My mods after removing things the olce readme said were incompatible along with the torpedo and lifeboat mods...
GWX - English nav map and grid refs
GWX - Late war sensors
GWX - Lite harbor traffic
GWX - Das Boot movie
GWX - VIIC41 player sub - (I'm really not sure what that one does by the way, if someone could explain

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Just took those 6 alone in JGSME and loaded with SH3Commander and everything was perfect.
And then those I'm trying to add are
OLCE2
OLCE2 - Adjusted GWX2.1 Enhanced Damage Effects
OLCE2 - Fixed GWX 2.1 Ship Reflections
OLC GUI Special - this causes the above mentioned invisible torpedo problem... otherwise it works perfectly though.
I tried combinations and pretty much narrowed down the problem to OLCE2 beacause the uglyness persists if I load with it alone and none of the others. I guess that narrows down the problem but now how do I fix it.