Age differences in relationships

I say go for her if you can really connect, as I say: "A love is one soul in two bodies"

[breadcatcher101]

Yes, I fully intend to reslove my present relationship first, whether she does that to hers is up to her. Then we'll see. Who knows, she might find out the things I enjoy may bore her.

Until that time, we will be just friends.

[Shearwater]

For how long have you known her, and from what situations? I don't know whether I can offer any good advice here, but I think that thinking about that question could perhaps clear things up a little.

A lot of good points have been issued here. Personally, I would say that your first problem is not exactly the age difference. It's more the fact that you don't have a lot of friends, as you have stated. Be careful here.
Imagine you decide to pursue a relationship. If it works fine, then I think it'll be very sweet for you indeed. But if something goes wrong, whom do you have to turn to? From my personal experience I can tell you that a lack of friends (or only being unable to see them for a long while when you need them) can make failure in romantic matters much harder to bear. Also, personal unhapiness is not exactly a good starter. - Do not think about what she can give to you, but think about what you can give to her.

All that said, my advice would still be: Go for it if it feels right for you

[breadcatcher101]

We have known each other 5 months, we work at the same place, mostly talk at lunch by our selves.

I understand the need for friends, but look at the replies here. Who says I don't have any?

Anyway, my friends I had mostly would have said "go for it" with only the thrill of having such a younger woman, not the type of advice I would have seeked. You guys have done a much better job than they ever would have.

I the past I have had "true friends" but that has been so long ago, no idea where they are now.

I have to settle things with my present wife first. Next time she flares up for no reason would be the time to call it over for us.

By that time, if my young friend still feels the same way, we'll go from there.

If not, at least I will be free.

[AVGWarhawk]

My wife is 36 and I'm 44. Not quite the gap you are looking at but the difference makes no difference. I briefly read your post and stopped at 'having to take care for me when I'm an old man'. Come on, are you already thinking about that? Go, enjoy a good time with her and forget about what might happen. Be your own man and be in a relationship but still be independent.

I always make fun with my wife, she says I robbed the cradle. I say, no I got someone to push my wheel chair when I'm old and gray. Then I follow it up with, 'I do not care if you get a boyfriend when I'm wheel chair bound. Just feed me, change my drawers if I mess them and keep the drool off my chin.' Screw it, I'm having a great time!

Originally Posted by AVGWarhawk

My wife is 36 and I'm 44. Not quite the gap you are looking at but the difference makes no difference. I briefly read your post and stopped at 'having to take care for me when I'm an old man'. Come on, are you already thinking about that? Go, enjoy a good time with her and forget about what might happen. Be your own man and be in a relationship but still be independent.

I always make fun with my wife, she says I robbed the cradle. I say, no I got someone to push my wheel chair when I'm old and gray. Then I follow it up with, 'I do not care if you get a boyfriend when I'm wheel chair bound. Just feed me, change my drawers if I mess them and keep the drool off my chin.' Screw it, I'm having a great time!

Yeah well the height of the problem depends from your own (easy-going/hard-analysing type) attitude and face values you stand for..

Originally Posted by breadcatcher101

We have known each other 5 months, we work at the same place, mostly talk at lunch by our selves.

I understand the need for friends, but look at the replies here. Who says I don't have any?

Anyway, my friends I had mostly would have said "go for it" with only the thrill of having such a younger woman, not the type of advice I would have seeked. You guys have done a much better job than they ever would have.

I the past I have had "true friends" but that has been so long ago, no idea where they are now.

I have to settle things with my present wife first. Next time she flares up for no reason would be the time to call it over for us.

By that time, if my young friend still feels the same way, we'll go from there.

If not, at least I will be free.

I'm not that BIG expert in family life but I know something important too
For relationship to last three vital subjects from both sides are a must: Respect, Friendship and Passion.

I guess that all these problems that occur from a loooong time together are because there's a lack of refreshing things couples do together. All you need to do yourself or with wife is put the imagination to work and slightly push yourself towards the fruition of idea.

I guess it's something like middle-age crisis that happens to people, but hang in there it will fade away, and you will be thanking yourself later that you didn't do the silly thing with much younger woman. Everyone has to deal with their family problems inside the circle of the family. Good luck

[MothBalls]

Sounds just like a script straight from Jerry Springer.

Let me guess, you both live in trailer parks, have haircuts like Joe Dirt, and your current spouses are cousins you met at a family reunion. Sounds about right. Did I leave out the tattoos and piercings? So you came here looking for what? Approval? Someone to tell you it's OK? Well guess what <swings foot and plants a size 12 bootprint on both your arses>. You're both acting like idiots.

I guess this is where people like Springer and Dr. Phil get their guests. People like you two suffering from cranial-rectal inversion syndrome who don't have the common decency that god gave a goat. It's great that god gave man a brain and a penis. It's a shame he didn't give him enough blood to use both at the same time.

How many people are going to be hurt while you think with your genitalia?

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I'd suggest you seek professional help and read this.

[KG_Jag]

Assuming that you are in good ol' USA (or Canada) and/or that there are not major cultural differences from my reference point...

Take care of business at home first. If you don't want to be with your wife, resolving that is #1.

Make sure that she is single too before you consider proceeding. Lots of fish of all ages in the ocean.

If it's still a go (and all of this will put you months if not years down the road), take it slow. There are almost always generational differences with that kind of age gap--can rap co-exist with classic rock?

Let your big head control all major decisions, especially those involving money and property.

Spend enough time with each other to be sure before you even get near a Las Vegas wedding chapel.

Originally Posted by Contact

For relationship to last three vital subjects from both sides are a must: Respect, Friendship and Passion.

Mmm the Passion.

[Jimbuna]

I don't claim to be an absolute authority on relationships but I would avise you take one small step at a time. Only when you get over the initial attraction and really get to know a person will you be in a position to listen to your mind and your true feelings.

I would definitely end the present relationship though, before considering starting another.

[Jimbuna]