Stressful month in real life

fireftr18 · 02-27-18, 09:40 PM

You all may have noticed my absence, or not. It's been a couple weeks since I've been on the forum. Real life took over and hit me hard. First, my mother went in the hospital and stayed for three weeks. During that time, we found out she had lung cancer. She was sent home and was improving, then a week later, worsened. She went into the hospital again, for breathing trouble. She had fluid in her lung cavity and needed assistance breathing. We were thinking, drain the fluid, and she'll be fine. Her lung didn't re-inflate, and she continued to worsen. We put her in hospice a week later, and she passed away after few days. Her funeral was Friday, February 9. The following Monday, my wife went into the hospital. We're thinking the stress and eating bad was what caused that. She stayed in for a week. She's home and okay now. On top of that, helping clean out my mother's house. I'm finally able to make the time to be able to get back to my Subsim friends.

One thing I did think about sitting in tiny hospital rooms for a month. Just sitting in them, I felt a little claustrophobic. I can't imagine being stuck in a submarine for 6 months at a time.

Onkel Neal · 02-27-18, 09:54 PM

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. You've been through a lot.

August · 02-27-18, 10:56 PM

I can feel your pain Brother. I just lost my own mother this past summer.

Reece · 02-27-18, 11:43 PM

My wife's mother passed away last night, 94, after a long battle.
My wife now has the all the arrangements to do. So yes I/we feel for you.

Please accept my condolences, all the best.

Reece.

HW3 · 02-28-18, 01:20 AM

I'm sorry to hear that, you have my condolences.

Eichhörnchen · 02-28-18, 04:18 AM

So sad for you, buddy... thank heavens your wife is okay. I've still got that one to face one day.

Same goes for you and your missus, Reece

Schroeder · 02-28-18, 04:56 AM

I'm so sorry for you. As someone who had to watch his father fading away in a hospital for 8 days I can feel for you.

Jimbuna · 02-28-18, 05:33 AM

Deepest condolences to you both.

u crank · 02-28-18, 06:10 AM

Sorry to hear about this fireftr18 and Reece. My condolences to you both.

Catfish · 02-28-18, 07:33 AM

Sorry to hear that. My condolences, to both of you!

Commander Wallace · 02-28-18, 09:51 AM

I'm very sorry fireftr 18, Reece and August for your collective losses. My family's deepest condolences to you all. Hopefully fireftr, you and your wife will be able to work through things and your wife will soon be on the mend. I'm not sure when you lost your father, Schroeder but condolences to you as well.

A friend of ours and his family lost his mom 2 weeks ago. She was in hospice as well and we spent a weekend and 4 weekday nights with the family at the hospice center trying to help and support them through things.

Our friend's mom really was a grand lady and we will all miss her.

This really has been a bad month for many.

Prayers for all of you.

vienna · 02-28-18, 02:15 PM

My deepest condolences to both of you, fireftr18 and Reece and to your families...

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Reece · 02-28-18, 06:02 PM

Thank you all very much for your warm wishes, I really appreciate it.

fireftr18 · 02-28-18, 09:05 PM

Thank you everyone for the kind words of support. Especially to you Reece, for taking the time to send a message. My condolences to you, August, and Reese.

Armistead · 02-28-18, 11:53 PM

Went through the same with my mother but it was pulmonary fibrosis, she went into the hospital with pneumonia, released too early I think, right back in, this time for over a month, 3 weeks in ICU and doctors said so much lung damage even the next cold could kill her. We had several back and forth nights it was close and she pulled through, but finally didn't. Just a year after that, same with my father basically with COPD, heavy smoker...pneumonia hit and we did hospice with him for about 3 months and he passed. My mom begged me to kill her the night she died hours later, choking on lung fluid, it just crushed me to watch. Obvious there are few words that matter, but thinking of you and although seldom here these days, good to always see you around, miss a lot of my old friends. Ever need to talk, look me up.

02-27-18, 09:40 PM	#1
fireftr18 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,528 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 0	Stressful month in real life You all may have noticed my absence, or not. It's been a couple weeks since I've been on the forum. Real life took over and hit me hard. First, my mother went in the hospital and stayed for three weeks. During that time, we found out she had lung cancer. She was sent home and was improving, then a week later, worsened. She went into the hospital again, for breathing trouble. She had fluid in her lung cavity and needed assistance breathing. We were thinking, drain the fluid, and she'll be fine. Her lung didn't re-inflate, and she continued to worsen. We put her in hospice a week later, and she passed away after few days. Her funeral was Friday, February 9. The following Monday, my wife went into the hospital. We're thinking the stress and eating bad was what caused that. She stayed in for a week. She's home and okay now. On top of that, helping clean out my mother's house. I'm finally able to make the time to be able to get back to my Subsim friends. One thing I did think about sitting in tiny hospital rooms for a month. Just sitting in them, I felt a little claustrophobic. I can't imagine being stuck in a submarine for 6 months at a time. __________________ Of all the forms of Martial Arts, Karaoke causes the most pain!

02-27-18, 09:54 PM	#2
Onkel Neal Born to Run Silent Join Date: Jan 1997 Location: Cougar Trap, Texas Posts: 21,383 Downloads: 541 Uploads: 224	Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. You've been through a lot. __________________ SUBSIM - 26 Years on the Web

02-27-18, 10:56 PM	#3
August Wayfaring Stranger Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 23,197 Downloads: 0 Uploads: 0	I can feel your pain Brother. I just lost my own mother this past summer. __________________ Flanked by life and the funeral pyre. Putting on a show for you to see.

02-27-18, 11:43 PM	#4
Reece CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Down Under Posts: 34,688 Downloads: 171 Uploads: 0	My wife's mother passed away last night, 94, after a long battle. My wife now has the all the arrangements to do. So yes I/we feel for you. Please accept my condolences, all the best. Reece. __________________ *Sub captains go down with their ship!*

02-28-18, 01:20 AM	#5
HW3 Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Gresham Oregon Posts: 6,574 Downloads: 458 Uploads: 0	I'm sorry to hear that, you have my condolences. __________________ "Some ships are designed to sink...others require our assistance." Nathan Zelk

02-28-18, 04:18 AM	#6
Eichhörnchen Starte das Auto Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: The Fens Posts: 17,372 Downloads: 5 Uploads: 0	So sad for you, buddy... thank heavens your wife is okay. I've still got that one to face one day. Same goes for you and your missus, Reece __________________

02-28-18, 04:56 AM	#7
Schroeder Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Banana Republic of Germany Posts: 6,170 Downloads: 62 Uploads: 0	I'm so sorry for you. As someone who had to watch his father fading away in a hospital for 8 days I can feel for you. __________________ Putting Germ back into Germany.

02-28-18, 05:33 AM	#8
Jimbuna Chief of the Boat Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: 250 metres below the surface Posts: 190,473 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 13	Deepest condolences to you both. __________________ Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. Oh my God, not again!!

02-28-18, 06:10 AM	#9
u crank Old enough to know better Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Prince Edward Island Posts: 11,744 Downloads: 136 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear about this fireftr18 and Reece. My condolences to you both. __________________ “Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.” ― Arthur C. Clarke

02-28-18, 07:33 AM	#10
Catfish Dipped Squirrel Operative Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: ..where the ocean meets the sky Posts: 17,765 Downloads: 38 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear that. My condolences, to both of you! __________________ >^..^<*)))>{ All generalizations are wrong.

02-28-18, 09:51 AM	#11
Commander Wallace Navy Seal Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Under the sea in an Octupus garden in the shade Posts: 5,294 Downloads: 366 Uploads: 0	I'm very sorry fireftr 18, Reece and August for your collective losses. My family's deepest condolences to you all. Hopefully fireftr, you and your wife will be able to work through things and your wife will soon be on the mend. I'm not sure when you lost your father, Schroeder but condolences to you as well. A friend of ours and his family lost his mom 2 weeks ago. She was in hospice as well and we spent a weekend and 4 weekday nights with the family at the hospice center trying to help and support them through things. Our friend's mom really was a grand lady and we will all miss her. This really has been a bad month for many. Prayers for all of you. Last edited by Commander Wallace; 02-28-18 at 10:09 AM.

02-28-18, 02:15 PM	#12
vienna Navy Seal Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Anywhere but the here & now... Posts: 7,711 Downloads: 85 Uploads: 0	My deepest condolences to both of you, fireftr18 and Reece and to your families... <O> __________________ __________________________________________________ __

02-28-18, 06:02 PM	#13
Reece CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Down Under Posts: 34,688 Downloads: 171 Uploads: 0	Thank you all very much for your warm wishes, I really appreciate it. __________________ *Sub captains go down with their ship!*

02-28-18, 09:05 PM	#14
fireftr18 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,528 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 0	Thank you everyone for the kind words of support. Especially to you Reece, for taking the time to send a message. My condolences to you, August, and Reese. __________________ Of all the forms of Martial Arts, Karaoke causes the most pain!

02-28-18, 11:53 PM	#15
Armistead Rear Admiral Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: on the Dan Posts: 10,880 Downloads: 364 Uploads: 0	Went through the same with my mother but it was pulmonary fibrosis, she went into the hospital with pneumonia, released too early I think, right back in, this time for over a month, 3 weeks in ICU and doctors said so much lung damage even the next cold could kill her. We had several back and forth nights it was close and she pulled through, but finally didn't. Just a year after that, same with my father basically with COPD, heavy smoker...pneumonia hit and we did hospice with him for about 3 months and he passed. My mom begged me to kill her the night she died hours later, choking on lung fluid, it just crushed me to watch. Obvious there are few words that matter, but thinking of you and although seldom here these days, good to always see you around, miss a lot of my old friends. Ever need to talk, look me up. __________________ You see my dog don't like people laughing. He gets the crazy idea you're laughing at him. Now if you apologize like I know you're going to, I might convince him that you really didn't mean it.