This Is Why I Don't Date Girls...

[Texas Red]

FYI I am not gay, I'm just venting my frustration with women

So recently, I decided to try and start a relationship with a girl at my school. She is rather shy and I'm basically carrying the entire conversation. I had feelings for her, and I think she did too actually. Then all hell broke loose.

On Friday night I receive a text from her friend (let's call her S) saying that my crush (let's call her C) likes me. Of course, I am suspicious at first since I have been duped in the past, and then I get on a video call with S and C, S loudly says C likes me, which then C says "SHUT UP". Well, I spill my beans, and guess what? It's a trick. I find this out and say some nasty stuff, which then C and S start apologizing, I forgive them and we reconcile.

Then, as Friday night is ending, C is sending me some positive signals, so I think all is going well.
On Saturday I proceed to question S and C as to whose idea it was. And you know what bullcrap I get? I never said anything, it must have been you. and I show them the screenshots I took of that conversation and they repeat the same thing, and every single time I ask them who said it, they said "It was you." One time S told me that she doesn't like talking to people, and I was wondering who sent this and so I ask C if it was her (since they were at S's home that night) and I get the same She never said it, you did I then ask them if they were trying to imply something to me, which then S says I'm trying to say I am dead, dead serious. Now they are trying to avoid my questions and are playing games with me.
Sunday and Saturday are the repeats of the same thing, and on Sunday I get some more positive signals from C, I hope for the best on Monday and go to bed.

On Monday she is again playing mind games with me as I try to develop a relationship with her. I am thinking about letting go but I do not want to give up just yet, so I have this raging internal debate that disrupts my home life. Finally, after having a talk with my counselor I send C a long message describing why I am leaving this relationship. My main points are: 1, you are playing mind games with me and I still have not received any clarity from what happened on Friday. 2, You are causing serious amounts of emotional troubles for me with these games, and so it is not a healthy relationship, then I also send her all the screenshots I have of her and her friend saying it was me who said what they said to me. I gave her a nice kick in the gut and blocked her, I also said if she wanted to remain, friends, that she was to go through S to try to get me to unblock her. After I sent all of this, her last message she sent me before I blocked her was "Boy" (which usually means I am doing something stupid, which I wasn't) Now that the ball is in my court and I have control I finally get them to play by my terms.

S immediately texts me saying that "C wants to be friends, so unblock her." and I said, "Not until I know who's idea it was and why you were saying it was me who said that C liked me."

I say, "It wasn't me who said that C liked me." And y'know what S says? "I know, I was joking." I wish I could show you the screenshots as to how I knew they were trying to get past my questions and play with me. I said some pretty nasty stuff along the lines of "That was a horrible joke you prick, look what happens when you pull stunts like this!!!"
Classic man-user, " I was just joking".

I then said that C would have to talk to me at school. And S tells me that C said "Boy no". Then I said "Well then guess what? she doesn't want to be friends. If she is only willing to be friends over text and not in real life at school then she is using me." Then S says "C doesn't like talking to people, sooo" which I then say "Wouldn't you say that communication is important to having a friendship?" and she says, "No, me and C talk in morse code." I then said "Oh really, so you are joking when you say she doesn't like talking to people?" and I get a definitive "No" from S.


Then I finally ask "Who's idea was it?" S says, "It wasn't C's fault." and then I say "Oh really then, who's fault is it?" and then S says "Your mom." Which I then give up and say "Alright, bye to each of you. I give up, see what your little games do to people? Not cool." I then proceeded to take screenshots of the chat so that way I could defend myself if need be. Finally, after all that was over, I remove S and C and block them. Now my life is peaceful.

In short:
My crush and her friend play mind games with me and then act all childish when I call them out on it, and when I leave my crush she desperately tries to get me back. But they are gonna use me again so I leave them.


I won't date girls for awhile now, lol.

[Buddahaid]

Yikes, glad I'm an old fart. I've no advice beyond don't let it get the best of you as there will be other women.

Secretly I've always wondered what would happen if guys just stopped falling all over themselves trying to impress women and collectively just ignored them.

[Texas Red]

Originally Posted by Buddahaid

Yikes, glad I'm an old fart. I've no advice beyond don't let it get the best of you as there will be other women.

Secretly I've always wondered what would happen if guys just stopped falling all over themselves trying to impress women and collectively just ignored them.

yeah that’s what i did. there are other kens out there. Sometimes i just want to ignore all the women in my grade, they can be a little annoying.

it’s pretty much over now, let’s just see if she says anything at school or over email to me.

[Rockstar]

lol you're on too them. Take 'S' on a date that will get 'C' mad at her. Then while they're fighting each, you dump them both. WINNER!

[Reece]

I think you're a glutton for punishment!! I would have left C after a couple of days of trying to figure her out.
Don't let the immaturity of some spoil it for you, there is an old saying "Plenty of fish in the sea".
All the best for the future!!

[Sean C]

Originally Posted by El Whacko

let's call her C

Yes, let's.



Forget her, man. You will look back on this and kick yourself for how much time you've wasted already. There is a nice, beautiful girl out there who wants to have a real relationship with you. Don't keep her waiting. Find her. And don't stop [for too long] until you do.

[vienna]

Originally Posted by Rockstar

lol you're on too them. Take 'S' on a date that will get 'C' mad at her. Then while they're fighting each, you dump them both. WINNER!

Uh,...

Rockstar is really Charlie Sheen...?...









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[Platapus]

Some advice from an Old Guy:


If there is one thing that all women have in common is that they are all different. Clearly, this woman was not the one for you at this time. One down, that leaves about 3,000,000,000 other women out there.


I am sorry this happened to you but I am also glad that you recognized the situation soon.

[Texas Red]

Thank you guys, i’ve pretty much moved on now. Yes there are plenty of other fish in the sea, and i will find one. She was a nasty barracuda though, yuck.

Rockstar, that would be a good idea only if they still liked me, i’m pretty sure they hate my guts now and are looking for revenge. I wonder what rumors will be spreading at school, lol.

thank you all for the advice though, seriously.

[Jimbuna]

The real fun is experienced whilst trying to find the right one.

[Texas Red]

Originally Posted by Jimbuna

The real fun is experienced whilst trying to find the right one.

pretty much, lol.

[Jeff-Groves]

Originally Posted by Jimbuna

The real fun is experienced whilst trying to find the right one.

For your sake I hope the Lady of the Manor doesn't see that post!

[Commander Wallace]

Originally Posted by Jeff-Groves

For your sake I hope the Lady of the Manor doesn't see that post!

Jim isn't afraid. He is a hearty breed. But, in case I'm wrong. This is for you Jim. It's the man song





lyrics for those not of the English vernacular.


Ladies and Gentlemen,
The Man Song!
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
I don't take no crap from anybody
[else but you]
I wear the pants around here
[when I finish with your laundry]
Coz I'm a guy you don't wanna fight
[When I say "Jump", you say "Yeah right!"]
I'm the man of this house
[until you get home]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)


What I say goes around here
[right out the window]
and I don't wanna hear a lot of whining
[so I'll shut up]
The sooner you learn who's Boss around here
[The sooner you can give me my orders, dear]
Coz I'm Head-Honcho around here
[but it's all in my head]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
And I can have sex anytime
[that you want it]
Coz I'm a man who has needs
[but there not that important]
And don't expect any flowers from me
[Coz if I'm not mistaken you prefer jewelry]
I'm the King of my castle
[when you're not around]


He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
And I'll drink and watch sports whenever I wanna
[get in trouble]
And I'll come home when I'm good and ready
[to sleep on the couch]
Coz a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do
[And I'm gonna do what you tell me to]
Because I'm Top dog around here
[but I've been neutered]
(He's the man!)
(He's the man!)
(You the man!)

[Jimbuna]

Originally Posted by Jeff-Groves

For your sake I hope the Lady of the Manor doesn't see that post!

She probably wrote it wnen I was out

[AVGWarhawk]

All three are not worth your time or effort. None are dating material nor marriage material for that matter. You deserve better.

C has failed the dating game miserably.

Become a gray rock and ghost them. Don't do the pick me dance. It is a weak move and seen as such.