I'm Back!

bookworm_020 · 08-13-10, 05:35 AM

Hi All!

I'm back after a break away from here. It was due to the breakdown of my marriage.
My wife has suffered with depression and anxiety issues for a number of years, with addictive behavior thrown in for good measure.

For the last two years it's been getting worse, despite a lot of help and support of many people. It came to a head just before Christmas when my wife was sectioned and placed in a hospital over Christmas. After coming out she was still fragile and then went into a rehab to deal with alcohol and drug issues (over the counter pain killers).

During this time of section to rehab she took up smoking and seeing another person at the hospital she had been sectioned with (he was in their for trying to smoke half of Australia's pot production)

Given the choice of staying with me or going with cretin (my name for this low life), she chose cretin. He came out of the hospital at the end of March (he had been there since early December) saying to her he was a changed cretin. Within 2 months he has drained her of $5,000 and got her knocked up. He lives on a disability pension and what money he can sponge of his dad (who is well off)

She now lives with her folks, who suffer with cancer, has no job (she lost it due to reading material she wasn't ment to) and is planning to keep the kid. She is still seeing cretin after breaking up with him twice.

I'm just finishing up the settlement process of our separation (she collects the last of her stuff tomorrow! Amen!!!)

Oh, and just to make it interesting, I also passed all my tests and exams to become a train driver. With a 93% average in all exams and no resits.

My Motto for most of this year has been "one day at a time", some of those days have been longer than usual!

Other than that, nothing much has been happening

Well I got that off my chest, so back to my usual posts of saying something about nothing!

papa_smurf · 08-13-10, 06:01 AM

Welcome back

Schroeder · 08-13-10, 06:54 AM

Welcome back.

Congratulations on passing your...er, would that be called a drivers licence for trains?

Jimbuna · 08-13-10, 07:08 AM

Welcome back....it should be all positive progress from now on.

I wish you every success

mookiemookie · 08-13-10, 07:18 AM

You've been through a lot and it sounds like you're holding up well. Welcome back!

jumpy · 08-13-10, 07:19 AM

Sorry to hear about that fella. Seems like there's a lot of it about (or maybe it's just me...)

Quote:

Originally Posted by bookworm_020

My Motto for most of this year has been "one day at a time", some of those days have been longer than usual!

I hear that

I guess I ought to be glad my ex only had the depression and not the drug addiction hehe.

Hope all goes well for what you got lined up for the future.
I look at it like this: without that baggage hanging around, the odds should be in my favour

oh, yeh, in case you didn't already know 'nobody ever leaves teh subsimz'.

STEED · 08-13-10, 07:34 AM

I too came back this year a couple of months back, welcome back.

Takeda Shingen · 08-13-10, 07:37 AM

Welcome back, Bookworm. I'm very sorry to hear of the time you had. Here's to better times ahead.

AVGWarhawk · 08-13-10, 07:39 AM

bookworm...most days you just got to keep on getting up! Looks like you have done your fair share of getting up! Good luck with your future endevours.

TarJak · 08-13-10, 08:12 AM

Mate, sorry to hear you've had such a rough time. If you every feel the need to go for a beer just drop me a PM.

From the sounds of it you have survived and started to come out the other end of the tunnel.

All the best and hope things keep getting better for you.

Welcome back.

frau kaleun · 08-13-10, 09:07 AM

Welcome back, and here's to better and happier days ahead.

HunterICX · 08-13-10, 09:52 AM

Welcome back Bookworm!

Let's hope things will be more pleasant from now on

HunterICX

Platapus · 08-13-10, 02:44 PM

Sorry to hear all that, but glad you are taking care of what needs taken care of. That's what adults do.

Great news on your train training

Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum

- some people have been whining about the President
- some people have been whining about the economy
- some people have been whining about congress
- some people have been whining about America in general
- some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general.

Welcome back, now you are up to speed.

Takeda Shingen · 08-13-10, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Platapus

Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum

- some people have been whining about the President
- some people have been whining about the economy
- some people have been whining about congress
- some people have been whining about America in general
- some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general.

That's pretty accurate.

Ducimus · 08-13-10, 03:09 PM

Bookworm, i can relate to the first half of your story. I know how that portion goes quite well. Enjoy single life for awhile, it's an amazing relief to have that burden lifted. Personally i didn't realize how much of a burden my "ex" (never married her thank god) was until she was gone. Then i sat there wondering why I put up with her for so long.

08-13-10, 05:35 AM	#1
bookworm_020 Navy Seal Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Sinking ships off the Australian coast Posts: 5,966 Downloads: 1 Uploads: 0	I'm Back! Hi All! I'm back after a break away from here. It was due to the breakdown of my marriage. My wife has suffered with depression and anxiety issues for a number of years, with addictive behavior thrown in for good measure. For the last two years it's been getting worse, despite a lot of help and support of many people. It came to a head just before Christmas when my wife was sectioned and placed in a hospital over Christmas. After coming out she was still fragile and then went into a rehab to deal with alcohol and drug issues (over the counter pain killers). During this time of section to rehab she took up smoking and seeing another person at the hospital she had been sectioned with (he was in their for trying to smoke half of Australia's pot production) Given the choice of staying with me or going with cretin (my name for this low life), she chose cretin. He came out of the hospital at the end of March (he had been there since early December) saying to her he was a changed cretin. Within 2 months he has drained her of $5,000 and got her knocked up. He lives on a disability pension and what money he can sponge of his dad (who is well off) She now lives with her folks, who suffer with cancer, has no job (she lost it due to reading material she wasn't ment to) and is planning to keep the kid. She is still seeing cretin after breaking up with him twice. I'm just finishing up the settlement process of our separation (she collects the last of her stuff tomorrow! Amen!!!) Oh, and just to make it interesting, I also passed all my tests and exams to become a train driver. With a 93% average in all exams and no resits. My Motto for most of this year has been "one day at a time", some of those days have been longer than usual! Other than that, nothing much has been happening Well I got that off my chest, so back to my usual posts of saying something about nothing! __________________ "There is always one person in any organization who knows whats going on, That person must be fired"

08-13-10, 06:01 AM	#2
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08-13-10, 06:54 AM	#3
Schroeder Navy Seal Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Banana Republic of Germany Posts: 6,170 Downloads: 62 Uploads: 0	Welcome back. Congratulations on passing your...er, would that be called a drivers licence for trains? __________________ Putting Germ back into Germany.

08-13-10, 07:08 AM	#4
Jimbuna Chief of the Boat Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: 250 metres below the surface Posts: 190,461 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 13	Welcome back....it should be all positive progress from now on. I wish you every success __________________ Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something. Oh my God, not again!!

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mookiemookie Navy Seal Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 9,404 Downloads: 105 Uploads: 1	You've been through a lot and it sounds like you're holding up well. Welcome back! __________________ They don’t think it be like it is, but it do. Want more U-boat Kaleun portraits for your SH3 Commander Profiles? Download the SH3 Commander Portrait Pack here.

08-13-10, 07:34 AM	#7
STEED Lucky Jack Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Down Town UK Posts: 27,695 Downloads: 89 Uploads: 48	I too came back this year a couple of months back, welcome back. __________________ Dr Who rest in peace 1963-2017. To borrow Davros saying...I NAME YOU CHIBNALL THE DESTROYER OF DR WHO YOU KILLED IT!

08-13-10, 07:37 AM	#8
Takeda Shingen Navy Seal Join Date: Mar 2000 Posts: 8,643 Downloads: 19 Uploads: 0	Welcome back, Bookworm. I'm very sorry to hear of the time you had. Here's to better times ahead.

08-13-10, 07:39 AM	#9
AVGWarhawk Lucky Jack Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In a 1954 Buick. Posts: 28,253 Downloads: 90 Uploads: 0	bookworm...most days you just got to keep on getting up! Looks like you have done your fair share of getting up! Good luck with your future endevours. __________________ “You're painfully alive in a drugged and dying culture.” ― Richard Yates, Revolutionary Road

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TarJak Fleet Admiral Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 17,052 Downloads: 150 Uploads: 8	Mate, sorry to hear you've had such a rough time. If you every feel the need to go for a beer just drop me a PM. From the sounds of it you have survived and started to come out the other end of the tunnel. All the best and hope things keep getting better for you. Welcome back.

08-13-10, 09:07 AM	#11
frau kaleun Rear Admiral Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Skyri--oh who are we kidding, I'm probably at Lowe's. Again. Posts: 12,706 Downloads: 168 Uploads: 0	Welcome back, and here's to better and happier days ahead.

08-13-10, 09:52 AM	#12
HunterICX Rear Admiral Join Date: May 2006 Location: Malaga, España Posts: 10,750 Downloads: 8 Uploads: 0	Welcome back Bookworm! Let's hope things will be more pleasant from now on HunterICX __________________

08-13-10, 02:44 PM	#13
Platapus Fleet Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 19,360 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 0	Sorry to hear all that, but glad you are taking care of what needs taken care of. That's what adults do. Great news on your train training Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum - some people have been whining about the President - some people have been whining about the economy - some people have been whining about congress - some people have been whining about America in general - some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general. Welcome back, now you are up to speed. __________________ abusus non tollit usum - A right should NOT be withheld from people on the basis that some tend to abuse that right.

08-13-10, 03:09 PM	#15
Ducimus Rear Admiral Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 12,987 Downloads: 67 Uploads: 2	Bookworm, i can relate to the first half of your story. I know how that portion goes quite well. Enjoy single life for awhile, it's an amazing relief to have that burden lifted. Personally i didn't realize how much of a burden my "ex" (never married her thank god) was until she was gone. Then i sat there wondering why I put up with her for so long.