Mine is pretty stable in this order, all of them you can find here. Had no crashes at all and there's no conflict between the files either.
Also I'm using the GWX mod and running H.Sie Hardcode fixes, if you don't intend on using the hardcode fixes, ignore the last one on the list. If do though, do it with a clean install before installing anything else.
LifeBoats&Debris_v4
Rbs1_SH4_Effects_GWX_30_71
Sh3_volumetric_clouds&fog_V2.2
Rubini´s Underwater dust&plancton v1
Waterstream+Exhaust Combi V2.3 for GWX3
M.E.P v5
M.E.P v5- VisualSensors for GWX3
Optional - FSF for MEP v5
Optional - ShipVanishingHull for MEP v5
Sobers 3D waves
Ricks_GWX_Rec_Man_Final
Damage Texture 1.0
Ahnenerbe WideGui 1920 x 1080 Final
Supplement to V16B1
You should check
this thread out too in case for more mods to try out.