mod confliction problem

Okay heres the situation, I have GWX 3.0 and SH3 Commander 3.2 and Random Weather Gen installed correctly. they work fine. same for torpedo damage v2

I download the Hitman Optics Mod, Life boat debris v4, and the DBSM and the fix for the DBSM. Finally got them unzipped. took them and put them in the MODS folder that JSGME works with installed them and went to play.

Where do I start.

first off Hitman Optics works, however my Peri view is messed up. its all black around the periscope (I was pretty sure that it was supposed to look like GWX 3.0?? I mean the stuff you need is there, flag ident. Ship book and the TDC stuff on the right, but then there is the periscope and its just black around that (Ill call it backround)

EDIT: I figured out the Hitman optics problem, apparently it conflicts with integrated orders and the open hatch mod, which is a bummer because I really liked both of those mods hmm maybe I wont use Hitman Optics at all then?? And still now clue on the sound problem, I even took the DBSM folder and renamed it Sound and got no sounds for a while then all stock sounds came through.

Second, my orders area is messed up. when I click on a Officer and click to give him an order (Ie Engineer, then propulsion) it looks like the normal game (4 large boxes in the center) however, in each box there was a picture in, its dividied into four (So for run silent, it shows say double knuckle port, periscope up, run silent, and open tube)

Next, My DBSM does not work at all. I still am hearing "Jawol Herr Kalauen and all the other stock sounds"

finally my lifeboat debris Idt is working either, debri (sp?) still comes up after a ship sinks but no lifeboats.

So help please?