Its gone from bad to better I think

Penelope_Grey · 05-06-07, 05:18 PM

Ok let it not be said I didn't try. I tried to sort things out with me friend from before, and I think I got somewhere with that. Anyway, she came up with the idea that we should meet up. So I said fine, and then she told me to bring my older brother along with me. So I thought oh this will be ok, and I brought Mikey along with me.

She spent the whole night outrageously flirting with him, and I know full well it was to get her own back because I lost my temper with her. I never realised how petty she could be before, either that, or I didn't want to realise it.

I tried so hard to ignore it, most of the night I did, she was no doubt hoping I would take her aside and tell her to lay off, I thought no. With just a look a raised eyebrow and a slight shake of my head, I was able to communicate to my brother to leave her well enough be. Message recieved and understood. She got nowhere.

To make matters worse, she was drinking and smoking as well. Which only served to baffle me and our other mate (who doesn't smoke at all, but drinks very lightly) who tagged along... as to how she could be so irresponsible when having a baby! Despite my feelings on the subject I was not going to rise to her baits.

I know I lost my rag with her and threw a lot of her problems back in her face, but I'm 19! I don't want to have to deal with this kind of stuff! At the end of the night, I told her that I would do whatever I could to help her, but I don't want to be the only one she relies on, its too much for me. And I also made it perfectly clear what she did to my brother to get to me was unfair and cruel, and told in no uncertain terms if she ever does it again, she is going to be sorry, because I won't stick around her anymore.

I think I was quite fair and came out of the situation well.

bigboywooly · 05-06-07, 07:30 PM

You go girl

Glad you have reached a point you are happy to be at with her

And yes she is irresponsible but is all too common

robbo180265 · 05-07-07, 04:51 AM

From what you say,it sounds like you've done the right thing

Time to concentrate on yourself a bit more.

Dowly · 05-07-07, 05:02 AM

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Originally Posted by robbo180265

From what you say,it sounds like you've done the right thing

Time to concentrate on yourself a bit more.

Hear hear!

GlobalExplorer · 05-07-07, 07:07 AM

From what I read here this is not friendship between you and her, but rather a mutual interest born out of loneliness.

That's why you obviously neither can't be together, nor without.

You should look for some real friend. Friends make things easier for each other, not harder.

I am not saying this to make you feel miserable, but it really sounds wrong, these destructive relationships.

I-25 · 05-07-07, 10:55 AM

well its good you got a bit better ground than last time. but still id say hang on and see what things lead to. try to help her as you said. and as you said your 19 and shouln't have to worry so much. live life to the max and have your fun! and i say this as one 19 year old to another

05-06-07, 05:18 PM	#1
Penelope_Grey Sea Lord Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: UK Posts: 1,893 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	Its gone from bad to better I think Ok let it not be said I didn't try. I tried to sort things out with me friend from before, and I think I got somewhere with that. Anyway, she came up with the idea that we should meet up. So I said fine, and then she told me to bring my older brother along with me. So I thought oh this will be ok, and I brought Mikey along with me. She spent the whole night outrageously flirting with him, and I know full well it was to get her own back because I lost my temper with her. I never realised how petty she could be before, either that, or I didn't want to realise it. I tried so hard to ignore it, most of the night I did, she was no doubt hoping I would take her aside and tell her to lay off, I thought no. With just a look a raised eyebrow and a slight shake of my head, I was able to communicate to my brother to leave her well enough be. Message recieved and understood. She got nowhere. To make matters worse, she was drinking and smoking as well. Which only served to baffle me and our other mate (who doesn't smoke at all, but drinks very lightly) who tagged along... as to how she could be so irresponsible when having a baby! Despite my feelings on the subject I was not going to rise to her baits. I know I lost my rag with her and threw a lot of her problems back in her face, but I'm 19! I don't want to have to deal with this kind of stuff! At the end of the night, I told her that I would do whatever I could to help her, but I don't want to be the only one she relies on, its too much for me. And I also made it perfectly clear what she did to my brother to get to me was unfair and cruel, and told in no uncertain terms if she ever does it again, she is going to be sorry, because I won't stick around her anymore. I think I was quite fair and came out of the situation well. __________________ I SURVIVED THE FIRST EVER SUBSIM WEREWOLF HUNT - and... I actually won the game for the humans too!

05-06-07, 07:30 PM	#2
bigboywooly Rear Admiral Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Swindon, England Posts: 10,151 Downloads: 35 Uploads: 0	You go girl Glad you have reached a point you are happy to be at with her And yes she is irresponsible but is all too common __________________ My mediafire page http://www.mediafire.com/?11eoq19bq9r41

05-07-07, 07:07 AM	#5
GlobalExplorer Admiral Join Date: May 2005 Location: Berlin Posts: 2,015 Downloads: 165 Uploads: 0	From what I read here this is not friendship between you and her, but rather a mutual interest born out of loneliness. That's why you obviously neither can't be together, nor without. You should look for some real friend. Friends make things easier for each other, not harder. I am not saying this to make you feel miserable, but it really sounds wrong, these destructive relationships. __________________

05-07-07, 04:51 AM	#3
robbo180265 Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Brighton, England.Party capital of the south Posts: 2,255 Downloads: 126 Uploads: 0	From what you say,it sounds like you've done the right thing Time to concentrate on yourself a bit more.

05-07-07, 10:55 AM	#6
I-25 Commodore Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Bavaria, Germany Posts: 629 Downloads: 27 Uploads: 0	well its good you got a bit better ground than last time. but still id say hang on and see what things lead to. try to help her as you said. and as you said your 19 and shouln't have to worry so much. live life to the max and have your fun! and i say this as one 19 year old to another