Thank you all for your input. What worries me a bit is that there is very little middle ground. It seems either you give in, or you kick them out.
We charge rent, $200/month, which she pays dutifully. My wife will then turn around
every month and pay my daughter's $50 phone bill. I remind her we already pay for her wireless internet, car insurance, etc. etc.
Her universal response is; "well that is what parents do, now isn't it?"
And it is rather hard to counter that one I will admit (and I say this at the cost of having my chess skills berated once more by Aktungbby vis-a-vis "lack of counter moves"
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I would now like to address this post individually:
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Originally Posted by Commander Wallace
Sky kinda hit the nail on the head. With current economics / Inflation, rents have gone through the roof. Kids today would eat all their meals out. Then they complain they have no money to pay bills.
(1) This is so very very true. I don't get it. Her and the boyfriend eat out constantly...not bad food either, nice stuff. I often look in the fridge and the restaurant leftover boxes alone offend me. They are black and fancy. Only places that use black colored, fancy scripted leftover boxes are expensive restaurants.
So if my wife and I consider going to "Culver's" (for my European friends, Culver's is "fancy" McDonald's) as our date night, but my 20 year old daughter and her boyfriend go to "Chez Jacques" or whatever every Friday, and drop $100...I am harboring these fugitives...what kind of clown show has this become?
Kids today have very little in the way of life skills.
(2) I agree, did our school system fail us? I 100% believe it is a parent's job to teach a child right from wrong. But basic life skills? While parents are busy working, and paying taxes to their town, can't we expect something in return for dropping her off at school every day for 8 years?
If I had a son, I would send him to the service for 4 years. I would even let him pick the branch. Where do you send a daughter? You have to be more delicate maybe?
The economy and inflation has everything screwed up and more and more families are working and combining their resources just to get by.
Kids nowadays seem to use the economy as an excuse. They all have high paying jobs, scream 'Inflation, inflation!" and then spend enormous amounts of money on luxury goods. My wife and I looked in her "tackle box" of make-up once. My wife said; "oh its not bad, probably $500-$600"..I almost jumped out of the 2nd story window. Glass and all.
Her 23 year old boyfriend, who lives at home, showed me his "new laptop". It was a $2800 computer. Literally, more expensive than all my electronics combined. Kids are insane and I think this generation of children might be gaslighting us a little bit.
Good luck.
Thank you
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