Hi Magpie (taking a break from AAA?
)
There have been some multi-player developments for TvT, see here:
http://www.panzersim.com/forums/index.php
See the thread for Steel Fury there as well. Currently only single player, SF has a good, if complicated, editor. And the developers Graviteam have at least drip fed some help and support. I started with TvT but spend a lot more time in SF now.
Anyway, give TvT a go and don't worry about the negative 'hype', there's definitely some fun to be had. Maybe we were a bit screwed but what the heck, life goes on