on a serious note

Harvs · 08-01-15, 07:45 PM

To everyone on this site, if you know of someone suffering from depression i urge you to get them help, if they refuse help please do all you can to override their decision, my sister in law lost her battle last night, it has absolutely devastated all who loved her, she continually refused our attempts to help her or to get her help, we all feel we have failed her, if only we could have done more she might still be with us so please try your hardest.

Torplexed · 08-01-15, 07:54 PM

Oh man. That's crushing news. Condolences for your family's loss.

u crank · 08-01-15, 07:58 PM

So sorry for your loss Harvs. An all to common affliction of this present age.

My condolences to you and your family.

Sailor Steve · 08-01-15, 07:59 PM

As someone who lives with depression myself, I can understand how she felt. That said, I'm sorry it went this far.

STEED · 08-02-15, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sailor Steve

As someone who lives with depression myself, I can understand how she felt. That said, I'm sorry it went this far.

I'm the same as Steve, had this condition for over 20 years now the medication does not work for me as I react badly to it, counseling helps to agree but when you go though NHS channels here in the UK it take time. Statistics in the UK show Depression is on the up and there are people who will not except it, I went to a job interview and as you do answer their questions and when it came to my depression the guy said oh that old chestnut dodge to get out of work! Made me go down couple more notches for that week.

Harvs you and all who tried to help must not blame yourselves you tried to help and that something was better than nothing.

08-02-15, 07:35 AM

Terrible news :/

Oberon · 08-01-15, 08:01 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that Harvs, depression is an absolute...well, it's a horrible thing, and I'm sorry to hear that your sister lost her fight.
Don't blame yourself though, blame the illness that took her from you, but don't blame yourself.

Commander Wallace · 08-01-15, 08:49 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss Harvs. I'm sure you and your family did everything you could do but depression and bi polar illnesses are horrible for those afflicted and those who can only stand by and try to help. Prayers for you and your family.

fireftr18 · 08-01-15, 09:02 PM

Sorry to hear about your loss Harvs. True depression is a terrible, and devastating affliction. I've seen way too much of the result myself. I know it's terrible on the family. You and your family did all you could, and as a loving family, you did not fail her. Like cancer, it was the disease that took her. Prayers for you and your family.

Eichhörnchen · 08-02-15, 02:49 AM

So sorry to hear about this, Harvs. I can only echo what's been said, especially by Oberon.

So many of us have a close relative suffering from this. Perhaps the worst thing about it is that they often don't know why they feel the way they do, so they try to hide it because they don't think their family will understand either: it's a "black dog" which comes of its own accord, and an illness which you couldn't have cured for her. All you can ever do is try to be understanding. Don't blame yourself, mate.

Onkel Neal · 08-02-15, 07:51 PM

I'm sorry to hear that Harvs.

Wolferz · 08-03-15, 05:11 AM

To Miss Carolyn Tait.

May you be at peace in the loving arms of the creator.

Commander Wallace · 08-03-15, 09:30 AM

So upsetting to hear of a physician with so little empathy or respect for a patient and their respective families and what they are going through.

To Carolyn Tait and her family and yours and while I'm at it, to Laufen Zum Ziel and Kiwi too

May they all know the sunshine of God's love

Schroeder · 08-03-15, 11:42 AM

Raises glass.
May you find the peace in death that you could not find in life Carolyn.

Platapus · 08-03-15, 05:39 PM

I am very sorry to hear of your loss

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Originally Posted by Harvs

if only we could have done more she might still be with us

For your sake and the sake of your family, you need to get past this line of thought. You were there for her and you offered help. Worrying about what you could have done more will only bring you more sorrow.

08-01-15, 07:45 PM	#1
Harvs Grey Wolf Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: Noonamah,Darwin Posts: 769 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	on a serious note To everyone on this site, if you know of someone suffering from depression i urge you to get them help, if they refuse help please do all you can to override their decision, my sister in law lost her battle last night, it has absolutely devastated all who loved her, she continually refused our attempts to help her or to get her help, we all feel we have failed her, if only we could have done more she might still be with us so please try your hardest. __________________ *You cannot kill that which cannot be hit.* [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] Intel Core i7-2600K CPU @ 3.40GHz Liquid cooled NVIDIA GeForce GTX650 TiBOOST X2 in SLI 16GB RAM Windows 7 Home Premium SP1 64BIT ASUS MAXIMUS V GENE Motherboard

08-01-15, 07:54 PM	#2
Torplexed Let's Sink Sumptin' ! Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 5,823 Downloads: 43 Uploads: 0	Oh man. That's crushing news. Condolences for your family's loss. __________________ --Mobilis in Mobili--

08-01-15, 07:58 PM	#3
u crank Old enough to know better Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Prince Edward Island Posts: 11,746 Downloads: 136 Uploads: 0	So sorry for your loss Harvs. An all to common affliction of this present age. My condolences to you and your family. __________________ “Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.” ― Arthur C. Clarke

08-01-15, 07:59 PM	#4
Sailor Steve Eternal Patrol Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: High in the mountains of Utah Posts: 50,369 Downloads: 745 Uploads: 249	As someone who lives with depression myself, I can understand how she felt. That said, I'm sorry it went this far. __________________ “Never do anything you can't take back.” —Rocky Russo

08-01-15, 08:49 PM	#8
Commander Wallace Navy Seal Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Under the sea in an Octupus garden in the shade Posts: 5,304 Downloads: 366 Uploads: 0	Depression I'm very sorry for your loss Harvs. I'm sure you and your family did everything you could do but depression and bi polar illnesses are horrible for those afflicted and those who can only stand by and try to help. Prayers for you and your family. Last edited by Commander Wallace; 08-01-15 at 10:34 PM.

08-02-15, 07:35 AM	#6
Nippelspanner Stowaway Posts: n/a Downloads: Uploads:	Terrible news :/

08-01-15, 08:01 PM	#7
Oberon Lucky Jack Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 25,976 Downloads: 61 Uploads: 20	I'm really sorry to hear that Harvs, depression is an absolute...well, it's a horrible thing, and I'm sorry to hear that your sister lost her fight. Don't blame yourself though, blame the illness that took her from you, but don't blame yourself.

08-01-15, 09:02 PM	#9
fireftr18 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,528 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear about your loss Harvs. True depression is a terrible, and devastating affliction. I've seen way too much of the result myself. I know it's terrible on the family. You and your family did all you could, and as a loving family, you did not fail her. Like cancer, it was the disease that took her. Prayers for you and your family. __________________ Of all the forms of Martial Arts, Karaoke causes the most pain!

08-02-15, 02:49 AM	#10
Eichhörnchen Starte das Auto Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: The Fens Posts: 17,401 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	So sorry to hear about this, Harvs. I can only echo what's been said, especially by Oberon. So many of us have a close relative suffering from this. Perhaps the worst thing about it is that they often don't know why they feel the way they do, so they try to hide it because they don't think their family will understand either: it's a "black dog" which comes of its own accord, and an illness which you couldn't have cured for her. All you can ever do is try to be understanding. Don't blame yourself, mate. __________________

08-02-15, 07:51 PM	#11
Onkel Neal Born to Run Silent Join Date: Jan 1997 Location: Cougar Trap, Texas Posts: 21,385 Downloads: 541 Uploads: 224	I'm sorry to hear that Harvs. __________________ SUBSIM - 26 Years on the Web

08-03-15, 05:11 AM	#12
Wolferz Navy Seal Join Date: May 2007 Location: On a mighty quest for the Stick of Truth Posts: 5,963 Downloads: 52 Uploads: 0	A toast To Miss Carolyn Tait. May you be at peace in the loving arms of the creator. __________________ Tomorrow never comes

08-03-15, 09:30 AM	#13
Commander Wallace Navy Seal Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Under the sea in an Octupus garden in the shade Posts: 5,304 Downloads: 366 Uploads: 0	raising a glass So upsetting to hear of a physician with so little empathy or respect for a patient and their respective families and what they are going through. To Carolyn Tait and her family and yours and while I'm at it, to Laufen Zum Ziel and Kiwi too May they all know the sunshine of God's love

08-03-15, 11:42 AM	#14
Schroeder Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Banana Republic of Germany Posts: 6,170 Downloads: 62 Uploads: 0	Raises glass. May you find the peace in death that you could not find in life Carolyn. __________________ Putting Germ back into Germany.