Your views on

[Kapitan]

Marridge as in wedding getting hitched ect excuse the spelling

How do you view this old age ceramony is it really just a piece of paper ? or just a licence to surrender everything you own or what?

Or is it a means just to make some money?

Just your views on the matter please

And no flames !

[STEED]

Hang on just putting out the fire....................

Well I'm single, so no help there.

But in this modern day and age marriage seems to me that it holds no water with most people today who get married. I'm not saying all, but there are many who just think it's a piece of paper and that's it.

[Sailor Steve]

I was married for 11 years, and didn't regret a bit of it except for the ending.

[XabbaRus]

Well I made no money on my marriage and the Labs I think took away the Married Couples Tax allowance.

I think it is good, glad I did it and won't break it.

I just can't stand this whole, my partner crap, its either boyfriend r girlfriend or fiance/fiancee. Also what bugs me is one couple I know, "we are engaged but no plans to get married." Huh, then what is the point.

Also I don't get it when people have kids together but don't get married.

People are afraid to commit getting marriage is a sign of that commitment because getting out of it isn't cheap. Ok I'm sure there are people who have been divorced here and with good reason and I don't mean to upset them, I'm sure they wanted it to work. Sometimes it doesn't and its a genuine mistake though I know a few people who should never have got married but did. Kind of like Ross in Friends.

[Letum]

Well, ultimatly it is a legal agreement that people usualy attach emotions to.

What emotions people attach to it varys wildly.

What it shouldn't be is a contract to fidelity, if you need to get married for fidelity's
sake, then perhaps you don't have the best of relationships to start with.



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[Kapitan]

Me personally i have no plans to get married, but no doubt that will change, its also like i dont want kids either but again that can change.My friend who was married for 7 years unwrapped his divorce papers for his christmas present last christmas, i wonder what he going to get for his birthday.

[Tchocky]

Originally Posted by Letum

Well, ultimatly it is a legal agreement that people usualy attach emotions to.

What emotions people attach to it varys wildly.

What it shouldn't be is a contract to fidelity, if you need to get married for fidelity's
sake, then perhaps you don't have the best of relationships to start with.

3k posts! Subsim demands nudity!

[STEED]

Originally Posted by Tchocky

3k posts! Subsim demands nudity!

You can not be serious.

[Tchocky]

Originally Posted by STEED

You can not be serious.

I remember Letum posting about another forum he frequents where that's a tradiition every time someone breaks a thousand posts. At least I think it was Letum.
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[Letum]

Originally Posted by Tchocky

I remember Letum posting about another forum he frequents where that's a tradiition every time someone breaks a thousand posts. At least I think it was Letum.
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Quite right!
How could I miss the 3k mark?
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[Kapitan_Phillips]

Originally Posted by Kapitan

Marridge as in wedding getting hitched ect excuse the spelling

How do you view this old age ceramony is it really just a piece of paper ? or just a licence to surrender everything you own or what?

Or is it a means just to make some money?

Just your views on the matter please

And no flames !

This wouldnt in any way be related to you wanted to move to the US, would it?

[Skybird]

Usually I would not pay too much attention to how two people arrange the way in which they wish to live together. But once there are children of these two, I find it a good idea to make it somewhat more binding and obligatory by law to stay together and care for the children, and make it less easy to split apart. Thats the idea why families are under special protection by the state and the laws: the children. For the same reason I am strictly against equalizing homosexual partnerships to heterosexual marriages. Couples eventually produce children by their own, and to raise kids is an enomous enterprise. Homosexual partnerships do not compare to these risks, efforts, and longterm commitmeents to protect some vulnerable (while small) people. That political correctness these days has led to attempts to give an impression that such relations equal the social value and deserve special protection of hetero couples (who potentially always must be considered to produce children), shows how idiotic and perverted PC in this regard is.

That is also the way the German constitution sees it, and mentions it. People who argue against the special status of families and want to relativise it regarding homosexual relations being turned into "marriages", do not understand the importance this institution has for our social communities. You marry for the sake of planned or possibly, accidentally produced children - not for tax reliefs, or social repuation for yourself being gay or lesbian. That's how it has been since long time, and i think that is how it should be.

Not discriminating homosexuals - yes. Hetero-marriages and the same legal status for marriages between homos, like for normal families - no, I totally oppose it. And in no way I see that as discrimination. I am not discriminated myself for not having dark but blond hair, even if I would have preferred the dark hair.

I would mourn about the egoism and stupditiy that express themselves in the number of divorces, and the many young women raising kids all alone. do you really need to jump into bed with every first ooportunity stranger, must you really share your bed without taking precautionary measures when you live solo, or are all so young? Toomoften people come togteher that in no way seem to match, and short time later they divorce again. This kind of behavior and thoughtlessness illustrates unripe minds even if the people are already 25 or 30 or older, and a lacking sense of commitment ans responsibility. Sexual revolution? nice and well, but it also lead to massive dose of socially subsidized egoism - and the community should help and pay for this kind of thoughtlessness. Somebody having a new partner every three weeks should not be admired or labelled "cool", but should be expelled , or having had a serious word with in order to clean jis sick or unripe mind - it depends on the single case. That V"I"Ps give so bad examples in these regards, nevertheless are admired as idols, certainly is not helpful. In the end it all shows how degenerated out precious Western social communties have become, if these precious special social communties more and more are unable to make sure that people are being raised and become adult in a climate that would educate them accordingly regarding that they are better prepared and somewhat immune to act that selfishly and stupidly. If you accept idiots being idols for your kids, do not wonder if your kids become idiots themselves. This you will not cure neither by endless oh so wellmeaning softtalking pedagogic efforts nor by endless migration badly -edcuated patriarchalic people from different cultures that live by the the principles of male chieftains tyrannizing their families at home - both wife and sons. both things just make sure that coditions become constantly worse, while educational and social elites leave and head for better places in other countries, or even continents.

[kiwi_2005]

Marriage been there done that, Next!

You got to work at it, like any realationship, just dont let boredom settle in.

These are wise words from a total failure when it comes to marriage :p

[AVGWarhawk]

I've been married for 14 years. Got two munchkins as a result. Relationship is good and not boring. It does take work. Got to keep in mind that people do not change. If she is a certain way while you date, she will be the same after marriage. Don't think you'll change someone, it just does not happen. I certainly do not miss the dating game and bar hopping. And like everything else, you got to give a little to get a little.

[Chock]

Just passed my seventh wedding anniversary a couple of weeks ago (22nd December).

You have to be sure that it's really what you want, that's for sure, and even then it's still something of a gamble, because who can say for sure what they want in 10 or 20 years' time? My marriage works because we make a good team, forget all that true love will see you through bollocks, that's okay, but it's not enough, you have to be sure you can have a good time when the shine wears off the 'honeymoon period' of your relationship. And you have to share things as well as have your own space and interests too. There are sacrifices to be made, but if you make sacrifices in equal measure, then it's no hardship.

Better make sure you've sewn your wild oats first though, so if you still like the idea of banging anything that could fog a mirror, then it's too early for you to consider it:rotfl:

Chock