Young Lives Snuffed Out By Fate

Krauter · 02-06-11, 10:25 PM

Just heard about this today. A 19 year old girl from my old high school (graduate a year before me) died yesterday out snowmobiling.

This just kind of hit me hard for some reason, thinking how young she was and how well though of she was in the community. This, as well as another young student who died earlier this year after a long battle with cancer mark two young lives snuffed out by fate that I have had the privilege of knowing.

http://www.windsorstar.com/news/Bell...771/story.html

Do what you will with this post, maybe post a story of someone you knew who just had that bad timing.

God bless,

Krauter

Chad · 02-06-11, 10:32 PM

My senior year before the first football game of the season, a player killed himself before the game, and he wasn't found until after the game had started.

A friend of mine all through High School had gotten a girl pregnant before his 21st birthday, and on his birthday he went out to a bar. Instead of having a designated driver he went alone and on his way back to his girlfriend he either passed out or fell asleep and slammed into a telephone poll. The car then caught fire and was burned up.

I didn't know her personally, but a girl from my town's neighboring high school died on the way to her High School Graduation in a car crash.

My condolences, but death is all around us whether we like it or not, there's no escape. I'll try to keep religion out of it, but it is best to to believe there is something more than just this life. That's what I believe.

Krauter · 02-06-11, 10:35 PM

Cheers mate, my condolences.

I don't know if religion has anything to do with it, but to me, it's just the thought of someone so young and having so much opportunity and potential ahead that gets cut short that's a shame.

Quote:

death is all around us whether we like it or not, there's no escape.

Ain't that the truth

Sad, but true.

Sailor Steve · 02-07-11, 12:32 AM

I'm sorry to hear it. When I was in 7th Grade the father of a kid in our class killed himself. In high school I read about a student who was killed in a car crash.

It will happen, and the older you get the more it will happen. Pretty much all you can really do is live with it, and hope it doesn't happen to anyone close to you.

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Originally Posted by Chad

...but it is best to to believe there is something more than just this life.

But what if you don't? Does believing it really help? I don't know.

yubba · 02-07-11, 07:44 AM

I have more lost freinds than live, too all who have lost ,

Betonov · 02-07-11, 08:00 AM

Lost one friend 3 years ago, commited suicide (21), just out of the blue. We never knew he was seeing a therapist.
We coined a saying, dark saying: the only time we can get the class together is on a funeral.

Platapus · 02-07-11, 08:20 PM

In the first 10 years after highschool, 11 in my senior class were already dead. Granted I came from a big highschool, but still. 11 is a pretty big number no matter how big your highschool is.

Freiwillige · 02-07-11, 09:24 PM

Yea thought's of your own mortality can make one feel helpless. I find a good way to deal with death is just to remind myself that everybody passes and it is the normal cycle of things.

I can think of two occasions in my time here that I almost found death, Once as a young pre-teen I was swimming at one of my good friends neighbors house. The houses were separated by a drainage ditch. My friend did not have a pool but his neighbor who was 10, 2 years younger than us did.

We swam all morning and then we decided that we were bored and wanted to eat and go skatebording so we left and went back to my friends house next door. We ate and took a nap on the couch watching tv and then woke up and went skateboarding. By afternoon we were blocks away by my house and around dinner time my family gave him a ride home. As we arrived we saw fire trucks, police cars, ambulance, helicopters you name it.

So we dropped him off and his parents were in the driveway watching the spectacle and I figured I would see him at school the next day.

I did not see him for almost a week, turns out that his ten year old friend and neighbor was brutally murdered by a homeless man in the very backyard we had just left. The back of the house faces the interstate and access road, so they assumed that the homeless man was wandering down the road and just hopped the fence and committed the crime. I found out later that we had just left not to long before the murder.

Years later as a teenager me and some friends went to go check out a newly discovered mineshaft in the AZ desert not far from Phoenix. AS we climbed down the steel service ladder there was a 4 foot jump one had to make to a side tunnel because that is where the ladder ended. But the tunnel still went down another 1,000 feet. They all jumped fine but as my turn came I landed right on the edge and was doing that cartoony thing where your trying to keep your balance and your arms are doing circles. I did that for what seemed like an eternity and I felt myself falling back towards the abyss when suddenly I regained my balance.

Life is a wild ride.

sharkbit · 02-08-11, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Freiwillige

Yea thought's of your own mortality can make one feel helpless. I find a good way to deal with death is just to remind myself that everybody passes and it is the normal cycle of things.

I can think of two occasions in my time here that I almost found death, Once as a young pre-teen I was swimming at one of my good friends neighbors house. The houses were separated by a drainage ditch. My friend did not have a pool but his neighbor who was 10, 2 years younger than us did.

We swam all morning and then we decided that we were bored and wanted to eat and go skatebording so we left and went back to my friends house next door. We ate and took a nap on the couch watching tv and then woke up and went skateboarding. By afternoon we were blocks away by my house and around dinner time my family gave him a ride home. As we arrived we saw fire trucks, police cars, ambulance, helicopters you name it.

So we dropped him off and his parents were in the driveway watching the spectacle and I figured I would see him at school the next day.

I did not see him for almost a week, turns out that his ten year old friend and neighbor was brutally murdered by a homeless man in the very backyard we had just left. The back of the house faces the interstate and access road, so they assumed that the homeless man was wandering down the road and just hopped the fence and committed the crime. I found out later that we had just left not to long before the murder.

Years later as a teenager me and some friends went to go check out a newly discovered mineshaft in the AZ desert not far from Phoenix. AS we climbed down the steel service ladder there was a 4 foot jump one had to make to a side tunnel because that is where the ladder ended. But the tunnel still went down another 1,000 feet. They all jumped fine but as my turn came I landed right on the edge and was doing that cartoony thing where your trying to keep your balance and your arms are doing circles. I did that for what seemed like an eternity and I felt myself falling back towards the abyss when suddenly I regained my balance.

Life is a wild ride.

Dude-that gave me the chills.

Somebody is looking out for you.

Sailor Steve · 02-08-11, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sharkbit

Somebody is looking out for you.

Or, sometimes you get the bear and sometimes the bear gets you.

Was somebody looking out for Waylon Jennings, or was him giving the Big Bopper his seat just random chance?

Herr-Berbunch · 02-08-11, 11:18 AM

Today was the funeral of a 19 year old who lived in my village, died of a brain tumour on 30th Jan - the day of his sister's birthday (and the day she went back to collage!). It was his second tumour and all was expected to go as well as the first!

His whole family are one of the nicest you'd ever meet, all the kids are exactly how you'd want your kids to be, no drugs, no fighting, not anti-social, but pleasant and outgoing - they'd play with my 2 year old daughter and chat to Betty, who is 85, when we all bumped into one another in our local fairtrade cafe!

Devastating, just devastating.

Freiwillige · 02-08-11, 11:46 AM

The point is that we are all riding a fine line between life and death everyday, The decisions we make can be one decision away from eternity.

Fate is a cruel mistress and she has a whip.

Armistead · 02-08-11, 12:18 PM

For me it's always easier to say fate is in control of these things, only way I can make sense out of it.

If some higher power is guiding death daily, scary thought.

sharkbit · 02-08-11, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Freiwillige

The decisions we make can be one decision away from eternity.

How true. We tell our kids, life is about choices.

I didn't know the kid but 4 years ago last month, a 15 y.o kid and a friend tried to cross one of the major, 6 lane, east-west freeways here in Denver at 11 at night. The 15 yo made it across the west bound lanes but was struck by a car in the eastbound lanes. He was thrown 70 feet back into the westbound lanes. His buddy made it across.
My wife and I were coming back from a event we attended for my wife's work. I was driving westbound in the left lane and hit the body laying in the lane. I never saw him until the last second. Even if I had time, I was in traffic and couldn't swerve or brake.
We pulled off about a quarter mile from the scene and called 911. Needless to say, it was pretty messy.

Pretty bad experience. One wrong choice and so many lives changed. I still think about that night.

Freiwillige · 02-08-11, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by sharkbit

How true. We tell our kids, life is about choices.

I didn't know the kid but 4 years ago last month, a 15 y.o kid and a friend tried to cross one of the major, 6 lane, east-west freeways here in Denver at 11 at night. The 15 yo made it across the west bound lanes but was struck by a car in the eastbound lanes. He was thrown 70 feet back into the westbound lanes. His buddy made it across.
My wife and I were coming back from a event we attended for my wife's work. I was driving westbound in the left lane and hit the body laying in the lane. I never saw him until the last second. Even if I had time, I was in traffic and couldn't swerve or brake.
We pulled off about a quarter mile from the scene and called 911. Needless to say, it was pretty messy.

Pretty bad experience. One wrong choice and so many lives changed. I still think about that night.

That had to be traumatic for you.

02-06-11, 10:32 PM	#2
Chad ACE Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Kansas City Posts: 1,274 Downloads: 60 Uploads: 0	My senior year before the first football game of the season, a player killed himself before the game, and he wasn't found until after the game had started. A friend of mine all through High School had gotten a girl pregnant before his 21st birthday, and on his birthday he went out to a bar. Instead of having a designated driver he went alone and on his way back to his girlfriend he either passed out or fell asleep and slammed into a telephone poll. The car then caught fire and was burned up. I didn't know her personally, but a girl from my town's neighboring high school died on the way to her High School Graduation in a car crash. My condolences, but death is all around us whether we like it or not, there's no escape. I'll try to keep religion out of it, but it is best to to believe there is something more than just this life. That's what I believe. __________________

02-07-11, 08:20 PM	#7
Platapus Fleet Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 19,377 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 0	In the first 10 years after highschool, 11 in my senior class were already dead. Granted I came from a big highschool, but still. 11 is a pretty big number no matter how big your highschool is. __________________ abusus non tollit usum - A right should NOT be withheld from people on the basis that some tend to abuse that right.

02-08-11, 11:18 AM	#11
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	Today was the funeral of a 19 year old who lived in my village, died of a brain tumour on 30th Jan - the day of his sister's birthday (and the day she went back to collage!). It was his second tumour and all was expected to go as well as the first! His whole family are one of the nicest you'd ever meet, all the kids are exactly how you'd want your kids to be, no drugs, no fighting, not anti-social, but pleasant and outgoing - they'd play with my 2 year old daughter and chat to Betty, who is 85, when we all bumped into one another in our local fairtrade cafe! Devastating, just devastating. __________________

02-07-11, 07:44 AM	#5
yubba Admiral Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: in a neighborhood near you Posts: 2,478 Downloads: 293 Uploads: 2	I have more lost freinds than live, too all who have lost ,

02-07-11, 08:00 AM	#6
Betonov Navy Seal Join Date: May 2009 Location: Slovenia Posts: 8,647 Downloads: 26 Uploads: 0	Lost one friend 3 years ago, commited suicide (21), just out of the blue. We never knew he was seeing a therapist. We coined a saying, dark saying: the only time we can get the class together is on a funeral.

02-07-11, 09:24 PM	#8
Freiwillige The Old Man Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Phx. Az Posts: 1,458 Downloads: 24 Uploads: 0	Yea thought's of your own mortality can make one feel helpless. I find a good way to deal with death is just to remind myself that everybody passes and it is the normal cycle of things. I can think of two occasions in my time here that I almost found death, Once as a young pre-teen I was swimming at one of my good friends neighbors house. The houses were separated by a drainage ditch. My friend did not have a pool but his neighbor who was 10, 2 years younger than us did. We swam all morning and then we decided that we were bored and wanted to eat and go skatebording so we left and went back to my friends house next door. We ate and took a nap on the couch watching tv and then woke up and went skateboarding. By afternoon we were blocks away by my house and around dinner time my family gave him a ride home. As we arrived we saw fire trucks, police cars, ambulance, helicopters you name it. So we dropped him off and his parents were in the driveway watching the spectacle and I figured I would see him at school the next day. I did not see him for almost a week, turns out that his ten year old friend and neighbor was brutally murdered by a homeless man in the very backyard we had just left. The back of the house faces the interstate and access road, so they assumed that the homeless man was wandering down the road and just hopped the fence and committed the crime. I found out later that we had just left not to long before the murder. Years later as a teenager me and some friends went to go check out a newly discovered mineshaft in the AZ desert not far from Phoenix. AS we climbed down the steel service ladder there was a 4 foot jump one had to make to a side tunnel because that is where the ladder ended. But the tunnel still went down another 1,000 feet. They all jumped fine but as my turn came I landed right on the edge and was doing that cartoony thing where your trying to keep your balance and your arms are doing circles. I did that for what seemed like an eternity and I felt myself falling back towards the abyss when suddenly I regained my balance. Life is a wild ride.

02-08-11, 11:46 AM	#12
Freiwillige The Old Man Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Phx. Az Posts: 1,458 Downloads: 24 Uploads: 0	The point is that we are all riding a fine line between life and death everyday, The decisions we make can be one decision away from eternity. Fate is a cruel mistress and she has a whip.

02-08-11, 12:18 PM	#13
Armistead Rear Admiral Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: on the Dan Posts: 10,880 Downloads: 364 Uploads: 0	For me it's always easier to say fate is in control of these things, only way I can make sense out of it. If some higher power is guiding death daily, scary thought.