Could you stay with someone from 13-18+? - Page 2

11-18-10, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by August

You just haven't found the right woman yet.

If I had a nickel for every time I've heard that..........

August · 11-18-10, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by The Third Man

If I had a nickel for every time I've heard that..........

You'd have like what, 10-20 cents?

AVGWarhawk · 11-18-10, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by August

You just haven't found the right woman yet.

Try a left woman.

August · 11-18-10, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by AVGWarhawk

Try a left woman.

I once left a woman. She kept getting on my nerves!

Ducimus · 11-18-10, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Takeda Shingen

I guess you could, but you need to remember that the emotional centers of your brains won't fully develop until your mid-twenties for men, and late teens/early-twenties for women. Up to that point, people are essentially children in the bodies of adults. Selecting a partner for life during that time is probably not going to be a reality, regardless of stated intention.

I have to agree with this. My outlook on many things when i was in my early teens, changed completely in my mid 20's.

CaptainHaplo · 11-19-10, 01:36 AM

TTM - a wild year and a half? Eyebolt in the ceiling? Harness, wall chains, stocks, cage?

Ahhh, a man after my own deviant mind it would seem.

Buddahaid · 11-19-10, 02:43 AM

I married my 'girl' from 11th grade. That was 32 years ago, so.....

Castout · 11-19-10, 04:28 AM

I respect men who get married and keep their commitment and sacred oath at least mostly.

Marriage is about sharing your life with a partner.

Too many men nowadays don't respect their marriage oath and consider them free to screw any women they fancy but demanded faithfulness to their wife. One cannot get more childish than these 'men'.

If a man still likes to flirt and have sex with many other women then he should not get married in the first place. It wouldn't be fair to the lady. Should have said it plainly: Honey this ring doesn't mean I won't sleep with another women.

Armistead · 11-19-10, 10:50 AM

I was a scum bucket in my 20's with women, the more the better. Somehow I met the right one and grew up about age 32, been with her ever since and never once had the desire to cheat.

GoldenRivet · 11-19-10, 11:29 AM

Here is my take on this:

When i was 15 i expressed a great deal of interest in a cute blond i flirted with all the time and i asked her out... we dated for almost 2 years through high school.

It was rough because we quickly outgrew each other, but were not mature enough to just "walk away".

I had a hand full of opportunities to date some other really fantastic young ladies - but i missed those opportunities because of staying with this one girl.

our relationship became this sort of on and off thing that resulted in a lot of heated arguments and fighting. we were so comfortable with one another - yet so sick of one anther at the same time. additionally, she was a very difficult person to get along with even on a good day (anyone who knows her would tell you that same thing)

I'm glad i had the relationship because it taught me a lot about what i DID and what i DIDN'T want in a relationship.

i think it is important to have bad relationships just as much as it is to have good relationships - they all teach you something.

On the other hand i regret staying with her for more than about 6 months because 1- i missed out on a lot of other dating opportunities by being "tied down" and 2- i missed out on a lot of time with my friends because of always hanging around this girl.

They say that "Youth, is wasted on the young."

it is and it isnt...

youth is wasted on the young because they make decisions like dating the same girl through their entire teen years.

youth is not wasted on the young as long as they learn something from it.

you're only a teenager once, do what you have to do to enjoy it. If you think that means a solid committed relationship to one woman for the entirety of your teen years - go for it. but all i can tell you in that regard is that you MUST "play the field" and get a sampling of what is out there or else you will be spending the entirety of your teen years - and possibly a great majority of your adult years married to or exclusively dating a total ball busting bitch.

Takeda Shingen · 11-19-10, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by GoldenRivet

I'm glad i had the relationship because it taught me a lot about what i DID and what i DIDN'T want in a relationship.

i think it is important to have bad relationships just as much as it is to have good relationships - they all teach you something.

That is fantastic and rarely-stated advice.

GoldenRivet · 11-19-10, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Takeda Shingen

That is fantastic and rarely-stated advice.

Thanks.

it is also important to be as outward in your observations as it is to be inward.

in other words - don't just focus on what you're looking for in a partner... try to focus on the things that make you a good or bad partner too and work on addressing those things.

One thing that makes my marriage so open and enjoyable is that i have been fortunate enough to live through some intensely crappy relationships and suffer through the loss of some really awesome ones.

its as much about the destination as it is the journey

krashkart · 11-19-10, 11:49 AM

^^ And you sir are on a remarkable journey, Mr. "I met the President (before he was President)".

Bad experiences are like good experiences - either way it adds up to experience.

GoldenRivet · 11-19-10, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by krashkart

^^ And you sir are on a remarkable journey

i prefer to think of it as several unremarkable months punctuated by one or two remarkable days here and there

krashkart · 11-19-10, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by GoldenRivet

i prefer to think of it as several unremarkable months punctuated by one or two remarkable days here and there

Such is the ebb and flow of life, I suppose.

11-19-10, 01:36 AM	#21
CaptainHaplo Silent Hunter Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 4,404 Downloads: 29 Uploads: 0	TTM - a wild year and a half? Eyebolt in the ceiling? Harness, wall chains, stocks, cage? Ahhh, a man after my own deviant mind it would seem. __________________ Good Hunting! Captain Haplo

11-19-10, 02:43 AM	#22
Buddahaid Shark above Space Chicken Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 9,330 Downloads: 162 Uploads: 0	I married my 'girl' from 11th grade. That was 32 years ago, so..... __________________ "However vast the darkness, we must provide our own light." Stanley Kubrick "Tomorrow belongs to those who can hear it coming." David Bowie

11-19-10, 04:28 AM	#23
Castout Silent Hunter Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Jakarta Posts: 4,794 Downloads: 89 Uploads: 6	I respect men who get married and keep their commitment and sacred oath at least mostly. Marriage is about sharing your life with a partner. Too many men nowadays don't respect their marriage oath and consider them free to screw any women they fancy but demanded faithfulness to their wife. One cannot get more childish than these 'men'. If a man still likes to flirt and have sex with many other women then he should not get married in the first place. It wouldn't be fair to the lady. Should have said it plainly: Honey this ring doesn't mean I won't sleep with another women. __________________ My blog: http://exposingsingapore.wordpress.com/

11-19-10, 11:29 AM	#25
GoldenRivet Subsim Aviator Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 8,726 Downloads: 146 Uploads: 0	Here is my take on this: When i was 15 i expressed a great deal of interest in a cute blond i flirted with all the time and i asked her out... we dated for almost 2 years through high school. It was rough because we quickly outgrew each other, but were not mature enough to just "walk away". I had a hand full of opportunities to date some other really fantastic young ladies - but i missed those opportunities because of staying with this one girl. our relationship became this sort of on and off thing that resulted in a lot of heated arguments and fighting. we were so comfortable with one another - yet so sick of one anther at the same time. additionally, she was a very difficult person to get along with even on a good day (anyone who knows her would tell you that same thing) I'm glad i had the relationship because it taught me a lot about what i DID and what i DIDN'T want in a relationship. i think it is important to have bad relationships just as much as it is to have good relationships - they all teach you something. On the other hand i regret staying with her for more than about 6 months because 1- i missed out on a lot of other dating opportunities by being "tied down" and 2- i missed out on a lot of time with my friends because of always hanging around this girl. They say that "Youth, is wasted on the young." it is and it isnt... youth is wasted on the young because they make decisions like dating the same girl through their entire teen years. youth is not wasted on the young as long as they learn something from it. you're only a teenager once, do what you have to do to enjoy it. If you think that means a solid committed relationship to one woman for the entirety of your teen years - go for it. but all i can tell you in that regard is that you MUST "play the field" and get a sampling of what is out there or else you will be spending the entirety of your teen years - and possibly a great majority of your adult years married to or exclusively dating a total ball busting bitch. __________________

11-19-10, 10:50 AM	#24
Armistead Rear Admiral Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: on the Dan Posts: 10,880 Downloads: 364 Uploads: 0	I was a scum bucket in my 20's with women, the more the better. Somehow I met the right one and grew up about age 32, been with her ever since and never once had the desire to cheat.

11-19-10, 11:49 AM	#28
krashkart Navy Seal Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 5,292 Downloads: 100 Uploads: 0	^^ And you sir are on a remarkable journey, Mr. "I met the President (before he was President)". Bad experiences are like good experiences - either way it adds up to experience.