Sometimes there are no excuses to be found

Originally Posted by mapuc

My little sister is under education to become a social worker and her education includes in particular psychology

I have read some part of her books about psychology and I have heard her talking about videos they have seen

One of those video was about a grown up who had become a violent person

My sister told me that it was important to find out if something had happen to this person during it's childhood.

It was then I said to my sister
Sometimes there are no excuses to be found. It's typical psychology trying to find some kind of explanations.

There are always something there, my sister replied.

Me: Such as
Her: He or she could have been beaten as child
Me: There are thousand if not millions of children that have been beaten and are working great as grown-up, being nice to their wife, children and their fellow human beings.

Me: why can't you and the psychology not recognize that some people simply just likes to harm others.


Markus

I think your sister has the upper hand on that topic. While she tries to look for a possible explanation for the mans behaviour, you simply shrug your shoulders. If Im not mistaken, she did not say there must be something - but there could be.
And if there is something, there is a possibility for treatment.

You would be surprised how many of those thousands if not millions of grown-ups are indeed violent towards their family...

[mapuc]

Originally Posted by Nippelspanner

I think your sister has the upper hand on that topic. While she tries to look for a possible explanation for the mans behaviour, you simply shrug your shoulders. If Im not mistaken, she did not say there must be something - but there could be.
And if there is something, there is a possibility for treatment.

You would be surprised how many of those thousands if not millions of grown-ups are indeed violent towards their family...

I'm not saying that there ain't something there that could have been the trigger to their behavior as grown-up. I'm saying that sometimes there are no excuses to be found.

Let me give you an example. The last few days I have heard on radio and tv, expert trying to find some kind of things to why those two brothers made this terrible thing i Boston. Maybe there is nothing there, maybe they have been brainwashed by their religion.

Markus

Originally Posted by mapuc

maybe they have been brainwashed by their religion.

There you go?

Sure, maybe, sometimes, it is just like it is. I don't know. From my experiences, there is always something.

But if something really is the reason for someones behaviour... who knows?

[mapuc]

Originally Posted by Nippelspanner

There you go?

Sure, maybe, sometimes, it is just like it is. I don't know. From my experiences, there is always something.

But if something really is the reason for someones behaviour... who knows?

But that's no excuse to what they did and they shall have their punishment and so shall other people that do awful and forbidden things, whatever it may be.

And some of them need treatment in a special hospital.

Markus

No one said something about excuse (except you). I already corrected that. Psychology is not searching for excuses, but for explanations, there is a difference.

Of course they need to be put to justice, no matter what. No one questions that?

[mapuc]

Originally Posted by Nippelspanner

No one said something about excuse (except you). I already corrected that. Psychology is not searching for excuses, but for explanations, there is a difference.

Of course they need to be put to justice, no matter what. No one questions that?

In my country Sweden and Denmark, they do that

It's like-your poor human, have you been beaten a.s.o as child your are forgiven for what you have done, but please remember to not do so again.

That's why I wrote about finding excuses.

But maybe it's different in Germany.

Markus

Mh, na, not really. I know what you mean. They get away too often... and receive better treatment thatn the actual victim(s)... That is what drives me crazy...

Just... let us not go there

[Platapus]

Originally Posted by mapuc

I'm saying that sometimes there are no excuses to be found.

Which is completely different than there not being an excuse.

[Armistead]

I once dated a psychologist, but she turned out to be a nut that made a career out of it.

[Jimbuna]

Originally Posted by Armistead

I once dated a psychologist, but she turned out to be a nut that made a career out of it.

I married one