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Originally Posted by GlobalExplorer

That can work out, but also make your life more miserable. What if you are not able to or just don`t want to? That way people often end up in the old vicious circle of feeling depressed because they are depressed.

Again it can work but you might start thinking "I must enjoy myself / I must have a date / I must be the complete opposite of what I am", and thats much worse then depression.

Don`t put impossible requirements on yourself. If people have problems and try to solve them by doing impossible things, they will break down under the pressure.

Therefore my advice is always to first get the machinery working again, through healthier food, sport, fresh air. People are not depressed because they are too stupid to enjoy life, but because their body is producing too many ill-feeling chemicals. And they are not doing themselves a favour by letting others push them into stressful situations.

I think you're overdoing it a bit there.

I'm not suggesting she join the circus. I'm saying go do something new. Sometimes pursuing a meaningful relationship is worthwhile. Sometimes you just aren't getting out often enough. Without being her shrink I can't assume anything about her.

All I know is sometimes people just get locked into dull monotony. Unless Penelope wants to confess to a B vitamin deficiency I can't go Homeopathic on her with my advice.:p

When I say resist doing the easy thing I mean instead of sitting at home on friday, go out. Instead of eating at the same restaurant, try some new place. Instead of meeting the same friends, call up one that you don't see very often.

Just shake it up. Don't do anything too crazy, just try and look outside your normal routine.

S'all I was saying.