SH3 or SH4

[fedone]

Hi guys,
I would like to ask you some suggestions about SH3 and SH4.
I have finally upgraded my computer which will allow me to play both games with maximum details. Unfortunately I don't have much free time so I decided to ask "the veterans" for a suggestion.
I am a fan of SH serie since his first, I played many hours with SH3 loving his crew/damage management as the best part of the game for me was the "hiding & escaping" part (yes, not firing and destroying but hiding and escaping).
I know that both titles have a lot of mods now days so my question is:
What I really love of those games is (in order): Crew/damage management, Graphic, game play/realism.
Which Title with which mod you would suggest me to enhance those points?
(i didn't mention SH5 cause I think it is too different from his predeccessors and has no crew management)

Thank you veru much for your time.