The Plight of the Single Man

Mikey_Wolf · 10-07-07, 03:38 AM

Do you know, my night out with the lads last night really hammered home to me just what it means to be single. No matter where I looked, I saw couple everywhere. All my mates, have girlfriends. All the girls I ever get to know, have boyfriends, in short. I think I must be one of a dying breed, the single man.

I don't usually object to being single, in fact its sort of good, responsibility is cut in two pretty much. However, there is one thing wrong with me. I can talk to any man, hell, even men I don't like or whatever, I'll even have a scrap with two men at the same time... but, put a girl in front of me and say speak. And I struggle, its like I don't know what to do.

I have no luck at all with the girls. All the girls I've ever fancied either don't want to know, or, already have a boyfriend. Anyways, this is not me having a whine. But, I think if you are single nowadays you are a rarity. I could be wrong but, seems like everywhere you go you see couples. I have to confess I'm beginning to change my views now, and I think I would love to have a girlfriend.

baggygreen · 10-07-07, 06:26 AM

Its lovely coming home from work and leaving the boss there. Course, as soon as you walk in the door you got another boss to please.

More single blokes than ladies in the world i believe, but you'd just be noticing it cos you feel you're missing out.

My advice? Dont stress it. If you do, you're only gonna make things worse for yourself. You seem young enough, you got plenty of time, no need to stress. besides, stressing will make you look desperate, and women can smell desperation from miles away. When you talk to em, dont look at them as potential partners, just friends to be made. Anything else will come after a friendship is established.

The Munster · 10-07-07, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Mikey_Wolf

Do you know, my night out with the lads last night really hammered home to me just what it means to be single. No matter where I looked, I saw couple everywhere. All my mates, have girlfriends. All the girls I ever get to know, have boyfriends, in short. I think I must be one of a dying breed, the single man.

I don't usually object to being single, in fact its sort of good, responsibility is cut in two pretty much. However, there is one thing wrong with me. I can talk to any man, hell, even men I don't like or whatever, I'll even have a scrap with two men at the same time... but, put a girl in front of me and say speak. And I struggle, its like I don't know what to do.

I have no luck at all with the girls. All the girls I've ever fancied either don't want to know, or, already have a boyfriend. Anyways, this is not me having a whine. But, I think if you are single nowadays you are a rarity. I could be wrong but, seems like everywhere you go you see couples. I have to confess I'm beginning to change my views now, and I think I would love to have a girlfriend.

Well, you're not alone in this one. Well, you are but you know what I mean. Have found couples stand out more in Summer than any other Season, dunno why that is :hmm:
I wouldn't worry about it, if you're inclined to embark on a relationship then it's just a matter of time until you do

Jimbuna · 10-07-07, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Mikey_Wolf

Do you know, my night out with the lads last night really hammered home to me just what it means to be single. No matter where I looked, I saw couple everywhere. All my mates, have girlfriends. All the girls I ever get to know, have boyfriends, in short. I think I must be one of a dying breed, the single man.

I don't usually object to being single, in fact its sort of good, responsibility is cut in two pretty much. However, there is one thing wrong with me. I can talk to any man, hell, even men I don't like or whatever, I'll even have a scrap with two men at the same time... but, put a girl in front of me and say speak. And I struggle, its like I don't know what to do.

I have no luck at all with the girls. All the girls I've ever fancied either don't want to know, or, already have a boyfriend. Anyways, this is not me having a whine. But, I think if you are single nowadays you are a rarity. I could be wrong but, seems like everywhere you go you see couples. I have to confess I'm beginning to change my views now, and I think I would love to have a girlfriend.

Hi Mikey

I remember a long while back (remember I'm 50 now) in those heady days of being young enough to experience a youthful hectic daily life. It was sometimes hard to keep all them balls in the air at the same time ie: drinking with the guys, hobbies, courting etc.
You know what ? Every time you had to give something up or sacrifice one priority for another.....What do you think was dropped ?
Courting....and what did I invariably start thinking for a while after ?
"I'll never find another girlfriend, I'll die old and lonely" yada yada yada

The plus side would be nights out with the guys on the drink and plenty of 'useless' advice...."There's plenty more fish in the sea"......"Your too young to be tied down"...."Come on out with us and we'll get blasted together"

There is always someone out there for everyone. Hell!! there's probably dozens of young women living in close proximity to you thinking similar thoughts.
If you are mindful to enter into a relationship it will happen as soon as you bump into your 'soul mate', believe me. I speak from personal experience.
There are too many women out there for there not to be a close match for you.
One of the secrets is.......don't rush in and make a mistake that could scar you for a long time. Be patient, choose carefully and enjoy the experience.
Most importantly of all........enjoy yourself in the meantime.

Good luck young sir.

All the best for the future

JALU3 · 10-07-07, 10:45 AM

Don't worry, once they hit their early 30's they start getting ancy, and start worring about their biological clocks and what not . . . afraid that they will die alone . . . then they will be more apt to a long-term relationship (maybe even marriage). However, the problem with that is . . . the "cream of the crop" will have already been taken off the market

. . . well . . . you can't have everything

Whatever you do . . . don't settle. Find someone who you want to be with, and who wants to be with you (not what they make you become). They say that who you choose to wed, or be your hetero-life partner determine 90% of how happy you will be with the rest of yourt life.

fatty · 10-07-07, 10:51 AM

On the other hand, you get to choose when to go to sleep, when to go out, when to stay in, what movie to see, how to spend your money, how long to play GWX, etc. etc. Relationships aren't all golden

antikristuseke · 10-07-07, 11:12 AM

One can take comfort in the statistics that there are more women than men.

kiwi_2005 · 10-07-07, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by jimbuna

Hi Mikey

I remember a long while back (remember I'm 50 now) in those heady days of being young enough to experience a youthful hectic daily life. It was sometimes hard to keep all them balls in the air at the same time ie: drinking with the guys, hobbies, courting etc.
You know what ? Every time you had to give something up or sacrifice one priority for another.....What do you think was dropped ?
Courting....and what did I invariably start thinking for a while after ?
"I'll never find another girlfriend, I'll die old and lonely" yada yada yada

The plus side would be nights out with the guys on the drink and plenty of 'useless' advice...."There's plenty more fish in the sea"......"Your too young to be tied down"...."Come on out with us and we'll get blasted together"

There is always someone out there for everyone. Hell!! there's probably dozens of young women living in close proximity to you thinking similar thoughts.
If you are mindful to enter into a relationship it will happen as soon as you bump into your 'soul mate', believe me. I speak from personal experience.
There are too many women out there for there not to be a close match for you.
One of the secrets is.......don't rush in and make a mistake that could scar you for a long time. Be patient, choose carefully and enjoy the experience.
Most importantly of all........enjoy yourself in the meantime.

Good luck young sir.

All the best for the future

I couldn't of said it better.

I just want to add. Keep ya zipper up mikey and wait till you find the right one, have fun but dont go jumping in bed with the first babe that gives you "that" look, if she gives you that look, my advice is to RUN!.

Get to know her, be friends then move from there, might sound corny but wait till your married.

Kapitan · 10-07-07, 01:31 PM

Not alone mikey my one left me 6 months ago.

CCIP · 10-07-07, 04:00 PM

I know exactly what you mean!

Especially when you get to a certain stage in life, being single like that really starts to get to you. It's certainly getting to me, a lot, and I wish I could offer some advice but I'm the one who needs it myself.

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Originally Posted by Mikey_Wolf

However, there is one thing wrong with me. I can talk to any man, hell, even men I don't like or whatever, I'll even have a scrap with two men at the same time... but, put a girl in front of me and say speak. And I struggle, its like I don't know what to do.

Funny, this is a complete opposite with me. I tend to "lock up" with guys much more so than with girls, but talking hasn't solved anything for me so far. I find it a lot easier to open up to women, maybe it's just the way I am. But like I said, talking has yet to get me anywhere - I may have gained me some female friends, and zero interest in me on their part

The fact that pretty much all of them are not single or are somewhat older than me (by a few years, which I guess in your 20s still counts for something) probably isn't helping.

Hang in there, that's all to be said here I guess! You're definitely not alone in this.

antikristuseke · 10-07-07, 04:19 PM

Havent really noticed that afew years count at my age (soon to be 21), but then again i havent been involved in any long relationship either. Anyway talking with women is not much different than talking with guys imo. Anyway what works for me is that for some reason they seem interested in talking with me so i have never had to put any concious effort into it, just go to a pub for a drink and see what happens from there. If nothing happens, fair ennough, i had a nice beer or ten with my mates but if something does, its a bonus.

sunvalleyslim · 10-07-07, 11:25 PM

Mike,
She will be there one day. And she will knock your socks off. You haven't found her yet, but she's there..............trust me..............Just be you..........

Dowly · 10-08-07, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Kapitan

Not alone mikey my one left me 6 months ago.

Few months back here.

The Avon Lady · 10-08-07, 02:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sunvalleyslim

Mike,
She will be there one day. And she will knock your socks off. You haven't found her yet, but she's there..............trust me..............Just be you..........

Just don't let her be she.

Camaero · 10-08-07, 02:55 AM

I am with you guys. I haven't had a whole lot of interest in long term relationships because.... Well, honestly because I wanted to spend my money having a little fun first. Now at 19 though, it is starting to get to me. I wouldn't mind having a woman in my life right about now.

10-07-07, 03:38 AM	#1
Mikey_Wolf Torpedoman Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: South Wales Posts: 114 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	The Plight of the Single Man Do you know, my night out with the lads last night really hammered home to me just what it means to be single. No matter where I looked, I saw couple everywhere. All my mates, have girlfriends. All the girls I ever get to know, have boyfriends, in short. I think I must be one of a dying breed, the single man. I don't usually object to being single, in fact its sort of good, responsibility is cut in two pretty much. However, there is one thing wrong with me. I can talk to any man, hell, even men I don't like or whatever, I'll even have a scrap with two men at the same time... but, put a girl in front of me and say speak. And I struggle, its like I don't know what to do. I have no luck at all with the girls. All the girls I've ever fancied either don't want to know, or, already have a boyfriend. Anyways, this is not me having a whine. But, I think if you are single nowadays you are a rarity. I could be wrong but, seems like everywhere you go you see couples. I have to confess I'm beginning to change my views now, and I think I would love to have a girlfriend. __________________ Proud Captain of U-37, U-138 (GWX 2), and U.S.S Devastator (Various mods)

10-07-07, 10:45 AM	#5
JALU3 Grey Wolf Join Date: May 2007 Location: 11SMS 98896 10565 Posts: 756 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	Don't worry, once they hit their early 30's they start getting ancy, and start worring about their biological clocks and what not . . . afraid that they will die alone . . . then they will be more apt to a long-term relationship (maybe even marriage). However, the problem with that is . . . the "cream of the crop" will have already been taken off the market . . . well . . . you can't have everything Whatever you do . . . don't settle. Find someone who you want to be with, and who wants to be with you (not what they make you become). They say that who you choose to wed, or be your hetero-life partner determine 90% of how happy you will be with the rest of yourt life. __________________ "The Federation needs men like you, doctor. Men of conscience. Men of principle. Men who can sleep at night... You're also the reason Section Thirty-one exists -- someone has to protect men like you from a universe that doesn't share your sense of right and wrong." -Sloan, Section Thirty-One

10-07-07, 01:31 PM	#9
Kapitan Sub Test Pilot Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: UK + Canada Posts: 7,130 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 7	Not alone mikey my one left me 6 months ago. __________________ DONT FORGET if you like a post to nominate it by using the blue diamond Find out about Museum Ships here: https://www.museumships.us/ Flickr for all my pictures: https://www.flickr.com/photos/131313936@N03/ Navy general board articles: https://www.navygeneralboard.com/author/aegis/

10-07-07, 11:25 PM	#12
sunvalleyslim Ace of the Deep Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles, Ca Posts: 1,142 Downloads: 267 Uploads: 0	Mike, She will be there one day. And she will knock your socks off. You haven't found her yet, but she's there..............trust me..............Just be you.......... __________________ Crew member/ decommission member TM2(SS)(SD) 3/68-7/70 DIESEL BOATS FOREVER USS SEGUNDO (SS398)

10-08-07, 02:55 AM	#15
Camaero The Old Man Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: USA, Massachusetts Posts: 1,477 Downloads: 18 Uploads: 0	I am with you guys. I haven't had a whole lot of interest in long term relationships because.... Well, honestly because I wanted to spend my money having a little fun first. Now at 19 though, it is starting to get to me. I wouldn't mind having a woman in my life right about now. __________________

10-07-07, 06:26 AM	#2
baggygreen Sea Lord Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canberra, ACT, Down Under (really On Top) Posts: 1,880 Downloads: 7 Uploads: 0	Its lovely coming home from work and leaving the boss there. Course, as soon as you walk in the door you got another boss to please. More single blokes than ladies in the world i believe, but you'd just be noticing it cos you feel you're missing out. My advice? Dont stress it. If you do, you're only gonna make things worse for yourself. You seem young enough, you got plenty of time, no need to stress. besides, stressing will make you look desperate, and women can smell desperation from miles away. When you talk to em, dont look at them as potential partners, just friends to be made. Anything else will come after a friendship is established.

10-07-07, 10:51 AM	#6
fatty The Old Man Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 1,448 Downloads: 10 Uploads: 0	On the other hand, you get to choose when to go to sleep, when to go out, when to stay in, what movie to see, how to spend your money, how long to play GWX, etc. etc. Relationships aren't all golden

10-07-07, 11:12 AM	#7
antikristuseke Silent Hunter Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Estland Posts: 4,330 Downloads: 3 Uploads: 0	One can take comfort in the statistics that there are more women than men.

10-07-07, 04:19 PM	#11
antikristuseke Silent Hunter Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Estland Posts: 4,330 Downloads: 3 Uploads: 0	Havent really noticed that afew years count at my age (soon to be 21), but then again i havent been involved in any long relationship either. Anyway talking with women is not much different than talking with guys imo. Anyway what works for me is that for some reason they seem interested in talking with me so i have never had to put any concious effort into it, just go to a pub for a drink and see what happens from there. If nothing happens, fair ennough, i had a nice beer or ten with my mates but if something does, its a bonus.