Well that sucks!

[UnderseaLcpl]

Wow. I'm sorry about all that, Freiwillige. It just plain sucks.

Originally Posted by Freiwillige

So now I am in this awkward situation. My heart says I love her, My brain says throw her out. She says she doesn't know what she wants and that she was not really happy.

She lies. What she is really saying is that she isn't happy and hasn't found what she wants yet, but she'd like you to support her until she can figure out a way to leave you in the dust.

This is not a failure on your part. It happens all the time in relationships where one person isn't ready or makes a hasty commitment because they are insecure and/or co-dependant. Both men and women seem to have this problem, but in my experience women are much worse about it. I've seen a lot of bad men in my life but even the worst have yet to match the cruelty that some women I have met have demonstrated. This one guy in my platoon had his wife leave him and take everything he owned while he was in Iraq. How f'ed up is that!?

Stand up on your own two feet, and get back in the game if you still want to play. I don't know you personally, but it is clear that you are an intelligent and well-spoken guy. I have little doubt that you will have much difficulty in finding someone else. There are a lot of women out there who would give anything for a guy like you, assuming that you're not without any kind of physical appeal.

I had both of my female roommates look at some of your posts, and both said they'd like to meet you. How I'm going to explain that you can't make a date is something else again, but the study confirms that your personality alone, even within this limited medium, has some appeal.

Kick that b*** to the curb and find someone who really appreciates you for who you are. Your personal worth is not dependant upon what some obviously unfaithful chick thinks of you. You can do better than that.

Whatever your decision, I wish you good luck, my friend.