[peterloo]

The problems revolving around the nukes is that most country feel that the other countries (esp. USA / UK) which has nukes uses different ways to stop them having any, using so called Non proliferation treaties or whatsoever, and this makes them feel unfairly treated.

Even if they have nukes, well, they dare not strike anyway. Even if Iran got a nuke, she dare not strike Israel, nor USA, for fear of a nuclear respiral and international intervention. They don't want to give an excuse to USA to direct all her ballistic missiles to their little country, do they?

Any talks are fruitless unless additional benefit can be offered and this benefit > that offered by having a nuclear weapon. In this way, the problem can be solved at ease, like the case of N. Korea.