Dating an older woman

[Platapus]

The Frau is older than I am. Does not seem to make much of a difference.

Of course, her doctor advised her to be careful during sex. When there is a significant difference in ages, the sexual acts can be risky.

She told the doctor, "if he dies, he dies."

[TarJak]

We are here for a good time not a long time. Go for it. You might learn something you don't know and so might she. Enjoy.

[Bubblehead1980]

Originally Posted by TarJak

We are here for a good time not a long time. Go for it. You might learn something you don't know and so might she. Enjoy.

That's the view I tend to take, just gets complicated with different factors, sure we will figure it out.

[Bubblehead1980]

Originally Posted by Platapus

The Frau is older than I am. Does not seem to make much of a difference.

Of course, her doctor advised her to be careful during sex. When there is a significant difference in ages, the sexual acts can be risky.

She told the doctor, "if he dies, he dies."

haha

[u crank]

Originally Posted by Platapus

She told the doctor, "if he dies, he dies."

Now that's a love story.

[Tchocky]

I've been the older and the younger a few times by now - there are always issues, and I guess the larger the gap the greater the issue. That's not to say it has to be problematic, but pretending an age gap doesn't exist will cause problems long-term.

I suppose the best thing you can do, Bubbles, is let it run for a while then have an open conversation about what each of you wants from the relationship - that's something that changes with age.

[Armistead]

I would think at your age it shouldn't be a problem, unless you want kids.

If you were born in 80, I don't see the cougar thing being a big issue if she's less than 40.

[Wolferz]

Probably won't be an issue unless you're together long enough for her to reach menopause, then it can get a bit dicey and after that comes all the retrograde effects of the aging female body like osteoporosis etc.

Unless you are willing to make a long term loving commitment toward her care, you're going to have an issue.
My current wife is four years my senior and the last twenty years have seen her in degrading health due to one accident after another putting her flat on her back for extended periods of time. I'm talking almost totally helpless flat on her back.

But, always the big but, if you have found your soul mate, there shouldn't be any hardship too great.
Weigh your options carefully and good luck.

[Armistead]

Originally Posted by Wolferz

Probably won't be an issue unless you're together long enough for her to reach menopause, then it can get a bit dicey and after that comes all the retrograde effects of the aging female body like osteoporosis etc.

Unless you are willing to make a long term loving commitment toward her care, you're going to have an issue.
My current wife is four years my senior and the last twenty years have seen her in degrading health due to one accident after another putting her flat on her back for extended periods of time. I'm talking almost totally helpless flat on her back.

But, always the big but, if you have found your soul mate, there shouldn't be any hardship too great.
Weigh your options carefully and good luck.

Yea, damn that menopause. I finally figured why they named it that, cause the mans sex life is put on pause, least it's not the same. Might be a problem if your a younger man.


"But, always the big but, if you have found your soul mate, there shouldn't be any hardship too great."

The but may get bigger as they age. My wife didn't have much of a but until she got older, now I like it, so don't see it as a hardship.

However, they say true love works through issues, but I say find love minus as many issues as possible.


I married an older gal as well, with my young good looks, I tell her she's a cougar.

[Aktungbby]

[QUOTE=Wolferz;2108822]Probably won't be an issue unless you're together long enough for her to reach menopause, then it can get a bit dicey and after that comes all the retrograde effects of the aging female body like osteoporosis etc.

Unless you are willing to make a long term loving commitment toward her care, you're going to have an issue.

There are long term loving commitments in frostbite falls? 'Damn the menopause! Full speed ahead!'-Farragut at Mobile's Bay lashed to the rigging and standing on a case of contraband astroglide.

[Bubblehead1980]

Originally Posted by Armistead

I would think at your age it shouldn't be a problem, unless you want kids.

If you were born in 80, I don't see the cougar thing being a big issue if she's less than 40.

I wasnt born in 80, just a number i chose when i signed up at ubi back in the day, think it wouldnt let me use my birth year for some reason, carried name over so people would know me here. Well, she is in mid 30's im pushing into later 20's. I don't want children and dont see that changing to be honest. I think the big issue is melding our lives enough to actually date and not stay the casual level we are now. She likes my friends but of course it's a different thing, my friends are all my age and mostly single, so when we go out its to a pub etc, he friends are mostly married, want us over for a dinner party , which is fine, I like both but we both have gotten annoyed with each others friends. Politics are an issue too so we just kind of steer clear of that, she's a liberal and that annoys me but most women are so its just something to deal with.

Heard some valid points here.Most of my friends consists of "she is a hot well off 35 year old, go for it" and if it was just sex would be one thing but turns out there are feelings on both ends, all that nonsense lol.

[Armistead]

Originally Posted by Bubblehead1980

I wasnt born in 80, just a number i chose when i signed up at ubi back in the day, think it wouldnt let me use my birth year for some reason, carried name over so people would know me here. Well, she is in mid 30's im pushing into later 20's. I don't want children and dont see that changing to be honest. I think the big issue is melding our lives enough to actually date and not stay the casual level we are now. She likes my friends but of course it's a different thing, my friends are all my age and mostly single, so when we go out its to a pub etc, he friends are mostly married, want us over for a dinner party , which is fine, I like both but we both have gotten annoyed with each others friends. Politics are an issue too so we just kind of steer clear of that, she's a liberal and that annoys me but most women are so its just something to deal with.

Heard some valid points here.Most of my friends consists of "she is a hot well off 35 year old, go for it" and if it was just sex would be one thing but turns out there are feelings on both ends, all that nonsense lol.

Be careful, it's easy to get invested, then try to fix issues. My brother has been doing it for years. The relationship is bad, but he thinks because he's invested years and feels in love, he won't give it up. They had a lot of chemistry to start, but were very different. They've broke wedding dates several times. He's rather conservative, she's liberal. He ain't gonna move on, just let the high and lows continue until he breaks