I feel bad. Opinions?

gimpy117 · 10-31-10, 03:35 PM

Well This girl I've been sort of seeing (were not exclusive) wants me to drive an hour to her party full of people I don't know. My roommate and his buddy are going out here in town and want me to come along. The Kicker is, I am no means dating this girl yet, and she wants me to come around to a party full of her family and friends. I Don't want to disappoint her, but i really don't wanna go...It just sounds like an awkward night for me with 2 hours of driving to boot.

whats your take on my situation?

Chad · 10-31-10, 04:02 PM

Do what makes you happy. There will be other opportunities to make this girl happy, and other times to hang out and play Bingo with her family

However, if you would rather hang out with her and family than hanging out with your buddies, if that's what makes you happy, do that

Or, if it comes down to it, flip a coin

Takeda Shingen · 10-31-10, 04:07 PM

Sounds like she is interested in making this relationship more serious. So, what it comes down to is what your intentions are. If you want to take the next step forward, you should probably go, as she is clearly inviting you into her circle of friends and family. If you do not want to take it any further, then you should stay at school.

JU_88 · 10-31-10, 04:38 PM

Tell her youre sick!

Mind you I did that once in very similar situation and I got dumped the following week, but (sorry if I sound like an ass) I didnt mind so much as I wasnt all that in to her.
(I was heavily under the influance when I hooked up with her int he first place)
Pretty lame of me I know

gimpy117 · 10-31-10, 04:48 PM

I see what you mean Takeda. Its just that I'm not so sure if the introduction to the family is so good just this early. I mean I have no problems being with her. She would be a nice girlfriend...its just I don't want to set the precedent of driving to grand rapids every weekend because she likes to go home.

Rockstar · 10-31-10, 05:07 PM

Here's my take, go out with your buddies and take a lesson here from Jake Blues when your girlfriend corners you at gunpoint.

JAKE: Oh, please don't kill us! You know I love you, baby! I didn't mean to leave you! It wasn't my fault! Oh please don't kill us! Please! Please, don't kill us!

The Mystery Woman looks at Jake with complete disgust.

MYSTERY WOMAN: You contemptible pig. You think you can talk your way out of this now? You betrayed me!

JAKE: (pleading) No I didn't, honest! I ran out of gas! I had a flat tire!., I didn't have enough money for cab fare! My tux didn't come back from the cleaners! An old friend came in from out of town! Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! It wasn't my fault! I swear to God!

Jake looks up at her and for the first time in the movie, takes off his dark glasses, revealing big, soulful, brown eyes.

The Mystery Woman begins to soften as Jake looks up at her like a puppy begging for some food. Finally she lowers the gun.

MYSTERY WOMAN: Oh, Jake...Jake ....

Jake, in a flash, is up, his glasses back on, grabs the Mystery Woman in a passionate embrace, giving her a fabulous Clark Gable type kiss. The Mystery Woman is overcome, Jake turns quickly to Elwood.

JAKE: Let's go.

He drops the Mystery Woman on her ass and he and Elwood tear out of the concrete tunnel.

Skybird · 10-31-10, 05:19 PM

????

If you want to drive her over to that place, do it. If you prefer to spend time with those two buddies, then don't drive her, and spend time with your buddies. If you want to stay alone, give both options a pass.

Don't make it complicated, don'T read things into things. The problem you believe to have, is no problem, but just your hyperactive imagination. If she wants something from you, she will - and should! - let you know more clearly. If she doesn't, that speaks for itself then.

gimpy117 · 10-31-10, 05:27 PM

hrm...food for though. she did ask this morning if i was coming or not. I told her i didn't know

Seth8530 · 10-31-10, 06:18 PM

If ya want this to move forward ya really should go over their with her. Girls dont ofter "just invite" some guy over to their familys place. It means she has a rather high opinion of you and might even be hurt if ya dont come.

Castout · 10-31-10, 06:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Takeda Shingen

Sounds like she is interested in making this relationship more serious. So, what it comes down to is what your intentions are. If you want to take the next step forward, you should probably go, as she is clearly inviting you into her circle of friends and family. If you do not want to take it any further, then you should stay at school.

what Takeda wrote..exactly

minus staying at school. If you really like her then . . . .if not then . . .This is the crossroad. She will know what's your attitude in your both relationship with your answer to her invitation.

FIREWALL · 10-31-10, 06:55 PM

If you have to come here and ask a bunch of strangers what to do in RL.

You've answered a question fo me.

I'll tell you your real problem. You can't think for yourself.

That tells me you have no business getting involved with that girl.

Sorry, but you came here and asked.

gimpy117 · 10-31-10, 07:28 PM

thanks firewall?

and I had already made up my mind. driving 2 hours on a Sunday night was not appealing to me. I wan't to be with a girl...not on her leash.

Gerald · 10-31-10, 07:36 PM

Take it easy for a while, and focused on what you most want to do, so you get enough distance to everything, until you find the kernel, you have the answer.

FIREWALL · 10-31-10, 11:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gimpy117

thanks firewall?

and I had already made up my mind. driving 2 hours on a Sunday night was not appealing to me. I wan't to be with a girl...not on her leash.

Now those are the words of a man who can think on his feet.

Buddahaid · 10-31-10, 11:06 PM

If you feel bad then you already know what you should do, or your Catholic.

10-31-10, 03:35 PM	#1
gimpy117 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kalamazoo, MI Posts: 3,243 Downloads: 108 Uploads: 0	I feel bad. Opinions? Well This girl I've been sort of seeing (were not exclusive) wants me to drive an hour to her party full of people I don't know. My roommate and his buddy are going out here in town and want me to come along. The Kicker is, I am no means dating this girl yet, and she wants me to come around to a party full of her family and friends. I Don't want to disappoint her, but i really don't wanna go...It just sounds like an awkward night for me with 2 hours of driving to boot. whats your take on my situation? __________________ Member of the Subsim Zombie Army

10-31-10, 04:02 PM	#2
Chad ACE Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Kansas City Posts: 1,274 Downloads: 60 Uploads: 0	Do what makes you happy. There will be other opportunities to make this girl happy, and other times to hang out and play Bingo with her family However, if you would rather hang out with her and family than hanging out with your buddies, if that's what makes you happy, do that Or, if it comes down to it, flip a coin __________________

10-31-10, 04:48 PM	#5
gimpy117 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kalamazoo, MI Posts: 3,243 Downloads: 108 Uploads: 0	I see what you mean Takeda. Its just that I'm not so sure if the introduction to the family is so good just this early. I mean I have no problems being with her. She would be a nice girlfriend...its just I don't want to set the precedent of driving to grand rapids every weekend because she likes to go home. __________________ Member of the Subsim Zombie Army

10-31-10, 05:07 PM	#6
Rockstar In the Brig Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Zendia Bar & Grill Posts: 12,614 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	Here's my take, go out with your buddies and take a lesson here from Jake Blues when your girlfriend corners you at gunpoint. JAKE: Oh, please don't kill us! You know I love you, baby! I didn't mean to leave you! It wasn't my fault! Oh please don't kill us! Please! Please, don't kill us! The Mystery Woman looks at Jake with complete disgust. MYSTERY WOMAN: You contemptible pig. You think you can talk your way out of this now? You betrayed me! JAKE: (pleading) No I didn't, honest! I ran out of gas! I had a flat tire!., I didn't have enough money for cab fare! My tux didn't come back from the cleaners! An old friend came in from out of town! Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! It wasn't my fault! I swear to God! Jake looks up at her and for the first time in the movie, takes off his dark glasses, revealing big, soulful, brown eyes. The Mystery Woman begins to soften as Jake looks up at her like a puppy begging for some food. Finally she lowers the gun. MYSTERY WOMAN: Oh, Jake...Jake .... Jake, in a flash, is up, his glasses back on, grabs the Mystery Woman in a passionate embrace, giving her a fabulous Clark Gable type kiss. The Mystery Woman is overcome, Jake turns quickly to Elwood. JAKE: Let's go. He drops the Mystery Woman on her ass and he and Elwood tear out of the concrete tunnel. Last edited by Rockstar; 10-31-10 at 05:20 PM.

10-31-10, 05:19 PM	#7
Skybird Soaring Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: the mental asylum named Germany Posts: 42,602 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	???? If you want to drive her over to that place, do it. If you prefer to spend time with those two buddies, then don't drive her, and spend time with your buddies. If you want to stay alone, give both options a pass. Don't make it complicated, don'T read things into things. The problem you believe to have, is no problem, but just your hyperactive imagination. If she wants something from you, she will - and should! - let you know more clearly. If she doesn't, that speaks for itself then. __________________ If you feel nuts, consult an expert.

10-31-10, 04:07 PM	#3
Takeda Shingen Navy Seal Join Date: Mar 2000 Posts: 8,643 Downloads: 19 Uploads: 0	Sounds like she is interested in making this relationship more serious. So, what it comes down to is what your intentions are. If you want to take the next step forward, you should probably go, as she is clearly inviting you into her circle of friends and family. If you do not want to take it any further, then you should stay at school.

10-31-10, 04:38 PM	#4
JU_88 Silent Hunter Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: UK Posts: 3,803 Downloads: 11 Uploads: 0	Tell her youre sick! Mind you I did that once in very similar situation and I got dumped the following week, but (sorry if I sound like an ass) I didnt mind so much as I wasnt all that in to her. (I was heavily under the influance when I hooked up with her int he first place) Pretty lame of me I know

10-31-10, 05:27 PM	#8
gimpy117 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kalamazoo, MI Posts: 3,243 Downloads: 108 Uploads: 0	hrm...food for though. she did ask this morning if i was coming or not. I told her i didn't know __________________ Member of the Subsim Zombie Army

10-31-10, 06:18 PM	#9
Seth8530 Captain Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Tennessee Posts: 546 Downloads: 17 Uploads: 0	If ya want this to move forward ya really should go over their with her. Girls dont ofter "just invite" some guy over to their familys place. It means she has a rather high opinion of you and might even be hurt if ya dont come. __________________

10-31-10, 06:55 PM	#11
FIREWALL Eternal Patrol Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: CATALINA IS. SO . CAL USA Posts: 10,108 Downloads: 511 Uploads: 0	If you have to come here and ask a bunch of strangers what to do in RL. You've answered a question fo me. I'll tell you your real problem. You can't think for yourself. That tells me you have no business getting involved with that girl. Sorry, but you came here and asked. __________________ RIP FIREWALL I Play GWX. Silent Hunter Who ???

10-31-10, 07:28 PM	#12
gimpy117 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Kalamazoo, MI Posts: 3,243 Downloads: 108 Uploads: 0	thanks firewall? and I had already made up my mind. driving 2 hours on a Sunday night was not appealing to me. I wan't to be with a girl...not on her leash. __________________ Member of the Subsim Zombie Army

10-31-10, 07:36 PM	#13
Gerald SUBSIM Newsman Join Date: May 2008 Location: Close to sea Posts: 24,254 Downloads: 553 Uploads: 0	Take it easy for a while, and focused on what you most want to do, so you get enough distance to everything, until you find the kernel, you have the answer. __________________ Nothing in life is to be feard,it is only to be understood. Marie Curie

10-31-10, 11:06 PM	#15
Buddahaid Shark above Space Chicken Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 9,319 Downloads: 162 Uploads: 0	If you feel bad then you already know what you should do, or your Catholic. __________________ "However vast the darkness, we must provide our own light." Stanley Kubrick "Tomorrow belongs to those who can hear it coming." David Bowie