SH5 multiplayer - no servers listed in ubi.com and no lan setup?

Sorry this isnt in the SH5 topic, but for some reason it says "Registered viewers have access to this forum"?? It's the only one that is so I posted hear.

Anywho, I finally got my friend to buy SH5 on steam so we can play together, but when I create a mission on ubi.com under multiplayer tab, he can't see my game, but I can enter it ok and sail around. If he creates a game and I look, it never shows up either. We have both tried uninstalling and reinstalled, refresh a million times... nothing helps. Any ideas?

My second thought was to just do a direct hosting and connection under the lan tan, but there is no way to enter the ip address of the host?? Does it REALLY mean LOCAL NET only?

I hope someone can help, at the very least he can return his steam purchase I think since it wont work... I play singleplayer and have it for years so don't mind, but I would have loved to play it with friends finally.

Thanks all!