Moving, or not?

Herr-Berbunch · 04-18-13, 10:41 AM

For those that don't know my home situation, I'm married with one little girl and two step kids (11 and nearly 16). They spend precisely half the week with us and half with their dad and his wife (and her two kids, and intermittently his little girl from another relationship), it's been this way for about 8 years now and all parties are used to it and quite like it.

So it was a shock yesterday to get a call from the missus to say that the kids' dad and wife was moving, and the kids want to go with them!

Where to?

Devon.

That's over 300 miles away.

So we invited all involved around for a cuppa and a chat. The wife doesn't want to have a fight over this, she's always maintained the moral high ground since her divorce, and she doesn't want to force the kids to stay here if they don't want to, as they'd just end up resenting us. In the little gathering we agreed that we'd let them go as long as they spent every day of every school holiday with us.

About six months or so ago the wife and I vaguely contemplated moving somewhere else, but the reasonableness inside my wife (that can be really annoying sometimes) said that we couldn't move the kids away from their dad. Oh the irony.

Today, in work, I got an email from the wife with a link to a job for her, quite well paid, near where the kids will be moving to. So I've spent all afternoon looking at jobs and houses in that area. We wouldn't be moving until maybe August but it can't hurt to look now.

Flippin' Devon. Hope the broadband's good down there!

Oberon · 04-18-13, 10:46 AM

Devon's a nice place, hope your bike has got some good gears on it though because I hear the hills can be brutal.

Good luck on the job hunting though, I haven't looked at the market for a while but I hear a lot of doom and gloom stories about it.

Herr-Berbunch · 04-18-13, 11:09 AM

Haha, the first thing I looked up was the local elevations, from a flat-ish Lincs. it's going to be a shock.

Plenty of jobs listed on the jobcentre plus website or whatever it's called now, some I can even do. Failing that there is always bar work or that hotel malarky - anyone can do that

AVGWarhawk · 04-18-13, 11:32 AM

Whatever the case sir, luck favors the prepared. Looking ahead now is a great idea. I hope is all works out to everyone's advantage.

Oberon · 04-18-13, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Herr-Berbunch

Haha, the first thing I looked up was the local elevations, from a flat-ish Lincs. it's going to be a shock.

Plenty of jobs listed on the jobcentre plus website or whatever it's called now, some I can even do. Failing that there is always bar work or that hotel malarky - anyone can do that

Careful, as soon as they get humanoid robots the hotel industry will dry up over night

Still, at least you'll be able to understand the locals from your experience with the Norfolk accent, there's not a great deal of difference between the yokels in Norfolk and the yokels in Devon and Summerset

raymond6751 · 04-18-13, 12:51 PM

God bless and good luck. Family first, all the rest is just set decoration.

BossMark · 04-18-13, 02:10 PM

Dont forgot to checkout your local pub and bookies

and the very best of luck to you and your family

Oberon · 04-18-13, 03:30 PM

Oh, that reminds me, The Laffin Pig at Dawlish, if you're in the area give it a try, tell Dave and Jacky that Jamie from Aldeburgh sent you.

Herr-Berbunch · 04-18-13, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Oberon

Oh, that reminds me, The Laffin Pig at Dawlish, if you're in the area give it a try, tell Dave and Jacky that Jamie from Aldeburgh sent you.

Funny you should mention Dawlish, loving a house there.

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-...-38495671.html

Oberon · 04-18-13, 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Herr-Berbunch

Funny you should mention Dawlish, loving a house there.

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-...-38495671.html

Good location for the Primary school, bath looks a little small, but you can use the shower anyway. Certainly one to consider.

Within your price range I presume?

Reece · 04-18-13, 07:06 PM

The things we do, or rather have to do!!

I hope all works out well, but you don't have to move next door.

Cheers.

fireftr18 · 04-18-13, 07:13 PM

Good luck on your move. There may be a higher reason for this terrific opportunity.

Mork_417 · 04-19-13, 12:50 AM

That's a nice looking place. I hope everything works out for you guys.

Jimbuna · 04-19-13, 06:36 AM

Great to see the kids are at the forefront of everything...I wish you and the family every success and happiness

04-18-13, 10:41 AM	#1
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	Moving, or not? For those that don't know my home situation, I'm married with one little girl and two step kids (11 and nearly 16). They spend precisely half the week with us and half with their dad and his wife (and her two kids, and intermittently his little girl from another relationship), it's been this way for about 8 years now and all parties are used to it and quite like it. So it was a shock yesterday to get a call from the missus to say that the kids' dad and wife was moving, and the kids want to go with them! Where to? Devon. That's over 300 miles away. So we invited all involved around for a cuppa and a chat. The wife doesn't want to have a fight over this, she's always maintained the moral high ground since her divorce, and she doesn't want to force the kids to stay here if they don't want to, as they'd just end up resenting us. In the little gathering we agreed that we'd let them go as long as they spent every day of every school holiday with us. About six months or so ago the wife and I vaguely contemplated moving somewhere else, but the reasonableness inside my wife (that can be really annoying sometimes) said that we couldn't move the kids away from their dad. Oh the irony. Today, in work, I got an email from the wife with a link to a job for her, quite well paid, near where the kids will be moving to. So I've spent all afternoon looking at jobs and houses in that area. We wouldn't be moving until maybe August but it can't hurt to look now. Flippin' Devon. Hope the broadband's good down there! __________________

04-18-13, 11:09 AM	#3
Herr-Berbunch Kaiser Bill's batman Join Date: May 2010 Location: AN72 Posts: 13,203 Downloads: 76 Uploads: 0	Haha, the first thing I looked up was the local elevations, from a flat-ish Lincs. it's going to be a shock. Plenty of jobs listed on the jobcentre plus website or whatever it's called now, some I can even do. Failing that there is always bar work or that hotel malarky - anyone can do that __________________

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BossMark Fleet Admiral Join Date: May 2011 Location: Leeds, West Yorkshire Posts: 15,272 Downloads: 278 Uploads: 0	Dont forgot to checkout your local pub and bookies and the very best of luck to you and your family __________________ Never trust the Tories look what Thatcher and Major did in the 80s and 90s and look what the wicked witch May is doing now doing now

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Reece CINC Pacific Fleet Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Down Under Posts: 34,688 Downloads: 171 Uploads: 0	The things we do, or rather have to do!! I hope all works out well, but you don't have to move next door. Cheers. __________________ *Sub captains go down with their ship!*

04-18-13, 10:46 AM	#2
Oberon Lucky Jack Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 25,976 Downloads: 61 Uploads: 20	Devon's a nice place, hope your bike has got some good gears on it though because I hear the hills can be brutal. Good luck on the job hunting though, I haven't looked at the market for a while but I hear a lot of doom and gloom stories about it.

04-18-13, 11:32 AM	#4
AVGWarhawk Lucky Jack Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In a 1954 Buick. Posts: 28,253 Downloads: 90 Uploads: 0	Whatever the case sir, luck favors the prepared. Looking ahead now is a great idea. I hope is all works out to everyone's advantage.

04-18-13, 03:30 PM	#8
Oberon Lucky Jack Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 25,976 Downloads: 61 Uploads: 20	Oh, that reminds me, The Laffin Pig at Dawlish, if you're in the area give it a try, tell Dave and Jacky that Jamie from Aldeburgh sent you.

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fireftr18 Ocean Warrior Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,528 Downloads: 77 Uploads: 0	Good luck on your move. There may be a higher reason for this terrific opportunity. __________________ Of all the forms of Martial Arts, Karaoke causes the most pain!

04-19-13, 12:50 AM	#13
Mork_417 Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: DB-15 Posts: 851 Downloads: 263 Uploads: 0	That's a nice looking place. I hope everything works out for you guys. __________________ Heading to AM49.(U-553)

04-19-13, 06:36 AM	#14
Jimbuna Chief of the Boat Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: 250 metres below the surface Posts: 190,461 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 13	Great to see the kids are at the forefront of everything...I wish you and the family every success and happiness __________________ Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. Oh my God, not again!!