Age differences in relationships

[Takeda Shingen]

Originally Posted by breadcatcher101

Another thing, we are both married--although of course not to eachother.

Well, that just tears it all. End one relationship before starting another.

[Platapus]

Originally Posted by Takeda Shingen

Well, that just tears it all. End one relationship before starting another.

if I may add something

End one relationship
Take some time to fully recover from that relationship
Then you can start to consider another relationship.

It takes a while to get over a relationship. Jumping into another one too soon can cause problems.

[FIREWALL]

Be Carefull. Misery loves company.

I say go for her if you can really connect, as I say: "A love is one soul in two bodies"

[breadcatcher101]

Yes, I fully intend to reslove my present relationship first, whether she does that to hers is up to her. Then we'll see. Who knows, she might find out the things I enjoy may bore her.

Until that time, we will be just friends.

[Shearwater]

For how long have you known her, and from what situations? I don't know whether I can offer any good advice here, but I think that thinking about that question could perhaps clear things up a little.

A lot of good points have been issued here. Personally, I would say that your first problem is not exactly the age difference. It's more the fact that you don't have a lot of friends, as you have stated. Be careful here.
Imagine you decide to pursue a relationship. If it works fine, then I think it'll be very sweet for you indeed. But if something goes wrong, whom do you have to turn to? From my personal experience I can tell you that a lack of friends (or only being unable to see them for a long while when you need them) can make failure in romantic matters much harder to bear. Also, personal unhapiness is not exactly a good starter. - Do not think about what she can give to you, but think about what you can give to her.

All that said, my advice would still be: Go for it if it feels right for you

[breadcatcher101]

We have known each other 5 months, we work at the same place, mostly talk at lunch by our selves.

I understand the need for friends, but look at the replies here. Who says I don't have any?

Anyway, my friends I had mostly would have said "go for it" with only the thrill of having such a younger woman, not the type of advice I would have seeked. You guys have done a much better job than they ever would have.

I the past I have had "true friends" but that has been so long ago, no idea where they are now.

I have to settle things with my present wife first. Next time she flares up for no reason would be the time to call it over for us.

By that time, if my young friend still feels the same way, we'll go from there.

If not, at least I will be free.

Originally Posted by breadcatcher101

We have known each other 5 months, we work at the same place, mostly talk at lunch by our selves.

I understand the need for friends, but look at the replies here. Who says I don't have any?

Anyway, my friends I had mostly would have said "go for it" with only the thrill of having such a younger woman, not the type of advice I would have seeked. You guys have done a much better job than they ever would have.

I the past I have had "true friends" but that has been so long ago, no idea where they are now.

I have to settle things with my present wife first. Next time she flares up for no reason would be the time to call it over for us.

By that time, if my young friend still feels the same way, we'll go from there.

If not, at least I will be free.

I'm not that BIG expert in family life but I know something important too
For relationship to last three vital subjects from both sides are a must: Respect, Friendship and Passion.

I guess that all these problems that occur from a loooong time together are because there's a lack of refreshing things couples do together. All you need to do yourself or with wife is put the imagination to work and slightly push yourself towards the fruition of idea.

I guess it's something like middle-age crisis that happens to people, but hang in there it will fade away, and you will be thanking yourself later that you didn't do the silly thing with much younger woman. Everyone has to deal with their family problems inside the circle of the family. Good luck

[AVGWarhawk]

My wife is 36 and I'm 44. Not quite the gap you are looking at but the difference makes no difference. I briefly read your post and stopped at 'having to take care for me when I'm an old man'. Come on, are you already thinking about that? Go, enjoy a good time with her and forget about what might happen. Be your own man and be in a relationship but still be independent.

I always make fun with my wife, she says I robbed the cradle. I say, no I got someone to push my wheel chair when I'm old and gray. Then I follow it up with, 'I do not care if you get a boyfriend when I'm wheel chair bound. Just feed me, change my drawers if I mess them and keep the drool off my chin.' Screw it, I'm having a great time!

Originally Posted by AVGWarhawk

My wife is 36 and I'm 44. Not quite the gap you are looking at but the difference makes no difference. I briefly read your post and stopped at 'having to take care for me when I'm an old man'. Come on, are you already thinking about that? Go, enjoy a good time with her and forget about what might happen. Be your own man and be in a relationship but still be independent.

I always make fun with my wife, she says I robbed the cradle. I say, no I got someone to push my wheel chair when I'm old and gray. Then I follow it up with, 'I do not care if you get a boyfriend when I'm wheel chair bound. Just feed me, change my drawers if I mess them and keep the drool off my chin.' Screw it, I'm having a great time!

Yeah well the height of the problem depends from your own (easy-going/hard-analysing type) attitude and face values you stand for..