I'm a GreyWolves virign... just installed

[Crawlerz]

hello ppl. this is my 1st post on THIS forum. so i have installed Grey Wolves. Wow!!! unbelievable!!! KUDOS TO ALL THE PPL THAT TOOK PART IN IT!!! it is amazing! am-a-zing!

but, ppl. questions--
--before installing i remembered to install the 1.4b patch. so i goto the site. get it, d/l it and then the installer says - i will now install v1.3. i say WHAAA? so i install anyway. in SH3 it said 1.4 w/o "b" despite it saying 1.3 in installer. the greywolves work fine. amazing actually.
--i go to command station (F2) and turn around to face my weapons guidence officer and i see that his map and the other (regular map) is crazy colored. is that because i have 16-bit desktop?
--i have not used a milkcow yet - i will probably have questions - or can you maybe tell me in simple language what to do now? (i have not installed SH2 commander yet - should i now? what to w/milkcows then? does anything change?)
--about the slooooooooooooooow reload times as dictated by greywolves. 12 sec??!! a bit much? no? i mean come on. can i tweak it in SH3 commander? or i shouldn't? do u think?
--about ships sinking - they now can sink when they want, right, i mean 30 min later when they get flooded, right, as dictated by greywolves? how do i know when a ship is dead? that question applies to torpedoes AS WELL AS to deckgun.
--about Ahead Flank - i think when i pressed it (5) the engine quit on me. do some Uboats go only to ahead full now? did greywolves change that?

if u could answer all/some q's! thank u!