Been married to the same woman for nearly 25 years now. Like life, it has its ups and downs, but I can honestly say that I've been more often happy than not, and we survived some pretty serious problems.
My Grandmother was married to same man for 50+ years and he made her life a living hell, but she stayed with him because she was raised in a culture that taught "marriage was for life, no matter what".
My sister is on her third partner, probably won't marry this one (the first two marriages didn't work out so well, obviously).
My oldest cousin is on her second marriage and this one will probably stick, at least if the kids from the first marriage don't drive them apart.
My middle cousin is on her third partner (maybe fourth) and her life is a total mess.
My youngest cousin is just recently married, but I expect this one to last.
My parents divorced when I was in college, so it didn't really impact me that much. It hit my sister pretty hard and messed her up pretty good.
On the other hand, my wife's parents stayed married until he passed away, despite some serious problems, which, IMHO, messed a couple of my sister-in-laws up pretty good.
My point is, there is no ONE right answer for everyone. It's not black or white. Like life, it's shades of grey.
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