Its gone from bad to better I think

[Penelope_Grey]

Ok let it not be said I didn't try. I tried to sort things out with me friend from before, and I think I got somewhere with that. Anyway, she came up with the idea that we should meet up. So I said fine, and then she told me to bring my older brother along with me. So I thought oh this will be ok, and I brought Mikey along with me.

She spent the whole night outrageously flirting with him, and I know full well it was to get her own back because I lost my temper with her. I never realised how petty she could be before, either that, or I didn't want to realise it.

I tried so hard to ignore it, most of the night I did, she was no doubt hoping I would take her aside and tell her to lay off, I thought no. With just a look a raised eyebrow and a slight shake of my head, I was able to communicate to my brother to leave her well enough be. Message recieved and understood. She got nowhere.

To make matters worse, she was drinking and smoking as well. Which only served to baffle me and our other mate (who doesn't smoke at all, but drinks very lightly) who tagged along... as to how she could be so irresponsible when having a baby! Despite my feelings on the subject I was not going to rise to her baits.

I know I lost my rag with her and threw a lot of her problems back in her face, but I'm 19! I don't want to have to deal with this kind of stuff! At the end of the night, I told her that I would do whatever I could to help her, but I don't want to be the only one she relies on, its too much for me. And I also made it perfectly clear what she did to my brother to get to me was unfair and cruel, and told in no uncertain terms if she ever does it again, she is going to be sorry, because I won't stick around her anymore.

I think I was quite fair and came out of the situation well.

[bigboywooly]

You go girl


Glad you have reached a point you are happy to be at with her

And yes she is irresponsible but is all too common

[robbo180265]

From what you say,it sounds like you've done the right thing

Time to concentrate on yourself a bit more.

[Dowly]

Originally Posted by robbo180265

From what you say,it sounds like you've done the right thing

Time to concentrate on yourself a bit more.

Hear hear!

[GlobalExplorer]

From what I read here this is not friendship between you and her, but rather a mutual interest born out of loneliness.

That's why you obviously neither can't be together, nor without.

You should look for some real friend. Friends make things easier for each other, not harder.

I am not saying this to make you feel miserable, but it really sounds wrong, these destructive relationships.

[I-25]

well its good you got a bit better ground than last time. but still id say hang on and see what things lead to. try to help her as you said. and as you said your 19 and shouln't have to worry so much. live life to the max and have your fun! and i say this as one 19 year old to another

[Penelope_Grey]

Well I do have other friends. The other friend I mentioned in my original post, her and me have been friends since we were toddlers! LOL so we have come a long way together. But my pregnant tarty friend, how we got friendly is rather strange, in fact.... it doesn't make sense really. As it would happen, her dad owns an old car, my dad owns an old car and we used to see each other at these classic car shows till eventually I guess we just hit it off.

[HunterICX]

Smoking & Drinking and having a baby,

well she aint a proud mom, thats for sure, (if she was, she should have laid of the alcohol and Tabaco or at least reduce amount of cigarettes per day)
really, I'm feeling sorry for the kid inside already, hopefully I hope it doesnt turn out like I think it is going to be.

the way you 2 got together is indeed an unusual one, its like when 2 dads put their 2 kids into the same room alone together. and afterwards when she comes to your house, you are actually thinking ''Ow god not now.....'' but still you try to be kind to her as much as posible.

but still the friendship between you two is a thin line , I think even the smallest thing can break it.

anyway

Good luck girl

HunterICX

[I-25]

Hmm now that i remember i have a friend that i'v known ever since i was about 7 years old and latey he's been doing a hell of a job getting on my nerves (ran over my dog, pretends to be a know it all, doesnt payup, etc.) i even hide from him from time to time jajaja. but the point is that after about a month or 2 without seeing him i can fully tolerate him again! well at least for about 2 weeks :rotfl:

[Skybird]

Was zum Überfluss Worte machen,
was soll das?
Es steht die Sache
auf diesem Schwerte,
auf dieser Klinge allein.

Yosano Hiroshi (Tekkan)



After you struck with a sword, two things a very clear: the one half falls to the left side, and the other half to the right.

But possible that one does not want to admit that. That's when one starts to talk, forever, endlessly, on and on. Most of social life inside a circle of acquaintances is only about listening to that kind of talking.

Better going fishing.

[Skybird]

Originally Posted by Skybird

Better going fishing.

Chris Rea: Gone Fishing (from: Auberge, 1991)

I'm gone fishing
I got me a line
Nothing I do is gonna make the difference
So I'm taking the time

And you ain't never gonna be happy
Anyhow, anyway
So I'm gone fishing
And I'm going today

I'm gone fishing
Sounds crazy I know
I know nothing about fishing
But just watch me go

And when the time has come
I will look back and see
Peace on the shoreline
That could have been me

You can waste a whole lifetime
Trying to be
What you think is expected of you
But you'll never be free

May as well go fishing