8
Reece CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Down Under Posts: 34,688 Downloads: 171 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear the sad news Markus, I myself hope for a huge heart attack and it's all over. In our prayers. All the best my friend. __________________ *Sub captains go down with their ship!*

10-02-23, 06:11 AM	#9
u crank Old enough to know better Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Prince Edward Island Posts: 11,744 Downloads: 136 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear this sad news Markus. We are thinking good thoughts for you. __________________ “Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.” ― Arthur C. Clarke

10-02-23, 12:50 PM	#10
Jimbuna Chief of the Boat Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: 250 metres below the surface Posts: 190,461 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 13	That is extremely tough news Markus....wising your mom all the very best. __________________ Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. Oh my God, not again!!

10-02-23, 03:07 PM	#11
Commander Wallace Navy Seal Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Under the sea in an Octupus garden in the shade Posts: 5,294 Downloads: 366 Uploads: 0	I'm very sorry to hear about your mom, Markus. Cherish the time you do have. Catfish is right about getting a second opinion. Medical Science can do a lot, then God takes it from there. We will be keeping you, your mom and family in our thoughts and prayers. All the best, Markus.

10-02-23, 03:43 PM	#12
mapuc CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Denmark Posts: 20,535 Downloads: 37 Uploads: 0	Thank you for your carrying words. I had a talk with my Mom over the phone some hours ago and she got an appointment next Monday 9th Oct. Here she shall meet doctors specialist on lungs. She hope they will give her a more positive feedback or if they can provide her with pill(s) She was very clear in her head when I talked with her-No sign of Dementia here. One thing is clear-Her death will come as a lightning from a blue sky-She wouldn't feel anything...faint and then dead. Which makes us(her Children) happy. We knew that one day our Mom would not be here anymore. And the fact her death will be painless, is a good ting in this sad news. Markus __________________ My little lovely female cat