So...I've been dumped.

[Sledgehammer427]

While I was away from home nonetheless. I saw it coming, as always, and as always I thought I could do something to fix it.
I don't want to explain anything, but apparently my psychological profile says I'm basically emotionally dependent on a girl. I just need some support, I consider you all my good friends and right now I could use some help.

[Gerald]

sorry to hear it, can you give a short briefing about what happened

[Sledgehammer427]

she and I liked each other for about 3 years, I could never conjure up the cajones to ask her out or even tell her that I liked her, and back in November I asked her out while she was in Finland on foreign exchange (some members may recall I mentioned her "ferret hunting") and she and I got close on skype until she came home in july.

She apparently loves me and one of her host brothers (in that sense, no she didn't cheat on me and apparently I asked her out before they did anything) It's tearing her apart it seems, and she just needed to be single so she can figure things out.
her mom pushes her to do so much, I wasn't going to see her often, and it's ingrained in my her to find a guy who has something he's going to do with his life, I just got my high school diploma and I'm taking a little break before moving on to college. things like that don't happen overnight and I can't do anything to prove it.

[Gerald]

It sounds like she is in a crossroads in life, and I do not mean that she does not love you but she might want to think about what you want together, and need some time to think, but do not jump to conclusions now

[Gerald]

Do you live together, or in the vicinity?

[Happy Times]

So her mom has no objection for her to date a Finnish guy and maybe move here?
Being so young you would think it would be important to keep her close to home.
These things usually come and go at that age, not saying sometimes they do last.

[Takeda Shingen]

Originally Posted by Sledgehammer427

While I was away from home nonetheless. I saw it coming, as always, and as always I thought I could do something to fix it.
I don't want to explain anything, but apparently my psychological profile says I'm basically emotionally dependent on a girl. I just need some support, I consider you all my good friends and right now I could use some help.

Hi Sledge. Right now you're at a crossroads. The next 12 months are going to involve a large series of changes. Your old friends are going to slowly slip away to be replaced by new ones. By next September, you're going to be in a new place, surrounded by new people who will see the world in ways that you have not thought of. Really, it is a magical time, and I mean that sincerely.

What the most important thing for anyone at your age to do is to learn to be happy with and by yourself. I know that this advice sounds quaint, like a Hallmark card, but I feel the advice is sound. We spend so much of our young lives being connected and dependant on the other that we become uncomfortable with solitude. True self-comfort will never remove the sting from love gone bad, but it will give you the strength to endure, and will serve as a platform to show off your best self, your most attractive traits. In other words, people are always the most comfortable with the people who are the most comfortable with themselves. This relationship was not the one, but you set the stage for that future connection.

Of course, Mrs. Takeda would argue that what I wrote was a load of nonsense and that I was a shallow, meager loser before she met me. She might be right, and she'll probably smack me if she reads this.

[nikimcbee]

Good thing, you'll be having such a good time at the subsim meet, you'll forget all about her!

[Sledgehammer427]

Originally Posted by nikimcbee

Good thing, you'll be having such a good time at the subsim meet, you'll forget all about her!