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Originally Posted by Betonov
I was working people 
The face might be a problem yes, I'm no Brad Pitt. I'll post my frontal when I'll loose an aditional 10kg. The problem with me is low self esteem (what the heck, I can go honest here, nobody knows me). I can talk myself out of a doorless room, I have a massage course completed, make a decent wage, handy around the house, don't drink/smoke/do drugs, cant stand soccer/football, don't care much about cars and I am one of the few men that remembers all the dates women want us to remember. I am the perfect man minus the good looks. But thats only good for 1/1000 women in this country and my low self esteem prevents me from making a contact with all of them to find the one that's not shallow. The red actually ''broke the ice'' when we met. And all due to the weight problem.
But, to make it up to you I'll post a picture of my leg on top of a rocky hill |
Dude, seriously. You are a
badass - look at that resume - you are doing things that lots of other people can't, because you wanted to learn how to do them, and do them right. That is the mark of a man. Forget worrying about your looks - stand up with your chin up, look the world in the eye and take that SoB for yourself.
The way you build self-esteem is to be the one in absolute control of everything you do, in such a manner that it shows in everything you do. Even if you're just walking down the street, walk like you OWN the street. Not with a punk attitude, just with the supreme confidence that you can handle it. Believe me, something that simple changes everything about how you approach the world and how the world meets you back. I'm serious - next time you're on a public street, make it a point to look a stranger in the eye as you pass them - not in defiance, but in the knowledge that you know ALL of what you know and are good at what you know.
And if you muck up? Own it, learn from it, and don't let the fact that you made a mistake prevent you from ever risking another. We learn from our mistakes - if we don't make 'em, we don't learn.
You opened up here, and were honest - that's a confident move, even if we don't "know" you - we do "sort of" know you. You risked something in a public place. That's bold. That's assertive.
So go do it again.